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Original poster

To sit in this horrible bedroom and just weep?

134 replies

recklesswoman · 29/12/2010 23:34

Oh my Christ.

DH and I are staying the night with BiL. I've spent the evening fighting off two huge dogs who repeatedly jumped up, lunged at my face, sat on my handbag and scratched (cue SiL cheerfully 'oh we think she has mange!'), walked the length of the room weeing..

This continued while we attempted to eat dinner from our laps, one-handed whilst shoving dogs noses away from our plates.

I've just gone up to spare room, DH still happily downstairs, and the bed is literally covered in dog hairs. Sheets, duvet, both pillows. The whole house including the bedroom stinks of unwashed dogs.

Aibu to sit in the corner of the room and just cry? What the bloody hell should I do? I can't bring myself to lie down in that disgusting bed!

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GypsyMoth · 29/12/2010 23:35

put your coat down....or turn bottom sheet over?

spill some water and go down and ask for more sheets

ChickensAreFlyingUnderTheRadar · 29/12/2010 23:35

Develop a hideous bowel issue and have to go home? I would.

ILoveDolly · 29/12/2010 23:36

I might ask to leave on pretext of illness.

Or can you lay a towel over the pillow?

Rindercella · 29/12/2010 23:36

How long are you there for??

Sorry, but I can't help Grin at your post. I take it you're not too keen on dogs (and tbh, I wouldn't be very keen on dogs if they were all like the ones you have just described)?

AlexaMulberry · 29/12/2010 23:37

Definitely pull a sickie and go home if you can.

BelleDeChocChipCookieMonster · 29/12/2010 23:37

Bloody hell! Sod that, book yourself into a hotel and get the hell out of there.

MegBusset · 29/12/2010 23:38

Yes I would spill cup of tea liberally over sheets and ask for clean ones.

singingcat · 29/12/2010 23:38

Eew

Skanky sheets are my own personal hell. I would not be able to sleep

A1980 · 29/12/2010 23:38

I wouldn't stay, I'd leave. Fake an illness. Bladder infection? had it for days and now say your back hurts like hell and your temperature is rising: could be kidnesy, lets get to A&E?!

I'd do anything to get the hell out of that house.

charliesmommy · 29/12/2010 23:38

Go and ask for some clean bedding. I have a dog and regularly have guests to stay and always make sure he hasnt sneaked into the room and covered the bed in dog hair. If he had I would totally expect them to mention it to me if I didnt notice it myself.

hmc · 29/12/2010 23:39

Whilst it doesn't sound pleasant there are worse things!

AstridsTardisDisaster · 29/12/2010 23:39

YANBU. i'm itching and wheezing at the thought of it.

my asthma is particularly bad if i don't like the owners of the dogs. Xmas Wink

Al1son · 29/12/2010 23:40

I'd be feeling exactly the same. It sounds disgusting.

Can you jump in the car and go home/to a local hotel? I guess not as you would have done that by now.

Go downstairs and ask for some clean bedding as the dogs must have 'sneaked' onto the bed and the hairs are making you sneeze. If they don't have any turn what you have got inside out.

Never agree to stay there again.If your DH wants to you can stay at home.

nomoreheels · 29/12/2010 23:40

That is minging. I would just say "The bed is covered in dog hair - can I have some clean sheets please?"

Poor you - hope you don't have to go there often. I like dogs but some do really smell, & it's a lot of work to keep a house looking good.

theevildead2 · 29/12/2010 23:40

Ooh rented a room from a woman with a filthy dog, the bed was revolting and the washing machine made everything stink of wet dog. Nothin but pity for you, still if it is for only one night.. best thing is to suck it up and not hurt anyone's feelings. They probably can't smell it. Just don't ever go back!

SkyBluePearl · 29/12/2010 23:42

are you at my MIL's house by any chance? sounds very familiar and i hope you either escape or get new sheets. must pre-warn you that it gets harder when you have various children and babies in tow.

zipzap · 29/12/2010 23:44

Tell them that you can feel your allergy to dog hair getting really bad (probably not to difficult to be scratching yourself and sound wheezy if you have too) and that you need to get away from all the dogs and their hair so could they please put the dogs in a different room for now and give you some clean sheets and blankets for the bed.

Don't usually reckon on faking illness but would do so myself in this situation - sounds grim.

think you have done pretty well to get this far through the evening and not have run away already. Or probably pretty badly from your point of view, much better to have not been there.

What would happen if you just went downstairs and didn't even pretend at allergy, just go and say sorry, appear to need new sheets for the bed as there is dog all over them (if they were weeing walking through the lounge chances are there's more than hair on them even if invisible to the naked eye)(sorry you probably didn't want to be reminded of that did you)

good luck - hope you manage to end up in a clean bed somewhere!

mamatomany · 29/12/2010 23:44

I'm sorry but I would leave.

twinklingfairy · 29/12/2010 23:44

YANBU at all!
I woudl be hissing at DH that you needed him and make him do the asking/explaining that the dogs have clearly been on a rampage, they must just not have noticed.
Well, those are the lines I would be feeding DH to say to them, certainly not the ones I would be hissing in DHs ear in the hallway.
Mind you, I might have asked for the dogs to be removed as I was eating my dinner, or saying that I was not happy with the jumping up. Which I am not with any dog.
Anyway, that is all me. I am basically a chicken and woudl tell DH to do the telling, at this point.
Poor you, this sounds horrid!!!

FrameyMcFrame · 29/12/2010 23:45

turn the covers and sheets inside out, try to cheer up, I know it's horrible but it's just for one night and once you're asleep you won't notice anything.
Can you get the window open to get some fresh air in?
Go home first thing in the morning and get a nice hot shower!

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 29/12/2010 23:48

My sister and her husband once went to a friends for dinner, the husband of the woman spent the evening playing with the dog and grabbing it's erm 'twigs and berries'

He then went to prepare their food with dog bollock hands.

They got up and left.

christmaswishes · 29/12/2010 23:51

ewww - Go home! x

backwardpossom · 29/12/2010 23:54

F*ck that, go home!

Original poster
recklesswoman · 30/12/2010 00:00

Oh thankyou ladies, don't feel quite so alone now. I think that since this really is DH's problem, I'm going to wait for him to come up (hopefully in the next 10 mins), and make him come up with a solution. It has been an absolutely miserable evening and I would love to go home. I am anticipating a bit of opposition (he rates social graces over happiness!), but I think he may agree with me when he sees the bed himself.

FWIW I like dogs, well trained ones anyway. I dislike it when dogs clamber, slobber and rub up against me. In my nice new Christmas frock.

To the unhelpful person who reminded me that worse things happen; no shit! Obviously things could be worse. The bed could have jaws, the bed could be on fire, the bed could contain naked BiL and SiL writhing and inviting us to join in. However, bed stinking and caked in dog is a big enough issue to stop me being able to jump in and nod off, hence why I asked for advice.

Think assertive thoughts for me! Going to put it to DH!

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ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 30/12/2010 00:02

Ask for some clean bedding. Or climb out of the window, shin down the drainpipe and run for the hills nearest hotel.