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Original poster

To think that young children shouldn't be in the pub on NYE?

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chocolatebuttontheif · 31/12/2010 12:42

I single mum I know has put on Facebook that she's looking forward to going to the pub tonight to celebrate NYE with her DS(2.6)

I understand that everyone wants to go out on NYE but surely when you have DC's your priorities have to change. DH works in a pub and will be working tonight, and I have no intention of taking DS(also 2.6) out, he will be in bed at 8pm like he is any other night of the year!

Before I get flamed I'm not saying being a single mum makes her a bad mother or has any relevance, just that she doesn't have a DP to go out celebrating with, ANC obviously doesn't want to stay in by herself being boring!

Personally, i'm looking forward to some peace while DH is out, a glass of wine and turning up some curtains!

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KERALA1 · 31/12/2010 13:26

TYANBU. Actually totally disagree with christmaswishes. I think NYE is for teenagers and adults - dont really see whats in it at all for children. In our family my parents made it clear that NYE was for friends surely everyones had enough of family after Christmas Grin.

KERALA1 · 31/12/2010 13:27

Dont know where the rogue "T" came from!

mumto2andnomore · 31/12/2010 13:27

Depends on the pub like people have said.

I would be more inclined to judge you for turning up curtains on NYE, you sound great fun.

backwardpossom · 31/12/2010 13:27

Think? Wink

PuppyMonkey · 31/12/2010 13:29

Best NYE I ever had was a few years back when our local was run by a smashing couple who always turned a blind eye to kids in the pub. We bought DD1 who was about six at the time. There were loads of other kids there, with parents having a smashing time. Till way after midnight. All the locals sans kids didn't give two hoots as it was such a lovely atmosphere. It really was a great NY for all of us. Sadly the couple moved to another pub the next year - and the landlord who took over insisted on no kids after 9pm boo.

IMHO it's no different to having kids come to wedding. It's fun!

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chocolatebuttontheif · 31/12/2010 13:31

mumto2 what would you suggest I should be doing instead then while DH is at work?

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SerendipitousHarlot · 31/12/2010 13:31

I have difficulty understanding why some parents never feel the need for a night out without the children! I can understand having to take the kids with you on a night like tonight if you can't get a babysitter, but don't you crave some freedom from parenthood sometimes?

LadyBiscuit · 31/12/2010 13:32

Well perhaps if you were in on your own every single evening, you might have a bit of a clue why being stuck in on your own doesn't feel like a 'bit of peace while your DH is out' Hmm

ilovesooty · 31/12/2010 13:32

"A pub on NYE is an adult environment, not a child friendly one. Plenty of people will be paying lots of money to babysitters so they can go out and enjoy themselves child-free, so I can understand they dont want other children around. Its nice to have an adult only night out sometimes!"

Agreed charliesmommy

It's the one night my (normally) very child friendly social club specifies no children.

mumto2andnomore · 31/12/2010 13:33

Get some friends round or even if you have to be alone have a nice long bath, watch a film, drink whatever you fancy and have some nice nibbles and chocolate. Surely that would be more fun ?

Catnao · 31/12/2010 13:37

We will be taking our son (10) with us to a drinks party in the village, and then going on to the local pub - along with everyone else and their kids. Same on Christmas Eve. As others have said - nice friendly atmosphere, good fun, no-one objects to the kids, who tend to sit on their own table anyway. People tend to leave when their children become tired and have had enough.
This is a small village pub though - wouldn't be taking him clubbing in town obviously! Grin

Giftwrapped · 31/12/2010 13:38

Not if you've already done that for the other 6 nights of the week, no it's definitely not more fun!

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 31/12/2010 13:40

'WRT kids running around until all hours on holiday, there isn't a difference, i judge them as well!'

In that case I think you need to get a life.
Judging others and scouring Facebook to assess the suitability of other people's NY plans are rather unattractive qualities.

I think it's sad that people feel their children cannot be part of celebrations, go out for late dinner on holiday, stay up late on Christmas night. A bit of flexibility in your routine won't harm your child.

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chocolatebuttontheif · 31/12/2010 14:11

Thanks morecrack, what a bad mother I must be for not letting a 2yo stay up until past midnight for no significant reason. Jan 1st is no different to any other day to a 2yo!

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DreamTeamGirl · 31/12/2010 14:16

But seriously chocolatebutton
You would go on holiday to a hot foreign country and put your child to bed at 8pm? And therefore be in a dark hotel room yourself at 8pm?

And you still havent answered- what sort of pub is she taking her child to?

saffy85 · 31/12/2010 14:22

My local lets children in in the evenings but they have to be gone by 9pm. I've taken DD loads of times on a friday never had any problems, not all pubs have fights of an evening Hmm. Some people need to get over themselves.

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chocolatebuttontheif · 31/12/2010 14:22

We don't go on holidays because we can't afford it!

I would maybe let him stay up a bit later but it would depend on how he was. I don't agree with staying in the pub until they're so exhausted they fall asleep across two chairs or in a pile of coats while the parents carry on boozing. If they're that tired they should be in bed.

Someone asked on the 1st page what sort of pub it is. It isn't a private party or tickets only, I know it will be packed full of drunken idiots because it always is on NYE.

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DooinMeCleanin · 31/12/2010 14:28

YABU loads of pubs around here are putting on family parties, she is probbaly going somewhere similar or I can't see the child being allowed to stay the night.

Even our local soft play pub is open until 1:30am with special entertainment of the little ones.

Mine will be at a party. There will be lots of drink consumed, lots of loud music and bad kareoke singers. At the last party SIL danced on tables with her dress tucked into her knickers.

They will be at the party until at least 2am.

And I'm not even a single parent Shock

The dogs are also going to a party but at a different house. They will be pulling an all nighter, the dirty little stop outs Xmas Grin

JemimaMop · 31/12/2010 14:30

DH and I are going out tonight with a group of friends to a quiet rural pub. Several people have thought that we were odd not to take our DC (4, 6 and 8) with us! We actually wanted a child free night though Grin

The DC will be being looked after by Grandma, and if she lets them stay up until midnight she can deal with the consequences that is up to her.

lazylula · 31/12/2010 14:31

I think YABU and very judgey! If I choose to go to a party tonght with my children, they will full asleep in a buggy or on chairs, I have no problem with that as it is NOT the norm. Normally my 2 year old is tucked up in bed at 6.30 and my 5 year old at 7 and one night will do them no harm. Having said that I am not sure I would take them to a pub on New Years Eve, purely because of how busy it is and the 'type' of celebrating that may go on there. Our plans involve a disco in a church hall, with people providing their own refreshments and it is ticket only.

Catnao · 31/12/2010 14:34

Have you told your friend how much you disapprove of her parenting style, OP?

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chocolatebuttontheif · 31/12/2010 14:34

Again I have no problem with her being a single mum FFS shouldn't have fucking mentioned it

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Catnao · 31/12/2010 14:35

I never said anything about her being a single mother! You explained why you said that!

MrsCratchit · 31/12/2010 14:36

We used to have a brilliant time as kids on NYE. My Dad was in the forces and there'd be big parties in the mess for the whole family. My sister and I have great memories of them from being very young to being in our teens.

This year however, DH is cooking up a curry feast and we have friends coming round. None of us have kids yet (DC1 on her way) but we object to spending £10 each to get into our local!

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chocolatebuttontheif · 31/12/2010 14:37

Not you Catnao, x post

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