to be annoyed that my Mum refuses to choose a Grandma name?

[Mirabelle77]

My ds has grandma and grandad on dh side and then my mums name and grandad seems wrong! She thinks being a grandma means she is old etc etc she is only 58 , I'm 33 not 16 so it's not like being a grandmother is a shock .

I think that your DC will choose their own name so I wouldn't worry. I know several grandmothers who just insist on their first name, it seems a bit odd to me, but maybe she would prefer it.

My mum was only 38 when I had DS 11 years ago - no way did she want to be granny or nana. She is just called by her name (also a julie, funnily enough). We are all used to it and don't find it strange at all. She doesn't love my children any less just because she doesn't want the title of granny/nana. Imo no-one should have to be called something they don't like.

My children call my mum Woo Woo. Personally, I find it excruciating, but hey, whatever.

My children call my mum Woo Woo. Personally, I find it excruciating, but hey, whatever.

YANBU bit weird for a child to call their GP by their first name imo. There's loads of alternatives. Maybe your DC should be encouraged to choose a name for her himself?

My DD picked my mum's name herself- Nan-Nan! She was about 10months old and it was her first word. Nan-nan is now Nanny (Nannnneeeeee!) Considering my mum used to hate the term nanny (something to do with goats ) she took it rather well.

How silly. When DD was tiny she couldn't say granny so she used to calll MIL "Diddy". I felt quite sad when she started being able to say granny.

Round here (South Yorkshire) children usually call their grandmothers "nannan"

I think that you are all overanalysing this.

Children will chose their own names- I called neither of mine granny neither did I call them their name. As a child I called one a variation on her dogs name (as a toddler i used to shout the dogs name as i arrived but got it wrong- the dog died before I was 4 and the name stuck) and the other xxxsma, xxx being my aunt who still lived at home.

To chose a foreign name or variation if you or they are not native speakers is the most pretentious tosh in my opinion.

To use a local dialect variation is great if that is the language used and the adult concerned or the child has chosen it.

Only the granny or the child has the right to decide on a name- it is their special relationship.

My first name doesn't sound right to use with Nanny, my second name has 'Bill' in it and I much prefer Nanny/Nannan (like Bunbaker said) so i'll be know as Nanny Billy, like them goats!

Really! Your Mum needs a fun name if nothing else.
YANBU

I am still a young Grandmar, but I love the name.
My Grandmother was strict and frightening and I always promised that when I grew up I would
be a 'nice' Grandmar.

i think your mum needs to be happy with whatevet her GC are going to call her.You don't want her to cringe everytime your dc addresses them

My late strange mother decided that she wanted to be called "Ninny" by her grandchildren, and pretended later that she didn't know it was a silly name. Maybe she was in shock at her new "aged" status as she became a grandmother twice over in about six weeks thanks to my sister and I both becoming pregnant within a few weeks of each other.

Nope, scrub that, she was being precious about herself.

I do understand something about the names/labels that get attached to us, but anyone like my mother who gets uptight about those names/labels is thinking about themselves rather than the new young people in their lives.

uptight! that's interesting, even my stepchildren think I am the most laid back person.......I have to be I'm married to their father!

and yes I am thinking of me, and what I like to be called.
doesn't make a scrap of difference to the children. they have a "grandma xxxxxx" and a "grannny xxxxx" and a "julie"

one of the children had a Princess party and I was proudly introduced "Princess Aurora meet my Julie"

she knows how much I love her, what she calls me doesn't matter to her.
I call her by her shortened name as she prefers it and she calls me by mine.

My children and my DSIS's call both our Mum and Mil Nanny.

My children call my (and DSIS's) Nanny - so their great grandmother, Old Nanny.

It started as a joke but stuck and Nanny loves it too.

When SIL was pg with MIL's first dgc, MIL told us all the baby would call her "Grandmamma" as that's what she wanted to be called.
Oddly enough DN and all her other gd call her Nanna!