To prefer well groomed people to scruffs?

[skankyVswish]

So, a friend and I were discussing over lunch today how we felt about meeting others that were perhaps less groomed than us.

Where I work, I have to deal with people that perhaps are not the cleanest or look like they have just rolled out of bed and have not even and wash - basic hygiene costs nothing. It makes me go bleugh.

Does this sort of thing bother you or am I being over sensitive?

cat64, yeah exactly, doesn't that hurt your skin?

I shower once a day, wear clothes that cover my unmentionables on weekends, and wear smartish clothes + make-up at work. Sometimes I like faffing about with dramatic clothing, but honestly, who can be arsed every day?

I am scruffy but clean and gravitate towards other scruffy but clean people. Living in a rural location scruffy but clean predominates. Perhaps it makes a difference to your perspective whether you are urban or rural?

I guess you are no more unreasonable in your preferences than I am in mine (like others on this thread - instant mistrust of the over-groomed)

reelingintheyears - yes, I know! Hence why I put it in quotation marks. I was trying to make a funny over poor quality fakes that don't even get the real designer's name correct.

Epic fail.

Perhaps "Tommy Hilfinger" would have been a little easier?

Thankful I didn't go with my phonetic spelling of Hermes [before anyone starts, I'm not going to work out how to put the accent on without Word!] to prove a[n ironic] point.

Oh God, see, I did screw up the Hermes pun!

It was supposed to be based in the incorrect pronunciation of it e.g. as the Roman god.

Ugh. I'll just bugger off

Sorry.

I don't mind anyone if they are scruffy or immaculate but I get thoroughly board ridgid by people that will only wear branded clothing.

IMO its quite a sad outlook to have in life :(
personally I don't judge books by their covers& because you are, you are probably missing out on a lot, as some of the most interesting & educated people I have known could probably of done with a good wash & a hair comb, not always,

just as well groomed doesn't always mean interesting, IME it can just as often mean shallow

Skanky, I didn't have to post on the thread. You didn't have to start it.

I'm sure no matter what's said on here you'll go away with the conviction that you're right and that 'scruffy' people are worthy of your derision. I wonder what they make of you?

Nobody has to post anything then, by that logic. MN would cease to be.

BoF I was responding to where skanky said that I didn't have to post on the thread (at the beginning where I disagreed with her) AKsherly.

I feel sad for the well groomed.

I always think how desperate it is that they've actually spent time ironing and titting about with all sorts of make up, hair irons, waxing products and the like. I can only assume they are trying to fill a gap.

Why stand there looking in the mirror making your hair curl a certain way when you could be shagging, walking, singing or any number of other joyous things?

I'm a scruffy hippy type myself. I reckon I look pretty good most of the time but I guess I can't be sure because the only mirror is up in DS's bedroom so I don't tend to check very often.

Does anyone reckon these knickers would do one more wear?

Perhaps if I turn them inside out?

tether, you can do 6 wears if it's a thong

How many times have you already turned them, tethers?

Tethers, depends if they have a bleached gusset but that is a whole different thread..

Well, fashion is unique to each individual. I think it's a shame to label people.

I am a mess, therefore I am

I think I'll get away with it.

As long as you're not carrying lice, not exposing yourself (Mr Clooney, you're exempt) and don't have flower-wilting breath, meh, I wouldn't care really.

YABU. Some people enjoy "grooming" but others prefer to spend more time doing other things (basic cleanliness aside).

I'm not sure what you mean. Are you talking about people who are dirty, or those who aren't "neat"? Clean and groomed aren't the same to me.

I love these threads ..... truly I do!

Some people are so judgemental..... and I love the fact that some people trumpet the fact that they have 2 showers a day. Well, good for you, but unless you have a very physical, sweaty job you are being very wasteful with regard to energy resources.
Having spent time in polluted city locations like London, Glasgow, Edinburgh etc. I do undersatnd why you feel dirty at the end of the day and feel you have to shower again, but really, consider whether you really need to waste energy that way.
We shower every morning, but luckily for us we live in a relatively unpolluted area and our jobs are not dirty or very physical - therefore one shower a day is more than adequate.

As for the OP - I know lots of scruffy people who are perfectly clean, but they have beards, long hair that is untrimmed, wear faded jeans with rips, have unpolished shoes etc. But they are clean, and intelligent, funny, generous, warm and welcoming.
Personally, having friends who also fall into the groomed category, I don't give a rat's a**e as long as they don't stink or have fleas/lice/scabies etc.

Well it depends. If you inferring that well groomed people are more deserving of your time than scruffy people, then you're just being thick. A set of GHDs and a store card for Harvey Nicks do not a nice or worthy person make. By the same token, scuffed shoes and hair in need of a trim does not indicate that a person is a write off.

I really don't know what you mean.