to be cross with a mums comment about mental health

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a mum i am friendly with at my boys school this afternoon was chatting to me & another mum,she said she was being refered to mental health team as she may be bi polar,which is fine but it was what she said after that she hopes she is as it means more money and shes going to make sure sure she gets everything she can,she has 3 kids,partner has a few weeks ago come out of prison for drug dealing has ss on her back all the time,she was working but gave it up as its easier to claim income support,now my eldest gets DLA as he is dyspraxic,i would gladly give it up to have a healthy child,a close friend of mine has bi polar and it inst nice,she really struggles and sure as hell doesnt see it as an easy way to make money!

Sorry for typos, having a bit of a power struggle with the auto correct on iPod

www.citizensadvice.co.uk/en/News/Old-News/DLA-Changes-Announced-in-the-Budget/

The changes wont come in until 2013.

Blimey - I'm also interested in where the MH hospitals are that people can just check in and use it like a doss house.

On the subject of "knowing" whether someone is ill or not looking in from the outside.

When I was at my absolute lowest no-one that knew me had any idea. The view to the outside world was one of me coping brilliantly and laughing/joking my way through life.

It was only my (at that time relatively "new") best friend who suspected that I wasn't coping as well I'd said I was.

She was right, I was drink one of those small bottles of brandy a day (thankfully stopped that after 4/5 weeks and a lot of support) and just a couple of weeks later I was in hospital attached to a drip for 2 days having taken an OD.

Very few people know what happened. Very few people know how low I was. Most don't know about other bouts of depression I've had (one earlier this year) - or the panic attacks (thankfully on the milder side) I had for several months at the end of last year/early this year.

Barouqin.

I hope you are feeling better at the moment, I know it comes in cycles and never leaves us, I always think it just goes to sleep sometimes, waiting like a predator to catch you again when things are looking up.

Yes I am doing great at the moment thanks Fabby

Thankfully my worst episode (nearly 3yrs ago now!) I learned a lot from, so the most recent one I managed to get help before it got too bad.

I always think it's a pita that we don't get spots on our head or something, some physical sign, because people cannot see it they do not understand it or even believe it in some cases.

What gets my goat is the pull yourself together comments!

Glad you feeling good.

Baroqin, how do you know if you are getting bad? I can see the start of my bad episodes in hindsight but struggle to identify it when it is happening. Really want to learn how to get help before I get so bad that I end up inhospital again.

Memoo you can feel it, little things start bothering you again that did not before.

More things causes you angst.

You start to feel tearful again.

Start to look on the negative as opposed to the positive.

This is why self management courses and making relapse signatures and so on can be helpful. I was in and out of hospital a lot for a few years, although do think that was due mainly to antidepressants making me more ill more often, but can't imagine ever being in hospital again.

I think might ask my cpn about doing a self management course, sounds like a really good idea

Am on my phone so struggling to read the thread, but did someone really describe MH hospitals as places to "doss"??

Also apologies, just realised this is an older thread. Damn phone