The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 4

[Teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tired mum, Elmo, AF, HE, Cheesey and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

LOL Tiredmum, I suppose if you're scheduled really early that day it could still be the 6th for Cheerful and I though!

Oooh, true story gomummy. That'd be funny.

If it does turn out to be a boy, then I say he'll be closer to 8 lbs and you'll name him Oliver or Justin. :o

Hello

I need help from you lovely benchers to pick out ds's confirmation cake [as they all look yummy to me
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www.bostonbakeryirl.com/CakeDetails/42.html

option 1 = A sponge cake with butter cream & jam
option 2 = A toffee /sponge cake

Dh & i like option 1 - the book cake but ds likes them both so we are putting it to the vote

I vote for option 1. With the disclaimer that I'd happily eat either!

I agree with you and your dh elmo, and that book cake is lovely

Lol gomummy well i suppose its possible, with the time difference

Hey cheerful you cant change your mind now

The boys have the sickness bug so feeling a zombified today

Thank you
{i could try sending you a slice gomummy but it might be rank by the time it gets there

I go with the book cake too :)

Oh, poor DS's tiredmum. And poor you! I hope they recover soon.

Thanks for the thought Elmo, but agree that it would likely be petrified by the time it arrived, so I'll just have to salivate at the photo as I am now suffering the same craving as Cheerful! It would be wrong just to whip up a batch of frosting and eat it with a spoon now, wouldn't it.

Sorry to hear about your DSs Tiredmum. :( And you need all the rest you can get right now! Hope the bug passes quickly. Are you all set for baby's arrival?

Of course it wouldn't, gomummy! I may do it when I get home

Just blame me gomummy

It looks like it's going to be the book cake .

Did someone say cake?

Lol candle

Hows your day going?

Oh my boy is making me exhausted ladies. Begun a thread in sleep for some more ideas. Some people have it far worse than me sleep wise so I shouldn't complain really...

Aw tea [hugs] Its so hard to cope with little ones when you can't get a good nights sleep

Have posted on other thread, Tea. Passes

Hi Tea - We followed the advice in Dr. Richard Ferber's book "How to Solve your Child's Sleep Problems" to sort out my DTSs in time for birth of DD - it goes from birth to adulthood and is really brilliant. If you can find a copy (I first got mine from the library) I really reccommend it.

for you?

Ohmygosh tea! I was just coming to post about my awful night with my DS...I'll have to read your other thread later but sounds like we're in the same boat. It's so frustrating!

He was up at two in the morning sobbing and screaming and insisting I "let" DH sleep with him. And then he tried to make me sleep in his bed so he could "sleep with Daddy" in ours. I felt like I was in an episode of Supernanny; I just kept putting him back to bed and saying "Good Night" calmly while inside I was screaming "I HAVE TO BE AT WORK IN FIVE HOURS AND I'M BLOODY EXHAUSTED NOW GO TO SLEEP RIGHT NOW YOU FERAL BEAST OF A CHILD!"

Oh and then he came and threw his (full of change and quite heavy) Thomas the Train bank at me.

He's a little older than my DS isn't he? Is he unsettled and afraid of things like monsters or the dark? My DS has no idea what monsters are... yet luckily. He's only just begun talking in some ways he's quite like a baby still really in many ways. DD was much more advanced by the same age. I could reason with her a bit better by DS's age.

Shoot! I just wrote a big post and then mumsnet was offline and didn't get it. Grr...

Yes, he is older (3 and a half) and I think he may be afraid. We've said no more Scooby Doo dvds (too many monsters, even though they're always people at the end I don't think he gets that so much) and have put in a nightlight. We tell him that he is safe and that protecting him is our most important job and we are very close by. (It's maybe eight feet...our upstairs is tiny and we leave the bedroom doors open.) I'm having a hard time knowing what to do because I feel it's cruel if he's truly frightened, but at the same time we've chosen not to co-sleep and I don't want it to be an every night thing.

< hands to cheerful & tea >

I went through hell with dd when she first went into her own bedroom , on one particular night i got up to put her back in her room 22 times i was like a zombie for 3 weeks of broken sleep until she finally gave up . I even had a thread on here about her at the time.
I really hope you both have a better nights sleep tonight xx

Ahh yes I've had to stop DD watching all sorts of things, even the princess and the frog. As she suddenly is afraid of the dark and scared at bedtime etc. So I'm super picky on what she can watch now and now she sleeps better again. I'm sure if you keep being consistent and loads of hugs he'll be ok. Try to talk as much as you can with him about it all in the day etc to get to the bottom of it all. I'm sure if you laid in his bed with him for 5 mins and then headed back to your room once he was calm that wouldn't make a rod for your own back. Certainly if my DD is ill or has a bad dream I'll lay with her for a short while. I never co slept with her when younger. I can now say "right I'm heading back to bed, mummy's tired" and she's ok with that. Hopefully your little man would be too?

DD and I always pray at bedtime for good dreams etc too?

Massage and meditation helped my friend's LO when he wasn't sleeping.