To think swinging is URRGH!?

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There is are two couples on This Morning just now talking about their love for swinging. They're just your normal looking every day couples. One couple own a swinging hotel and they do to clubs.

I find this really sleazy and just plain weird. She's saying that it's really common amongst primary school teachers too!!

Eeeew I bet they'll be swapping after the show.

AIBU to think this is a very strange thing to do and be so open about?

I can understand that people marry as a way of committing to each other, but don't regard meaningless sex as breaking that committment. It wouldn't suit me, but I can understand it. It really doesn't need to involve property or the bible or any of that.

Coalition-can you check that out? I'm sure that in Biblical days it had nothing to do with property but with the sanction?

Just clicked and read this as, "AIBU to think swinging is URGENT"

I had flashes of MNers recommending 24-hour pampas grass merchants and such.

Going to read in full now that I have caught my breath, 'specially since LeQ is here.

I'd have thought there would be a better name than "swinging" by now. It does sound terribly 1970s and "Abigail's Party"... It also reminds me of miles in "This Life" accusing Ferdy of "swinging it between Arthur and Martha" :)

Every wedding I have ever been to, church or not, every single set of vows has included mention of fidelity.

I definitely used the words, "forsaking all others" and I meant it, so did my husband, we still do after almost 30 years together.
If you have to shag other people after only six months, well.

I don't know who is more emotionally damaged, to be perfectly honest, the woman who wants to be reduced to a fuckhole for random strangers, or the man who is happy to watch her doing it.

I believe social sex is the "in" term.....

LeQueen - You probably HAVE " been invited to witness friends standing up and vowing that they had chosen this one person to love and share their bodies for the rest of their lives." .

But that's just YOUR friends.

Malificence - The point is they don't HAVE to. You don't have to promise monogomy as part of a marriage so you can't claim that monogomy is one of the defining things about marriage or accuse people of not sticking to their vows when you don't know what those vows were.

I'm still mystified about the need for a buffet at a swinging party. Eugh imagine the vol-au-vents being man-handled by hands coated in several types of jizz and fanny batter. It's not good.

Like I said earlier, I am not judging the swingers just some stuff is weird like the buffets and haircuts.

My point was really about the hypocrisy of saying all this crap in a church, when the majority of people only go to a church for a christening/marriage funeral. Making the vows before God when you don't bother your arse with Him the rest of the time...hm.

Marriage isn't a lifetime commitment for about half the people who get married. So why we are all getting hot and bothered about the way some people conduct their marriage is beyond me. There isn't a gold standard...just difference.

LeQueen - I expect the registrar would suggest that language wouldn't be suitable for a legal ceremony.

I'm sure that would be fine.

That doesn't seem like very legal language to me.

Maybe if you described the equipment in Latin?

These are getting to be very specific vows though aren't they?

If you going to be this prescriptive you probably want one of the pre-nups that specifies how often each person takes the bins out and that.

Y'see I did find you very funny earlier in the thread LeQueen, but your smug, provicial close-mindedness has reduced you humour quotient no end, for me personally.

I can't even talk about Lady or Malificence for fear of becoming abusive. I cannot even begin to describe the prudish twattery.

I agree with what Coalition said.

It just adds gravitas, and it's just for the nouns so it would just be like saying arachnid rather than spider.