for not caring that I have 3 the same flavour

[gordyslovesheep]

Just noticed that Victoria Beckham is expecting and oh yes - the press, various forums etc are already banging on about 'hoping it's a girl' and 'she's love a girl' and blah blah

when my second daughter was born my MIL said my (now ex) dh was disappointed - he wasn't but she felt he should be.

When my 3rd daughter arrived she didn;t visit for 3 weeks. Various 'friends' commented on her being 'the wrong' flavour and would we keep trying for a boy

what is wrong with NOT wanting a boy (or girl) - ex DH takes THE GIRLS to the football (one thing apparently he could only do with a son) and has no issue with their lack of willies

it makes me go grrrrr

YANBU - I always wanted just boys and DC3 was a GIRL. And it drove me nuts because people kept saying 'oooh, you can stop now', or 'you've got your girl then', 'You must be so please it's not another boy' like DS2 was a disappointment.

Disclaimer DD is adorable and I wouldn't swap her now. But I did feel really sad that I didn't get my 3 boys when she was first born.

I think VB did make some comment about wouldn't it be nice to have someone to do your nails with and go shopping with?

This is the sort of thing I find really distasteful about the gender discussion - that just because you have a daughter she would automatically be interested in that sort of thing solely because she is a girl.

I have two DSs, really thought DS2 would be a girl (I am from a family of one of each and just assumed that's how it would work out). Was a bit confused and upset to begin with (at 20week scan, NOT when DS2 was born!) but really tried to explore the reasons why I wanted a girl and decided I was being really quite superficial (had a great name lined up for a girl and I often look wistfully through girls' clothes as there's a lot more variety than for boys). Also had lots of comments from people - still do, in fact - and have noticed among my friends that people really do respond differently to DDs than DSs. Got a bit sad the other day when my DS2 was the only boy in a group of girl babies, and there were many 'isn't she cute?' comments but none made about my DS :(

But now DS2 is here I couldn't be happier. To see him with his big brother fills my heart with joy - they are just so sweet together - and I really hope they are good friends. Not that you can't be with opposite sex siblings but I think it's a different relationship.

Am even thinking about DC3 and daydreaming about another boy...

People often put on their list of reasons for wanting a girl:

• girly stuff like makeup, shopping, hair, etc

• weddings

I have three boys, and adore it. I had maybe 5 minutes of sadness when we found out DS3 was a boy, but I wouldn't have it any other way now. DS3 was a complete surprise baby as I had had to have fertility treatment both times previously.

And like Justkeepswimming stated, I only really want a DD to dress her up

I definitely think the closest adult siblings I know are sisters, the most frequent visitors to parents when adult children are girls.

I'm pg with DC2. I have a gorgeous 20 month old DS and everyone keeps saying 'are you hoping for a girl this time?'.

Erm, no. I'm just over the moon to be pg. I don't give a jot if it's a boy or a girl.

When I think about this baby I think of it as being a boy. The only names I can think of are boys names and I really can't imagine having a little girl. I'm going to be in for a bit of a shock if 'he' does turn out to be a girl

That's a bit of a generalisation Margaret!
I don't agree with you and I would also suggest the some of the most problematic relationships are between women i.e. mother and daughter or sisters, in my experience anyway.

m.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/jan/15/beckhams-baby-family?cat=lifeandstyle&type=article

Article about this very topic in today's Guardian

I can only speak from my experience!!