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Original poster

to think that there are very few jobs which fit in with young children in school?

517 replies

jamieoliverfan · 04/01/2011 20:08

Especially considering how often they get ill (my dc started in September and has been off ill for 20 days with 2 tummy bugs, 3 double ear infections and now tonsillitis and ear infection) plus then there are all the school holidays.

Both dh and I don't want to leave our dc in before and after school childcare or childcare during the Holidays as we believe that we should look after our own child. So I would like to know what jobs could you do between 9.30 and 15.00 Monday to Friday except term time and during illness?

I have contacted supermarkets: they were not interested re how to deal with flexibility in case of illness (dh cannot take time off in these circumstances)(i.e.unpaid leave I suggested, but that was not possible). Also contacted local businesses but they thought the hours were too restricted and that school holidays would be a problem.

Is there anybody who has a job during term time with some flexibility in case of children being ill? What do you do and how did you get it?

Thanks a lot.

OP posts:
moondog · 04/01/2011 20:11

Oh FGS.
Some people will only ever be happy if their paid work takes second third and fourth place to everything else going on in their lives.

What else do you stipulate?
A paid limo to the office?
in house massage?

You are meant to fit your life around the job, not vice versa.
That';s how this emplyoment thing works.

Goober · 04/01/2011 20:12

Here, here Moondog.

JoBettany · 04/01/2011 20:14

I do look after my own child thank you very much, but I also work full time so have to use breakfast club and after school club to help.

NorfolkNChance · 04/01/2011 20:15

Before and after school care are pretty much unavoidable but as for the other...

It's called PGCE/GTP/SCITT

rubyslippers · 04/01/2011 20:15

You juggle
You use clubs
Friends/unpaid leave etc

Why cant your DH take time off?

Original poster
jamieoliverfan · 04/01/2011 20:15

because our children are the priority for us and we don't like dumping them on others. Also, we think we are best placed to look after our own children as we clearly can solely focus on them and have their best interest at heart. We specifically chose to have children so we feel that they are our responsibility not of society. Also, we do not need the latest car and expensive holidays, clothes etc. to be happy ...

OP posts:
gordyslovesheep · 04/01/2011 20:15

pmsl Hear hear Moondog

I DO look after my own children - but for a few hours 3 days a week

do you class your child being at school as 'somebody else looking after them' - maybe if you where a really ace parent you'd home school - thus never having to work again!

thisisyesterday · 04/01/2011 20:15

i used to work in catering and we had quite a lot of mums there who just worked school hours, or a bit over

basically just working in a cafe

jamaisjedors · 04/01/2011 20:16

Exactly moondog.

What is with all the whining about "oh I would love to work but it's impossible because..."

By the way you killed any sympathy anyone might have with your line of : "we believe that we should look after our own child".

Is this some kind of religious belief?

gordyslovesheep · 04/01/2011 20:16

oh and I think my children need a home and food and silly things like that to be happy - silly me!

ENormaSnob · 04/01/2011 20:16

Yabu

can't even be arsed to stipulate why

Original poster
jamieoliverfan · 04/01/2011 20:17

my last posting was meant for Moondog and Goober

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LovePinkBitsOfMyHorse · 04/01/2011 20:17

so have neither of you worked until now?

rubyslippers · 04/01/2011 20:17

What are you talking about jamieoliver?!

How did you jump to the holiday bollox?

I work to pay my mortgage Hmm

loflo · 04/01/2011 20:17

Well then don't work and be at home for the children. Can't have it every way I'm afraid. And at the moment its an employers market.

I also have my childs best interests at heart but the mortgage has to be paid.....

moondog · 04/01/2011 20:17

Well it would be fair for someone planning on employing you to want to know that you consider work a priority too.
Which you obviously don't.
So there you go.

thisisyesterday · 04/01/2011 20:17

oh fgs, the OP is only asking if it's possible to get a job during school hours

just like hundreds of other pepoe have on here over the years

what's the problem? if you don't know, then why bother replying?

jamaisjedors · 04/01/2011 20:18

"Also, we do not need the latest car and expensive holidays, clothes etc. to be happy ..."

Well aren't you great? Grin

MumInBeds · 04/01/2011 20:18

All that is fine if you accept that being able and available to be with your children at all their out of school time is a luxury not the usual starting point.

Working parents do look after their own children, they do so in a very important way, by providing for their needs as well as the time they can spend with them.

TandB · 04/01/2011 20:18

Oh bog off, OP. Inspired by the other thread were we? Got a bit excited about our own self-worth did we? Fancied telling those nasty working mummies where they are going wrong?
FFS. This is getting tedious.

JoBettany · 04/01/2011 20:18

My son is my priority and I don't dump him anywhere. What a cheek!

If you won't consider child care and don't need the money why bother even looking?

activate · 04/01/2011 20:19

I work in a school - term-time only

the rest you make concessions about

you don't go in banging on about ill kids that just happens and you work it out when you need to

RealityIsShaggingWithIntent · 04/01/2011 20:19

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undercovamutha · 04/01/2011 20:19

Agree Moondog.

OP if you don't want to work, then don't work. Noone's forcing you. However, don't expect the rest of the world to bend over to meet your specific requirements.

And btw, not everyone who works does so to afford luxuries ffs.

Violethill · 04/01/2011 20:20

I think you'll find most parents believe in looking after their own children.
They just happen to use some forms of childcare too because raising children doesn't mean being velcroed to them 24/7

Your logic is rather strange anyway, since your children are in school for 6 hours a day. Why is that 'ok', but after school club isn't?

Anyway, to answer your dilemna, is you're looking for a job between 9.30 and 15.00, Mon to Fri, term time only with a lot of days off randomly then no, I don't think you'll find many employers jumping

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