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To never wear a bra?

86 replies

WimpleOfTheBallet · 08/01/2011 09:05

Apparently women of my age 38....should wear one. This is according to my sister...thing is I have almost nothing to go in one and when I have tried to wear them (properly fitted etc) theyare SO uncomfortable I dispense with it after one wear.

I just wear vests and camisole type things. I don't walk about with dramatically pointy nipples or anything...I make sure I have enough layers on to keep some dignity....but I see no point in a bra when ther's nothing to support!

Isn't that what bra's are for? Support? Or have I misunderstood some unwritten rule of being a woman?

My "boobs" are less than a handful...haven't been measured in ages...they dont sag at all...they just sit there....does EVERYONE on here wear one?

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LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 08/01/2011 09:07

I do but then if I didn't I would jiggle more than jelly.

If you don't need one then don't wear one.

Butterbur · 08/01/2011 09:12

YANBU. Your sister should mind her own business about your underwear. She's probably motivated by envy anyway. Does she think women your age should have perms and wear a girdle too?

I wouldn't wear one if I were you. They're not that comfortable - but for me, more comfy than the alternative. And to be honest, I wouldn't be that paranoid about hiding my nips either.

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 08/01/2011 09:14

I'm glad to hear that I'm not being hyper sensitive about it...I thought it was just me who found them uncomfortable!

I used to be fine about my nips showing when I was younger ...now I'm a bit conscious of it.

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kerstina · 08/01/2011 09:19

I don't wear one most of the time just when i want a bit more shape. I am not big busted more boyish so like you don't really need them. I feel much more comfortable without one .

giveitago · 08/01/2011 09:34

If you don't need one then don't wear.

I need one day and night sadly. The older I get the more support I need.

EricNorthmansMistress · 08/01/2011 10:05

I find it embarrassing to be able to clearly see the shape of a woman's breasts if she's not wearing a bra, and visible nips but if you wear a vest and your breasts aren't flopping about or straining through your clothes then I guess it's fine...

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 08/01/2011 10:09

Lol maybe my Sis is like you EricNM

Thing is, mine are only tiddlers...its not like I'm straining through my jumper!

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Serendippy · 08/01/2011 10:11

YANBU and you are very lucky!

EcoLady · 08/01/2011 10:19

YANBU, but YAB a fool!

Even little boobs sag if unsupported. There are ligaments in there which, once stretched, stay stretched. They WILL sag.

Small boobs do not need underwires, so do try to be fitted again for something unwired. Any bra, with wires or without should not be uncomfortable. I do dispair when I read women who claim to have been fitted but the bra hurts .... that means it has NOT been fitted correctly!

My mum was always proud to not wear bra as she was 30AA. Now she has long thin flappy fried eggs that she hates.

Please, find some nice soft, small bras,

Pancakeflipper · 08/01/2011 10:20

If there's nothing to support you don't need one. I didn't until after my 1st child. Then suddenly I got breasts that need support - I personally like an uplift to a sag.

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 08/01/2011 10:31

Eco...I'll have spaniels ears! I don't really give a bugger though.

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Butterbur · 08/01/2011 17:16

Everyone ends up with long thin flappy fried eggs eventually. There's no brain the world that will stave it off forever.

iloveyankees · 08/01/2011 17:21

Every now and again I will not wear a bra but only around the house which my OH instantly notices and I don't get one moments peace lmao.

teenyweenytadpole · 08/01/2011 17:24

Going bra free is supposed to be a preventative measure for avoiding breast cancer according to some so YANBU! However I am very jealous - as a 34GG I absolutely have to wear a bra and when I don't e.g at night pyjamas and nighties look awful. I don't think it's true that not wearing a bra will stretch the ligaments, and if you are wearing a vest top they are getting some support. Lucky you!!

camdancer · 08/01/2011 17:26

Envy I have to wear one day and night because my back aches if I don't. I would love to be in your position. I'd never, ever wear a bra.

Isn't it funny how some people have these things that must be done after a certain age. It took my Mum about 3 years to stop telling me that women over 30 should have short hair. She still has the odd dig about my lovely long hair. Why should being whatever age make something wrong?

Ephiny · 08/01/2011 17:27

If you don't feel the need then no need to wear one I guess. I'd feel uncomfortable without one though, especially if I had to run Blush. And I'm only a B cup so not exactly huge!

When I was a skinny teenager I used to just wear soft stretchy ones (no fastenings, just pull over your head) which might work if you want a bit of coverage/support but still be comfortable. But if you're happy as you are then there's no problem, is there?

theevildead2 · 08/01/2011 17:30

What about when you need to run for the bus? Confused otherwise YANBU. I woudln't want the nips on show because I don't want everyone knowing how cold I am or what I've been thinking! Blush But if you don't need one you don't need one

mumbar · 08/01/2011 17:34

I often don't wear one at home, and have worn (supportive) vest tops without one before too.

YANBU to do whatever you're comfortable with. However I agree an uncomfy bra is an ill fitted one.

ramonaquimby · 08/01/2011 17:36

wear a bra or don't - why would it be unreasonable?

nooka · 08/01/2011 17:38

I've never worn a bra (apart from when I was pregnant and breastfeeding). I'm apparently between an A and a B cup and I've always felt that wearing a bra was like being in harness, not painful but very restrictive, and that's with a proper fitter involved. Sometimes I feel a bit self conscious about jiggling or my nipples showing, but I don't care enough to be uncomfortable. I'm coming up 40 and had nice pert breasts before children and saggy old things afterward I don't think a bra is going to do anything for me anymore!

GwendolineMaryLacey · 08/01/2011 17:42

As a 38G I have to wear one. If I had ones like yours there is no way in hell I would wear one. You lucky bugger!

COCKadoodledooo · 08/01/2011 17:47

Depends on your size. Mine would be bouncing off my knees if I didn't Blush

If you're happy and comfortable, then carry on as you are. Unless you wander round in your undies every time you see your sister, why would she even know?!

boyscomingoutofmyears · 08/01/2011 17:49

YANBU and it's completely your choice, however, I do agree that there are many benefits to having some support. An uncomfortable bra is a badly-fitting one (I spent 6 years measuring boobs, and never met a woman who said a properly fitting bra was uncomfortable or painful).

If you're absolutely against wearing one, I would at least wear camisoles with some in-built support.

RevoltingPeasant · 08/01/2011 18:04

YANBU, and your sister IBU.

Tell you what I absolutely hate, is people (usually women) commenting on someone else's breasts. I have a ex friend who was constantly grinning and saying, 'I can see your nipples'.

This was because I used a soft, close-fitting bra as opposed to a padridden La Senza spectacular. I am 32DD and don't need any padding, thanks. enough elsewhere already

Nipples are normal! It doesn't matter if they show through your clothing!

/walks off muttering/

BreconBeBuggered · 08/01/2011 19:13

Of course YANBU. They're your tits.

My DH would love it if I went about bra-less, but I'm 45, ffs, and have F-cups. Only he can't see that that wouldn't be a good look.