To think that young children shouldn't be in the pub on NYE?

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I single mum I know has put on Facebook that she's looking forward to going to the pub tonight to celebrate NYE with her DS(2.6)

I understand that everyone wants to go out on NYE but surely when you have DC's your priorities have to change. DH works in a pub and will be working tonight, and I have no intention of taking DS(also 2.6) out, he will be in bed at 8pm like he is any other night of the year!

Before I get flamed I'm not saying being a single mum makes her a bad mother or has any relevance, just that she doesn't have a DP to go out celebrating with, ANC obviously doesn't want to stay in by herself being boring!

Personally, i'm looking forward to some peace while DH is out, a glass of wine and turning up some curtains!

I'm going to the pub tonight with my dh and my 10 year old dd. I might even let her have a Fruit Shoot and if she's really good, she can have scampi fries at midnight :D

My son isn't having Fruit Shoot - it's £1.50 a pop in our pub! He can have lime and soda....

OP - you sound like a bundle of fun.

I hope you friend has a great time!

I wouldn't want to spend time in a pub that was too rough for DC. who wants to meet the new year in the middle of a fight, crushed into a smelly armpit or vomiting?

Would presume she is popping out to a grown up local pub with some friends and seeing how her evening goes. if it goes well, lots of people to give dc attention, and a bit of fun for mum. If it goes badly, they go home.

Meh. What's the drama?

If you are home alone turning up curtains, why don't you offer to babysit for her? I'm sure as a single mum she needs a night off.

Im not out tonight but I agree with some other posters that a lot of pubs round herre are putting on family nights. One has a chocolate fountain, family disco and party food. I really dont see the problem in going to something like this.

Its one night a year lighten up!

'Jan 1st is no different to any other day to a 2yo!'

That's because you make it so.
Christmas, birthdays, Easter, summer hols, all just days unless you make them special.

And I never said you were a bad mother. I said you sounded routine bound. And a bit nosey

Oh my you'd really hate us - DD has been to loads of weddings, asleep in the corner while we got tipsy and had a dance, to my xmas works do in a london pub, in a sling at 4months, to many many parties at friends houses, until she was 9m dh worked in a pub and I used to quite often visit him with her in the sling of an evening when she was tiny, on holidays we're definitely one of those families with children around the restaurant/bar until late...

She was boob obssessed and so attached to me for a long time, and we don't have much cash to pay for babysitters, or any family nearby, so the choice was to always stay in/go home early or to take her with us, we chose to take her with us.

She's also come to work with me regularly since she was 5weeks old, she's now a fabulously adaptable and polite 3 year old, who knows how to behave in adult environments.

we're not going out tonight though because I'm 37weeks pg with DC2 and can't muster the energy for anything more than jools on the telly!

I will be having a cheeky glass of vino though, which I suppose will also have you marking me down as an awful mother...

Robyn you'll notice I actually said in my OP I'd be having a glass of wine.

It would seem I must be the awful mother, how fucking boring of me wanting to stay at home with my DS rather than dragging him out on a cold night while I get pissed off my tits.

Just realised you said you're 37 weeks pregnant ...

I'm going to stay in and darn socks

The child is 2 tho isn't he? Not old enough to have a good time running around with the others, drinking too much coke and staying up late. He'll just be tired and miserable I should think. It might be different with a seven year old.

I'm an ex-landlady (me and Babs Windsor both) and I hated people bringing children in for late nights - luckily the licensing laws then made them take them home eventually.

oooh! my first biscuit

you're not 'the awful mother' there are just many different ways of doing this parenting lark, which produce many different types of people - the world would be bloody dull if everyone were brought up in the same way.

I think you're being awfully judgy, but that doesn't make you a bad mum!

Thanks robyn (I think!).

I've never had a biscuit

I think I agree with SuePurbly tbh, when theyre in the tiny baby sleep anywhere stage it doesn't matter, whereas an older child can understand and it's exciting.

DS would just wonder what the fuss is all about and be whingey and irritable.

whereas my 3yo would have a great time, and would've done so last year too - she loves being in 'adult company' and we, and our friends love having her around...as I said every child/parent/person/pub/social group is different, what's ideal for one would be a nightmare for another.

OP there is a medium between staying in to turn up some curtains and getting pissed while ignoring your kids.

I went to a pub for NYE last year and there were children there (5-8). It was fine, they were no trouble and it wasn't massively busy. I considered taking my 2 month old this year but would spend a lot of the time with my boobies out as she feeds loads in the evening.

And Jan 1st isn't just any other day for my 3 year old- its her birthday!!

depends on the pub! local non-fighty pubs are great fun, obv not town bars and clubs

DS used to love child friendly events in pubs

hasn't it come to something where celebrating with your child is frowned upon?
are our drinking habits so bad that we cannot drink in the vicinity of children? if so should we be tutting and cat-bum-mouthing at those having house parties ?

children should be able to be included, and celebrations should be child friendly (until 1am!)

hope your 'friend' and her DS have a great time. if you're that concerned about his welfare offer support

It depends on the pub! They might be having a family party. My sister and BIL are going to a football club where they're having a family disco so they're taking both my nephews (nearly 12 and nearly 20 months) the 20 month old is of an age where, if he gets tired, he can sleep in the pushchair! The 12 year old could go on all night!

My DH is taking DD to a pub that has a soft play attatched. They're having a party with crafts or something for the children and DH and DD are meeting some friends. I'm not going because I'm not feeling very well but I'm pretty sure that they won't be staying out until midnight!

The child is 2 tho isn't he? Not old enough to have a good time running around with the others, drinking too much coke and staying up late. He'll just be tired and miserable I should think. It might be different with a seven year old.

It depends on the child. My youngest nephew will probably have a great time tonight! At our wedding a few months ago he had a great time on the dancefloor. Same with DD (3) she was up dancing all night and if there are other children there they have someone to play with.

Just got back from the pub. It was over run with children so I ran away for a restful evening darning my judgeypants.

Tbh whenever I have been to these family type nights in the past a longggggg time ago.....It's full of parents getting pissed and leaving the kids to run riot. Whilst the adults are smashed. YANBU.

Xmas is for the kids, NY Eve is for Grown Ups. I would utterly HATE to see any kids in the pub were I to go to one. We stayed in unless grandparents happened to be staying with us or we stayed with them and they babysat.