to think that there are very few jobs which fit in with young children in school?

[jamieoliverfan]

Especially considering how often they get ill (my dc started in September and has been off ill for 20 days with 2 tummy bugs, 3 double ear infections and now tonsillitis and ear infection) plus then there are all the school holidays.

Both dh and I don't want to leave our dc in before and after school childcare or childcare during the Holidays as we believe that we should look after our own child. So I would like to know what jobs could you do between 9.30 and 15.00 Monday to Friday except term time and during illness?

I have contacted supermarkets: they were not interested re how to deal with flexibility in case of illness (dh cannot take time off in these circumstances)(i.e.unpaid leave I suggested, but that was not possible). Also contacted local businesses but they thought the hours were too restricted and that school holidays would be a problem.

Is there anybody who has a job during term time with some flexibility in case of children being ill? What do you do and how did you get it?

Thanks a lot.

Wow, just read the 'dumped on others' post. Unfriendly.

I 'dumped' DC1 in childcare to train for the job I now don't have to use childcare for.

Am glad I did.

So was he, he loved it.

Apologies if repeating other posts as am supposed to be working so can't read through 13 pages...

But wanted to add - if the OP wants a job with that much flexibility, maybe she should become self-employed. I can't think of any job which allows you to take time off whenever you want to at the drop of a hat - other than working for yourself. Perhaps she could train up in a trade such has hairdressing, plumbing, whatever.

BTW - I agree that some of OP's comments about not 'dumping her children on other people' do not come across well, but I am choosing to ignore them as my new year's resolution (for the next few days anyway) is to be nice to everyone, even if they are snotty bollock-heads

[elbows Violethill, 007, LeQueen, Litchick and Honeydragon out of the way and begins sycophanting at Getorf]

Can I join in the shameless admissions of dumping? I went back to work just before 6 months and dumped DS in nursery. I was slightly horrified to discover that my cunning plan to make him thoroughly miserable backfired and he loves it so much that he regularly cries when I come to take him away.

I am now part time - 2 days in court and 1 day from home as we have moved out of London. We probably could manage with me being at home full-time but it is quite possible that my head would explode.

I have an even more dastardly plan to occasionally dump DS on MIL in order to work on a work from home project that I have started. I might even drink tea sometimes. Perhaps allow myself the luxury of a wee without a small person pointing and laughing.

Strangely, DS seems pretty happy and well-adjusted. Sorry to all you WOHM-bashers who would like to think of him languishing sadly in a prison-like nursery, perhaps sitting in the corner all on his own.

Im in the same situation really. I really want to get back into work, but as it will only be part-time I dont think I could afford the breakfast/afterschool clubs. My youngest is still only at morning nursery so she cant use the school club faciliites anyhow, so I would need a childminder, it is difficult. My best option at the moment is to work evening shifts at a supermarket or something then I have DF to watch kids. Once youngest is in full-time school I'd probably use the school clubs and get a day time job, Ive spend the past four years being a SAHM and I think I deserve to go back to work and try and get a well paid job and to stay sane if that means they have to have an extra few hours at school then so be it.
Im hoping to do a training course of some kind whilst working evenings so my route to a full-time fairly well paid job next year wil be easier.
Im not sure what would happen when DC's are ill, I'd have to hope between work being flexible, DF being able to take a few days off if needs be and my mum that it will work out.
As someone said in an earlier post I think they get 'less' ill the older they get. My DD aged 4 and been at nursery nearly a yr has a cold every few months, however my 7yr old hardly gets a thing,as I think he's built he;s immune system up.

I hope DD reciprocates the favour and dumps me in an old folk's home when I am old and smelly.

It won't be whist drives and tea dances in 2050 - it will be all Old style 1990s raves and Sing Star marathons for the elderly by then

Lol at the thought of myself as a 78 year old wearing dungarees, a global hypercolour tee shirt and dancing around going 'AcEEEEEEEEED' with a dicso whistle round my neck.

Danser - don't feel guilty, that's a mug's game.

I have someone work for me who is the product of a FT working mother from a young age. I asked her how she felt about it (she is 22 btw). She said she had a lovely time, she and her brother helped at home and they LOVED going to the childminders after school. She said she would do exactly the same with her kids.

Dumping them doesn't mean your kids will grow up resenting you. The opposite in fact.

[looks around before whispering quietly to LeQueen that it is all a front]

Will the home have internet so that we can come on MN and laugh at the latest advice about hanging babies upside down to sleep and not weaning before 18?

There aren't many jobs like you describe, OP, and I think the best bet for you would be to become self employed. If you look in the "going back to work" section on here there are some suggestions, like Avon, Usborne Books, Phoenix Cards, etc....

You could also childmind or babysit?

I think you have alienated a few people on here by using the words "dumping". I think most people use childcare in order to further/keep their careers or earn a living, so using that term is offensive.

I still think you are a bunch of meanies. I have seen OPs over the years that are positively vile and people say "OP is entitled to her opinion and free speech" this was OTT.

op i think some of the responses you have had some not so nice replies, just ignore the sarcasm.

i also agree with checking out local pre schools/nurseries/schools and see if they have any job vacancies to offer, or a part time receptionist at docs/dentist.

good luck hope you find something.

op i think some of the responses you have had some not so nice replies, just ignore the sarcasm.

i also agree with checking out local pre schools/nurseries/schools and see if they have any job vacancies to offer, or a part time receptionist at docs/dentist.

good luck hope you find something.

Another dumper of children here!

DD gets kicked through the doors of nursery and I drop baby DS down my childminder's chimney. Luckily, he is a chubby little fellow so he bounces.

But, ahem, seriously - I work part time (was full time when I just had DD) and mostly from home (editing). So when DD starts school, I'll be able to do most of the school runs. I suspect it's tricky to find a job like mine - it took me a few years of pre-DC hard work to sort out this flexibility.

Anyway, I am spreading some love around . Let's all help each other, whatever our choices - or lack of.

My first was "dumped". My younger ones had SN so it was harder. I was lucky that I can work for myself from home. It is still hard to fit it around without a partner with a flexible job. I don't work in the holidays, I do work when the kids are asleep. Good Luck finding someting. I have friends who both work part time so that kids can get picked up from school by them most days.

I work evenings as a retail manager. I do school runs and look after our baby in the day then go to work 4evenings. Dh does tea and bedtime, and homework in the week. I do weekend homework. No issue with holidays etc. I go to all school events, I even volunteer one afternoon a week and do baking with reception class while our baby is with pil for a couple of hours.