to have had this argument with a woman in Weatherspoons today?

[OnEdge]

I tok my 18 week and 18 month old into Weatherspoons this morning. The lift was out of order so I ended up leaving the baby in the buggy, unstrapping my son and taking him a level (4 steps) to the bar to order my coffee. I took my son because had I left him strapped in the buggy he would have started arching his back and becoming agitated. The buggy was only about 12 feet away from where I was standing at the bar. My boy was toddling about, within a few feet of me while I waited to be served. A lady bought a coffee and was walking past me to her table with it, I saw my son walk round a large pillar and could possibley walk into her path. I warned the lady and said "oooh ! careful" and pointed my son. She walked past him and said loudly "He shouldn't be walking about !"

So I followed her to her seat and asked her why my son should not walk about.

Her "Its not me that says it, its this place."

Me "But YOU said it, what do you expect me to do with him when I place my order ?"

Her "Can't you strap him in a buggy?"

Me "No I will not strap my child down for your convenience>"

Her "I didn't want to step on him"

Me "All you had to do was look where you were going, I warned you he was there."

and then it carried on for another 2 minutes.

So, was I BU ????

I'm gonna get slaughtered, but I am intrigued as to whether or not you think I was out of order.

ooo lady biscuit, you are correcting my spelling ha haa

Yabu

OnEdge, if he wasn't a hazard, why did you have a go at the lady then?

Yep :o Well, you're not listening to anything else I'm saying

Your 'ooh, careful' sounds rather a lot like you were speaking to a child, tbh. That would have put my back up, too.

well, i feel like a discussion after the day ive had, actually, Ive got another one if anyone is interested, i had a row with my Mum today too and the lady at Autoglass on Sunday

My dear, if he wasn't a potential hazard, why did you feel the need to tell another adult to be careful of him?

Thebrownstuff, people ARE reading thread properly. And are then so incensed that they feel they have to post to try and get some sense into OP.

I think YABU. It is not up to her to watch out where your son is, it is up to you.

xpost curly!

curly i didn't have a go at her, I was all friendly and warned her that my son was nearby

I do get it, honestly, I can see I was BU, but she was too

"I was all friendly and warned her that my son was nearby."

Pity she didn't reply "Why - will he attack me?"

If he had been an adult she would have had to walk around him

If he had been an adult she would have seen him better.

If he had been an adult he wouldn't have been playing in her way!

There is no comparison sorry!

I don't understand taking kids into a pub for coffee, maybe it's just me. But there are plenty of nice cafes to have coffee.

so do you want me to tell you about the Autoglass lady ?

curly There!!! she did it again. admitted she was being unreasonable for a second time

and she made a logical observation and you followed her and started a fight. Yep, of course you are the one in the right here....

OP - Look, if you had kept your DS strapped in his buggy (he might not like it but it's for his own safety) or held him whilst you ordered, or waited until your parents were there even though you really wanted a drink there and then, there would have been no need for this. Your actions caused the whole chain of events, so I hope next time you will give a bit more thought to possible consequencies of your actions.

As a mother of 3 DCs under 6, I also let my elder two walk around after they've been sat at a table for a while if the place isn't busy but i would never see it as other people's responsibilities to see them and avoid them. And i never let my 19mo walk around unaccompanied. And i mean never.

this has got to be the biggest wind up ever!

I have a weatherspoons near me but wouldn't set foot in there if you paid me ...stinks of stale beer and farts... if I fancied sitting down with a cup of coffee I would go to a cafe where I could possibly strap my toddler into a highchair and not have to worry about then making a public nuisance of themselves ...unlike the OP

Sorry but this thread has really made me laugh {grin]

Oh oh oh ....and YABU

differentnameforthis sadly there aren't in our town.

Perhaps you were in 'Mummy mode'. So you would have spoken to her in a sing song, patronising child friendly tone 'Ooh, careful!', all but insinuating she was senile. And she probably thought you were a cheeky mare, who thought the universe revolved around her little cherub. So she got a bit sniffy. But you followed her to her table and continued harassing her. So nope, don't think she was BU.

hey, saw it this time...taking bets on how long before it is retracted if anybody wants to have a flutter....

which, OP, logically speaking, you would not have had to do if he were not a potential hazard or in danger from her....

ergo, he was a hazard, which, being under your control meant you had let a hazardous situation occur, you demanded (all smiley like) that someone else shift their focus and concentrate on your child. Which is your job.

Perhaps she could have been politer. Perhaps you could have acknowledged you were at fault.

Perhaps you could have restrained yourself from shouting the odds at a total stranger because they did not interpret your actions in the way you intended them.

Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps....

Has one, single, solitary poster agreed with the OP?

It IS nice though honest, but I gather that they aren't all nice.