AIBU of is DH?

[ModreB]

I have a job, which I love and feel very lucky to have. I work for Local Government.

Earlier this week, I saw a job advertised for a private company, the job entails only a part of the overall job that I do already, but the pay is £5k+ more than I am on now, with a company car etc etc. I am not boasting, but I have looked at the job spec etc, and I could do it standing on my head.

I am happy doing the busy job that I do now, but DH is almost insisting that I apply for this other job. His justification is that he is self-employed, work is not plentiful at the moment and we could do with the extra cash (But who couldn't do with a bit extra at the moment)

BUT - the vacancy is only a part of what I do now, and I think that I would get bored quite quickly.

AIBU to stay put, or AIBU not to even try for the job?

There is a lot to be said for keeping a job that you are happy doing, money isn't everything.

I would apply for it and find out more about the role, it might not list every last thing in the advert, or there may well be room for taking on more responsibilities

Modre, that is even worse. Far, far worse! So he is allowed a fulfilling job but you have to earn as much money as you can, regardless of whether you are fulfilled. Bollocks to that! It's disgraceful!

Agree totally with atswimtwolengths.

atswimtwolengths you misunderstand me - I am at least as fulfilled, just in a different way.

We are very different people, with very different interests, but we just seem to gel as a couple IYSWIM. I am happy and very content in the relationship, and the dynamics of the relationship.

I think that DH concern as that he thinks I am capable of more than the job I am doing at the moment - he sees the job as "If you can earn more doing the same but less, then go for it." He does not seem to understand that I do the job as it is more complicated, but more fulfilling.

But that's what I meant, ModreB! You each want a fulfilling life. Your current job is more fulfilling so you want to carry on doing it. That's all that needs to be said, isn't it?

When you go for another job, surely you'd go for one that fulfilled you even more?

If he is creative, he should understand that, surely?

I certainly don't think you should feel pushed into doing a job you'll be less happy with. You are working, contributing to the household pot, pulling your weight.

However, I would investigate the job - you've nothing to lose.

Ultimately you need to consider all factors though. 5k more is an immediate benefit, but your pension with Local Govt may be far better for instance.

Your DH is being unreasonable. By insisting you applay for this job, he's insisting that you become unhappy and bored. Which is crap of him. If you have the responsibility for keeping the family financially afloat then life is a hell of a lot easier if you enjoy your job.

And public sector pensions, sick leave, flexible working etc are a hell of a lot better than most private sector.