Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

for not caring that I have 3 the same flavour

84 replies

gordyslovesheep · 09/01/2011 21:42

Just noticed that Victoria Beckham is expecting and oh yes - the press, various forums etc are already banging on about 'hoping it's a girl' and 'she's love a girl' and blah blah

when my second daughter was born my MIL said my (now ex) dh was disappointed - he wasn't but she felt he should be.

When my 3rd daughter arrived she didn;t visit for 3 weeks. Various 'friends' commented on her being 'the wrong' flavour and would we keep trying for a boy

what is wrong with NOT wanting a boy (or girl) - ex DH takes THE GIRLS to the football (one thing apparently he could only do with a son) and has no issue with their lack of willies

it makes me go grrrrr

OP posts:
CommanderDrool · 09/01/2011 21:45

Oh I have three girls and I always get "oooh wait they're teenagers!"

Original poster
gordyslovesheep · 09/01/2011 21:47

yeh that old chestnut (don;t have to wait they can be pretty vile now!!!)

OP posts:
tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 09/01/2011 21:51

Off course she will have a girl! I expect they have had treatment of some description. Sad really, it almost takes away the really special thing about having all boys/girls when people say/do things like this :(

NoLadyButManyBubbasAndBumps · 09/01/2011 21:51

I have two girls and expecting our 3rd DC in 10 days - the number of people who assume I want a boy is mad! My aunt even said something along the lines of "what a shame" when my DD2 was born Shock Hmm

PacificDogwood · 09/01/2011 22:01

Some old hag lady offered me her condolences when I was out and about pushing DS3 around in his pram, grrrrr!

I often wonder what her reaction would have been if she had met me with DS4 a couple of years later... Grin

YANBU

Sidge · 09/01/2011 22:10

I love my 3 girls and wouldn't have known what to do with a boy! Grin

A huge number of people assumed that we wanted number 3 to be a boy but after having a very poorly, prem DD2 with a genetic disorder all I wanted was a healthy baby. I know everyone says that but I really truly meant it.

My DH does joke about being outnumbered in a house full of women and that it's going to be useful having 2 bathrooms in a few years.

Lovely news for Posh though.

PussinJimmyChoos · 09/01/2011 22:12
Smile
Imarriedafrog · 09/01/2011 22:14

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Boozilla · 09/01/2011 22:17

It's funny actually because I have 3 DCs and people always assume the 3rd was an accident because I already had a girl and a boy!

Sidge · 09/01/2011 22:19

Hey Puss how are you doing?

UnderTheRadar2212 · 09/01/2011 22:21

I also think Posh will have a girl this time - she's made no secret of wanting one previously, and can afford all the latest quack treatments in 'gender choice' etc.

I have one boy, was happy he was a boy, would have been equally happy with a girl.............

herbietea · 09/01/2011 22:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

PussinJimmyChoos · 09/01/2011 22:24

Sidge - am huuge and stil have until end of March spd kicking in as well...nice!

Serendippy · 09/01/2011 22:25

What worries me about this is, if she has a boy, the older children are old enough to be aware of this desire for a girl and not only be hurt by it, but also share that information with baby when he is older.

I don't like the assumption that she has had treatment, though. Some people express preference without it meaning much, it is the press that has taken it to extremes.

Am happy for anyone expecting a baby

DozyDoll · 09/01/2011 22:35

Strangers and PIL is one thing, what is really mind boggling is when it's instigated by the parents themselves.

When my SIL went for her scan for her DC3 and discovered it was a blue one she was shamelessly and openly (to anybody who'd listen) devastated.

The worst of it was that she'd roped her other two kids (1 of each) & their dad into the ongoing discussion. The girls (mum & DC2) wanted a girl because boys are smelly and annoying and the boys wanted a boy (dad & DC1) because there was already enough pink in the house!

Bizarre and worrying when you think of the unspoken messages this instilled in the other 2 DC, not to mention if DC3 ever finds out. It's bound to come out some time "Me and mum wanted you to be a girl!" or such like.

rasta · 09/01/2011 22:35

YA D NBU.

I have 2 girls and currently pregnant with DC3. Since the second we announced it all I've had are comments regarding having a boy.

"Trying for a boy are you?"
"This one is obviously a boy!"
"You've got 2 girls, this has to be a boy!"
"Fingers crossed for a boy!"

It's all I ever get Hmm

TheSecondComing · 09/01/2011 22:37

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

clam · 09/01/2011 22:40

When I was young and naive I was always adamant that I wanted 4 boys. Couldn't understand anyone wanting girls, although I rather envied my friend who was one of 4 girls and always seemed to be having exciting "Grease" style sleepovers at her house.
Married DH, who comes from a family where there are dozens of boys, and only 2 girls in 3 generations, so I assumed my path to the football touchline was assured. DS1 popped out as expected - and then..... DD! We were both absolutely thrilled, and I then realised just how badly Dh had wanted a girl all along, although he'd never uttered a word of it.

I wish Victoria and David all the very best, and I bet they'll be thrilled too with whatever they end up with, although the press will make what they want of it.

mutznutz · 09/01/2011 22:42

I have 3 boys and a husband...even the dog and the hamster are male!!

I love it though..they all get on well (apart from the dog and hamster) but I feel like Queen of the castle Grin

Everyone has always said if I had a girl she'd no doubt be a complete tomboy anyway Lol.

vickster11 · 09/01/2011 22:43

I really wanted a boy I dont know why and was happy when I had him. If they told me at the scan that it was going to be girl I would have been just as happy.

I have noticed when it comes to toys most girl toys are pink. I visited my friends the other day and it was every shade of pink. At least with boys toys they are different colours.

vicky

DozyDoll · 09/01/2011 22:43

Whats YA D NBU?

prettyfly1 · 09/01/2011 22:43

I have two boys and I keep getting asked if I would like a girl. Truth be known, yes I would love a daughter but my sons love me so much and bring me so much joy and laughter that there is no way if I were to get pregnant with another I would be anything other than delighter. My mil AFTER MY MISCARRIAGE when I was 20 weeks pregnant with ds2 insisted that we were all gutted as she wanted a girl. YANBU.

Serendippy · 09/01/2011 22:44

You are definately not being unreasonable.

prettyfly1 · 09/01/2011 22:44

dozydoll it means you are definitely not being unreasonable.

rasta · 09/01/2011 22:45

You are definitely not being unreasonable.

Sometimes "YANBU" simply isn't enough Wink

Swipe left for the next trending thread