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AIBU of is DH?

33 replies

ModreB · 07/01/2011 19:12

I have a job, which I love and feel very lucky to have. I work for Local Government.

Earlier this week, I saw a job advertised for a private company, the job entails only a part of the overall job that I do already, but the pay is £5k+ more than I am on now, with a company car etc etc. I am not boasting, but I have looked at the job spec etc, and I could do it standing on my head.

I am happy doing the busy job that I do now, but DH is almost insisting that I apply for this other job. His justification is that he is self-employed, work is not plentiful at the moment and we could do with the extra cash (But who couldn't do with a bit extra at the moment)

BUT - the vacancy is only a part of what I do now, and I think that I would get bored quite quickly.

AIBU to stay put, or AIBU not to even try for the job?

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ModreB · 07/01/2011 19:13

or is DH Blush

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mutznutz · 07/01/2011 19:14

I'd go for it...just the fact Local Government jobs seem so unsafe at the moment would be reason enough for me to try.

yama · 07/01/2011 19:15

Your dh IBU. Definitely. I'm all for career progression but despite the money this would be a step backwards. Think of your cv.

charliesmommy · 07/01/2011 19:15

local government often has much better benefits than private companies..

apply for it, but weigh up all the pro's and cons and then put them to your husband..

TheFarSide · 07/01/2011 19:16

No point going for it if you don't want to.

queribus · 07/01/2011 19:16

You don't have anything to lose by applying, surely. And if you're upfront in the interview you might get offered something more?

But it's your job - don't be nagged into something you don't want to do.

unfitmother · 07/01/2011 19:20

Look into it if only for the sake of !marital harmony!

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ModreB · 07/01/2011 19:20

It's just that I know I would eventually get fed up with it, at the moment my job is so varied, and DH is a bit of a "safe" person.

He keeps saying "Well, if you do it anyway, why not for more money" - he doesn't seem to get that I don't do it for the money. Confused

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theevildead2 · 07/01/2011 19:23

TBH I think you are being a bit unreasonable. 5,000 is a lot of money (or it would be in our house) and just because they haven't listed EVERY single duty you will be required to perform doesn't mean there won't be more to the job. Also in any job if someone wants more work the boss is hardly going to complain! Be clever and make work for yourself!

MissyPie · 07/01/2011 19:26

Go for it - what have you got to lose? They might think you overqualified anyway?

Then again, they might think you are more than capable for the job plus more thus giving you the job plus extra responsibility as they see fit...You never know unless you go...:)

What is the job as a matter of interest and where is it lol...I'm currently looking :)

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 07/01/2011 19:27

Maybe your dh wants some pressure taking off him? Maybe this would be a good stepping stone to an ever higher paid/more varied role?

Ephiny · 07/01/2011 19:29

I'd stay where you are if you're happy there, not many people can say they enjoy their work, so that's not something to give up lightly! Maybe it depends how badly you need the extra £5k?

minipie · 07/01/2011 19:31

How much difference would the extra £5k matter to your family? If it would really make a difference, then I do think YWBU not to even consider it.

However if it's not that much to your family then YANBU.

Either way, though, it's probably worth finding out more about the job before writing it off as boring - there may be more to it than you think.

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ModreB · 07/01/2011 19:33

LoveBeingADaddysGirl - I am the main earner anyway, we pay all our bills on my salary, and although we don' have exotic holidays, we do OK.

MissyPie - it involves safeguarding vulnerable adults and children for a major organisation. ATM I am the only person who is involved in this for the whole of my Local Govt Dept, about 1500 people, and it is about 20% of my job.

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charliesmommy · 07/01/2011 19:38

would I be right in thinking then that the private company is working on some sort of contract basis for this major organisation

Alouiseg · 07/01/2011 19:39

It would be about an extra £300 per month after tax and ni.

MissyPie · 07/01/2011 19:41

OP - you need to find out more about the position, then you can make an informed decision.

If you feel the remit is not enough then at least you can say I tried, then your DH has nothing to complain about.

Let us know how you get on & Good luck x

shirazgirl · 07/01/2011 19:44

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wintersdawn · 07/01/2011 19:50

Sending in your cv never hury anyone, you don't have to accept anything and when was the last time you had an interview - no such thing as to much practice where they are concerned. One thing though, gov pensions far outweigh private ones, so if you are the main earner you are likely to be the main pension earner too and that however many years down the line might be worth far more than an extra £5k a year now.

SkyBluePearl · 07/01/2011 19:52

if you enjy your present job and think you would get board quickly in the new job i wouldn't.

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ModreB · 07/01/2011 19:53

charliesmommy no, it a direct vacancy that has been advertised exclusively through the Local Govt internal vacancy website. I assume that this is because the training is not easily available to people in the private sector, without a social work degree.

shirazgirl - love the name but I prefer merlot lol - that's what I worry about - I love the job that I do, I am secure (as much as any public sector job can be) but should I be thinking about the future?

We have been told that our jobs are secure, but who knows?

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ModreB · 07/01/2011 19:55

wintersdawn - I last had an interview 12 months ago for an internal secondment, which was very competetive. I am in post now Grin

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atswimtwolengths · 07/01/2011 20:03

I think that within (financial) reasons you are at liberty to choose which job you do!

If you're paying all the bills now, then I think he has an absolute nerve telling you to do a different job. Tell HIM to go and look for something different, that will bring in more money, if he's worried about the family's finances. It sounds like you're doing far more than your share - it's time for him to do something more.

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ModreB · 07/01/2011 20:10

Yes, but he is the "artistic" type, and he does work hard, at least as many hours as me, just that his earning potential is not as much as mine.

I think that I will just say, "do you want a happy DW, or a horrible, unfulfilled, bored DW?"

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pointythings · 07/01/2011 20:13

I'd investigate whether this other job does actually utilise any of your other skills or is only about the safeguarding part - reason being that if you leave all your other skills unused for long periods of time, you will become less attractive to a future employer. It helps to have a speciality, but it also helps to be multiskilled and I can see that being a problem in this new job so check first.