to be cross with a mums comment about mental health

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a mum i am friendly with at my boys school this afternoon was chatting to me & another mum,she said she was being refered to mental health team as she may be bi polar,which is fine but it was what she said after that she hopes she is as it means more money and shes going to make sure sure she gets everything she can,she has 3 kids,partner has a few weeks ago come out of prison for drug dealing has ss on her back all the time,she was working but gave it up as its easier to claim income support,now my eldest gets DLA as he is dyspraxic,i would gladly give it up to have a healthy child,a close friend of mine has bi polar and it inst nice,she really struggles and sure as hell doesnt see it as an easy way to make money!

If she is making it up then she is in the wrong.BUT I am getting fed up of all the benefit bashing on mumsnet.Mental illness can be so debilitating it warrants the higher rate of DLA.
The government is thinking of cutting back the DLA bill bt 20%.They have already cut the Independent living fund. Get angry about that. All this scrounger bashing is such a distraction from this.

Because untreated bi-polar disorder doesn't ever cause people to say/do inappropriate things in social situations.

with DLA and three kids she will be on an effective income circa £22K.

I have bipolar, before i diagnosis i was in a state, bouncing between suicidal depression and manical highs, where id spend £15000 in a weekend because i thought we afford the payments, (we could but its not really the point is it!) Id have ideas of DH quitting his job and we were going to buy a pub, then half hour after manically planning, in EXTREME detail this new life we were going to start, the baby would move inside me and id be convinced it was a sign and how could i be so stupid and hate myself, and my 1 yr old son and my DH for letting me get to that point.

DO you see, its exhausting, in a day i used to go through this at least 6-7 times, i was whats called rapid cycling. If this woman has this dreadful thing id pitty her, not ridicule the idea of her getting some 'payout' for it. Its like living through the 7 hells...before breakfast. getting on the right drug and amount has taken two years, and it was only that QUICK because of previous family treatments.

Her attitude is shit, but OP i find yours more damaging.

ps, we paid off the 30k debt ourselves (still paying off!) and recieve nothing from the state, i cant work, i can just about look after the kids, but i dont do massivly well.

How did you get DLA for your son for dyspraxia whats the money given for and how much do you get? this is very useful info

goose i get dla for my eldest son,im not bashing benefits,last person to have a right to do that,have been on them a few times,but i do hate when people milk it and its ones like that that make it hard for others who do need it,it may come to nothing yet as she has to be seen first.

And bollocks

No of course you're not bashing it, you're just appointing yourself arbiter. Until your Psych qualifications materialise you're just a judgemental arse though.

I'd sell your story to The Daily Wail - they LOVE this kind of thing

I'm going to masturbate myself with a pickled onion now.

Top quality info Shirley.

Don't hold back Shirley, sweet or sharp vinegar?

well don't be too hasty - I have been to the job centre and heard mother after mother going to the desk and complaining of mental health problems - BPD, Bipolar, Depression are common complaints by people who have been on benefit for a long time when they want to increase their income - seeing as I was nearly diagnosed as bipolar by a rather rubbish counsellor (do you have times when everything is firing on all cylinders and you seem to be able to do anything - yes, do you have times when you feel so low and defeated its difficult to get out of bed or get anything done - yes - even though this used to be called 'having emotions'!), and that a doctor who I went to to explain that I was feeling overwhelmed more than usual and wanted a break tried to prescribe prozac instead and said 'severe depression' at one point ( when I went to another doctor he said 'no wonder, what an awful time, eat well go for walks and see me next week')

I am sure its very easy to get any number of these minor diagnoses to get benefits - I do know a mother who had a supposed severe joint injury that meant she couldn't work and 'needed' a £50K block pavement around her house who regularly walked around town, chatted on the phone all day and typed all over the internet - if those aren't work skill I don't know what are!

Barry Norman's to be precise.

I hate these threads.

Are you a scientologist or just a Daily Mail reader Heroine? It's hard to tell

The film critic?

Wow

You learn something new every day.

Oh scientology all the way - go thetans!

her benefit assessment will be subject to medical corroboration report how her condition impacts upon her.this in itself isnt automatic guarantee of rate she will be paid

After reading Heroines misinformed nonesense post I am developing an interest in pickled onions. Purely platonic though.

Can't be bothered to debate whether bipolar/BPD/depression are debilitating or normal emotions, I think the medical profession has already decided.

ohnono he gets middle rate for care and lower for mobilty,it wasnt easy to get i had help from a place here that helps parents & children with disabilties,in all the time i have known here i have never seen her like baby said,she was going on about get debts written off if she is bi polar?ive never heard of it but someone told her she could get it all cleared as bi polar do then to spend like mad.

heroine a neighbour that use to live by us claimed everything stating she couldnt go out and was house bound etc yet could go clubbing 3 nights a week?she use to get another neighbour to run around for her i had her son knocking on my door asking me to go get his mum some fags from the shop as she couldnt go out and was banned from the shop.

I'm still in shock. Barry Norman pickled onions? Am I going to discover that Les Dennis now has a range of preserves? Or that Sir Trevor Phillips makes an excellent mustard/honey marinade?

Prozac for Bipolar sounds odd, it would make it worse in most cases..are you sure they were trying to treat you for bipolar, or just depression and thought you might be bipolar??

either way your not obviously so think yourself lucky, its a fucker!

Thought it was lithium based meds for bipolar?