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I just need to get it off my chest so angry

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 03:08

I am so tired and can't sleep with what I have been told......I love my sons

I have never wished harm on anyone but I hope this scum feels some pain.

Preying on women with kids!!!

My sons were never alone with him they are safe but he wanted to spend time with my eldest......

I fucking feel ill thinking what could have happened!

He wanted to collect my eldest from his late basketball match
it was cancelled but he was going to....

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ChippingIn · 02/01/2011 03:12

What did you find out about him? How did you find it out?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 03:15

he is a peadophile

I found out via the friend who introduced us.

she found out yesterday

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ItsGraceAgain · 02/01/2011 03:19

OMG, TLES. Is this your partner? The one who's happy to stay home with your kids while you go down the pub?

Christ.

giraffesCantGoFirstFooting · 02/01/2011 03:19

How do you know this? Perhaps this is something you need to speak to the police about?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 03:24

ItsGrace

No not my partner.

It is a mutual friend of mine and another friend

He was caught licking her sons face

his friend told her he is dangerous

watch him

he likes children

he loves little boys

he was always wanting to take my son out

he has previous acusations

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ItsGraceAgain · 02/01/2011 03:27

Eeuww! Gruesome!

I'm VERY relieved it's not your partner, that would be beyond awful.

Glad you know about this now - no footy trips (or anything else) for him, then. Lucky escape.

Poor old friend's DS! Licking his face???! Yuk.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 03:33

My Partner is the least harmful person you could meet tbh.

this person - well I am just sickened to my stomach

I need to go to bed but i can't

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MrsShrekTheThird · 02/01/2011 03:36

hi TLE
god, that's awful
and no wonder you cant sleep

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 03:37

I am going to try and sleep

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Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 03:37

I need to as ds2 will be up in 5 hours

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MrsShrekTheThird · 02/01/2011 03:46

get a rest even if you can't sleep
catch you tomorrow :)

giraffesCantGoFirstFooting · 02/01/2011 10:35

So are the police involved?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 12:51

will be back to reply later have things to do.

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whatkatydidathome · 02/01/2011 12:55

are you sure that he is a peodiphile? A friend of mine's dh was similarly accused. Turned out that it was all fabrications (including what he supposedly was caught doing to a child) by a jealous ex.

mutznutz · 02/01/2011 12:59

Well I hope whoever is saying this about the man has some sort of credible proof?

I'm not sure licking a child's face makes him a pedeophile? But I expect there's more to it....

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 13:06

WKDAH, it turns out this man has previously been charged. And this wouldn't be a jealous ex. He is homosexual and all previous accusations were made by women.

MutzNutz - there is a lot more to it...just I cannot go into too much detail tbh.

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theevildead2 · 02/01/2011 13:18

What would be an acceptable excuse for licking a child mutznutz? Someone elses child?

If a stranger licked my face I'd call him a sex pest.

paarrp · 02/01/2011 13:24

Horrible stuff - was he ever convicted?

missmehalia · 02/01/2011 13:32

If you've got any arnica, take some - you're probably in shock! Awful, awful news. Be careful about repeating this to anyone before you've got full grasp of the FACTS. Being charged isn't quite the same as having a conviction. My children sometimes have 'lick fights' (as in, 'er, girl's germs!! etc' Revolting but harmless.)

I'd speak to the police directly if I were you about whatever public records exist about situations like this. Heresay can be damaging.

Having said all that, I'd never want him within 100 yards of me or my entire family after that. I totally understand the sick feeling.

ManateeEquineOhara · 02/01/2011 13:50

How horrible, at least you didn't ever let him spend time alone with your kids, but what a horrid feeling for you.

Have you told the police, they should know.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 13:56

I am waiting until I have more info from my friend. She has spoken to them and so I figure they will be in touch.

Apparently he is/has contacted SS because apparently DS1 needs (in this persons opinion) more hugs and loving....

I am not sure if he was convicted. Its just a very horrible situation.

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theevildead2 · 02/01/2011 14:07

TLE you met this person through a mutual friend, and she has only just been informed by another friend that he shoudln't be around children? Why has no one said anything before?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/01/2011 14:54

no idea why nobody said anything before.

I just know this has all just come out

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mutznutz · 02/01/2011 14:59

theevildead2 Sun 02-Jan-11 13:18:47
What would be an acceptable excuse for licking a child mutznutz? Someone elses child?

If a stranger licked my face I'd call him a sex pest.

I didn't say there was an acceptable excuse...I said it didn't make him a peodiaphile.

theevildead2 · 02/01/2011 15:01

I can't see licking a random child (that isn't yours in a jokey way) wouldn't have some kind of dodgy reasons behind it. If he is sexually attracted to children he is a peadophile.