to wonder if all mothers/parents REALLY think that their child/ren are beautiful?

[MilliONaire]

This is a follow-on thread from the 'parents boasting' thread I started earlier tonight...

I was wondering if parents (especially mothers) really do think their babies are the most beautiful? I don't mean loving them and accepting them for who they are but that all out 'my incredible child could win beauty competitions' type of adoration.

Or does any parent look at their child and think 'good job s/he has a great personality'

Just wondering....

DD1 is pretty IMO and everyone says she looks like me, DD2 looks like DH's mother..........and bears a striking resemblence to Gillain McKeith.....she is 6 hopefully she will grow out of it, but she has teeny features and was born weighing 2lbs so is on the small side !

OP - I thought my kids were cute and to me they are gorgeous, but they are not the most gorgeous children looks wise, but they are so much more beautiful inside than some other chldren I know !

DS (7) was 8 weeks prem and weighed 1lb 15oz at birth; he was incredibly skinny and raw-looking but looked gorgeous to me; even now I look at the photos as think how perfect he was. He was a beautiful child at every stage (the first school photo still makes me well up), but right now he is all skin and bones, with missing teeth and just seems angular and pointy all over; of course I adore him, but he is not currently very pretty!

DD (3) was comparatively huge (7lb), and really blobby and ugly at birth. She was a Buddha of an infant (not the huge rolls of fat you see on many LOs, but huge in comparison to tiny DS) with spiky very pale blonde hair, and she didn't start looking lovely until she was about 2. Now at 3, she is gorgeous.

Both of mine looked like pink frogs in babygrows when they were born! No joke, they had massive birth trauma round the eyes which took a couple of months to settle down. My eldest (ds) had ginger hair and my youngest (dd) had a black mohican too... DS is now 10 and is shaping up to be a tall skinny lad and has a couple of admirers in his class by the sound of things, and DD is a 5 year old blond angel - in looks anyway! :o

Both mine are startingly good looking.

People keep asking who they take after.

I used to feel guilty going to the new parents group, because I was sure my DS was so much more beautiful than all of the other babies that the other mums would feel sad about their own babies.

Dc3 6m has a double chin & when tired can look rather bulbous under the eyes - have voiced fears to dh he could look like a bullfrog/my FIL

DS1 is the classically better looking although he has his father's toes & dd is impish looking.

DH has said however he has occasionally caught a sappy look on my face when looking at the dcs

DD1, DD3 and DD4 were gorgeous babies. No two ways about it. DD2 was long and skinny and DH insisted on calling her 'the Rat'. I was outwardly upset but inwardly agreed with him. Now, at 7, she is simply stunning, with a lean, tall body and the shiniest hair and longest eyelashes I have ever seen.

I instantly thought dd was gorgeous but kn the first fee photos she looked a bit squashed. I still think she was a gorgeous newborn just once you get passed the first few hours of photos. Now she's 2 and I still think she's very pretty. I do think a lot of it's to do with hair though. She was born with a lot and now has natural ringlets. When I see bald babies I don't think they are as pretty (that's terrible I know). No doubt when I have another child they will be follicley challenged. Most young children look cute though. You don't see many hideously ugly toddlers. I wonder if when your children become ordinary looking (or ugly) adults if you notice? Let's face it not all beautiful children will become beautiful adults.

I always thought DD1 looked too much like DH's family to be beautiful . Now, at 16, she looks like a roadie for Status Quo, although she has passable days.
DD2 looks like DD1 but prettier. Her features are more synchronised and her lashes/brows darker. She also wears clothes well (if that doesn't sound weird), whereas DD1 has better clothes than I do, but they never look quite right.
Shame, really (for DD1).
Obviously I don't compare them outwardly - strictly for MN.

My middle daughter looked like a hairy Yoda when she was born - by god I thought she was beautiful!

looking back I realise I was wrong - but she IS very very beautiful now!

I do wonder whether I'm deluded, but I think our baby is beautiful, huge blue eyes, lots of lovely dark hair, but my friend thinks her baby is too and he's an ugly runt

Maybe everyone who says ours is beautiful is thinking the same thing? I do honestly think he's the most lovely at my postnatal group, guess they all think the same though?

Sorry meant they think theirs are most lovely

LOL, GrumpyHorsewoman DD has MIL's face. Now MIL is not unattractive (on the outside, at least) but I just can't get over the fact she's in my daughter's face..

I think children are beautiful, generally. But I know what you mean. I did think dd was the most gorgeous baby but even looking back I think she WAS a very bonny newborn and I never thought that about ds, who was very red and a bit late, so scaly too . So I think I am fairly objective.

DD has pretty, delicate features but she is very fair skinned and her hair, having been blond and curly is now quite mousey coloured so she doesn't really stand out in a crowd. She has lovely big blue eyes though and good bone structure - I think she could/will be stunning but if I am honest, it won't be effortless for her.

Ds still has his blonde curls and big blue eyes with enormously long eyelashes. He does get comments from strangers. He's still only 4 so it could still be toddler cuteness, or he might be a head-turner forever.

I have never said this out loud!

I think my toddler (21mths) is gorgeous at the moment! He wasn't great looking as a new born ie. first day and I was worried that he would not get better looking.

I've seen both better and worse looking ones than my DS but with his lovely shaped mouth, big eyes and lashes, he is perfect in my eyes.

People always say how gorgeous he is and I give my standard reply....with me as his mother, what would you expect?....

When DS was born he was the most gorgeous thing I had ever seen. It made me ache, he was so pretty.

Looking back at photos he looked like a weird little alien.

NOW he is the most stunning looking thing in the world though

:o lol @ Milly

DD1 (2.9) was a preternaturally beautiful newborn - very alert with enormous eyes and clear skin. She is still a beautiful toddler.

DD2 was born with massive cheeks, a mohawk, and broken ears (seemed to have been bent the wrong way in utero). DH even said she was ugly when she was a newborn. It's just as easy to love the way your weird-looking child looks as your beauty. Her sticky-out ears and chipmunk cheeks still melt my heart. It isn't even about them being "nice inside" when they're tiny.

She's now 11 months and is super, super cute. Most children of that age are tbh. She's all chub and big smiles, but definitely beautiful.

How long either of them will stay that way is anybody's guess. I just hope they grow up to be nice enough people that people think they are lovely regardless of actual physical beauty.

DD was born looking kind of mucky and red and wrinkly. When she woke up a bit and grew into her skin she was a very pretty baby from about 2 weeks to three months, then she entered a very chubby yoda-esque stage which lasted until about 10 months, she was cute again for a while then. Interspersed with awkward stages she was very very sweet looking at 1.5 years and 2.5 years, but she's just coming out of a very long scruffy phase now at 4.5 years.

So she's periodically beautiful Still think she'll be a stunning adult, but then I would

I thought DS was the most beautiful little babyever when he was born. I was sat in the hospital, flicking through some baby booklet thing and telling everyone that DS was cuter than all the babies in the book.

I still think he is beautiful. I can be a little bit objective though. I went on a MN meet-up, and while all the babies there were cute, there was one MNer whose DS was just the most stunning baby I've ever seen. I had to admit to myself that he was much cuter than DS.

I think i agree with you actually lequeen - i would say ds is cute maybe rather than beautiful, on reflection. I guess their little faces are too chubby to be beautiful? That probably doesn't make sense... Just that beautiful is sort of graceful, elegant, and most children just aren't

My husband and I were looking at our twins this morning as we were all laying in bed together and we commented how extremely lucky we must be to get the TWO most beautiful babies in the world in one go.

However, we have four other children who we also thought were the most gorgeous things ever, and looking back at photos, particularly of DS2 we can see that love really is blind. He was not cute at all, he was pale, thin and had enormous ears but at the time i was besotted with his beauty. Now he is nine, i still think he is gorgeous and adorable and think other parents must be slightly jealous of his good looks but know i will look back at photos of him now and think he looks a bit odd.

I have a friend who is constantly saying how beautiful her dd is and is always posting pictures of her all over her facebook page, I wouldn't mind as much if she actually was.