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Original poster

To sit in this horrible bedroom and just weep?

134 replies

recklesswoman · 29/12/2010 23:34

Oh my Christ.

DH and I are staying the night with BiL. I've spent the evening fighting off two huge dogs who repeatedly jumped up, lunged at my face, sat on my handbag and scratched (cue SiL cheerfully 'oh we think she has mange!'), walked the length of the room weeing..

This continued while we attempted to eat dinner from our laps, one-handed whilst shoving dogs noses away from our plates.

I've just gone up to spare room, DH still happily downstairs, and the bed is literally covered in dog hairs. Sheets, duvet, both pillows. The whole house including the bedroom stinks of unwashed dogs.

Aibu to sit in the corner of the room and just cry? What the bloody hell should I do? I can't bring myself to lie down in that disgusting bed!

OP posts:
SleightiesChick · 30/12/2010 00:03

If he won't say anything, go with the fake illness thing and say you need some specific migraine tablets or whatver that you keep at home so you'll have to leave. And go home on your own.

StuffingGoldBrass · 30/12/2010 00:04

I do sympathise RW: I am allergic to dogs so would have been sitting there whooping with huge (very wet) sneezes and a face like an exploding watermelon.
But I couldn't help giggling at 'Obviously things could be worse. The bed could have jaws, the bed could be on fire, the bed could contain naked BiL and SiL writhing and inviting us to join in'.

A1980 · 30/12/2010 00:05

SleightiesChcik It's a bit hard to go home ill by yourself.

if she has a migraine for example, if she's ill enough to need to go home, then she's probably too ill to drive herself especially with a migraine. If they come up with an illness story then they both have to go really.

Katisha · 30/12/2010 00:06

If it was mine we would have left the house long ago as he is massively allergic to dogs. Doesn't sounds like you can pull this one though.

My bet is he won't want to make a scene and will want to stay.

Jajas · 30/12/2010 00:07

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thebrownstuff · 30/12/2010 00:09

I'd be off like a shot. No way I'd stay in a place like that, let alone eat anything. Yuck!!!

Mists · 30/12/2010 00:09

Vote with your feet. Engine. Fuck off home!

christmaswishes · 30/12/2010 00:10

How far do you live away from home? just thinking th person who said worse things happend must sleep with dogs and have similar covers hahaha :)

christmaswishes · 30/12/2010 00:11

tbh I think dirty gits!x

Original poster
recklesswoman · 30/12/2010 00:15

Have just txted DH, he will be up in 5 mins.

We are only an hour from home, but due to visit MiL tomorrow, staying here tonight to break up the overall journey.
Had I known it would be this awful I wouldn't have left my house.

Awaiting DH's arrival...

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christmaswishes · 30/12/2010 00:17

Do you think you will go back home or check into a travel lodge? x

Katisha · 30/12/2010 00:17

OK on the assumption that he refuses to budge what can we do?

Can you get a towel to go over the pillow and not undress? Or will the towel be covered as well?

open window.

make it clear you are off at the crack of dawn.

ilovesooty · 30/12/2010 00:23

It sounds disgusting. I don't think I could spend the night in there.

LittleMissHootsMon · 30/12/2010 00:25

Oh reckless, I feel your pain. I had the same but with FELINES... at least 8 of them.

Hostess had many 'health issues' which meant she couldn't do any housework, her P had been taked with tidying, but it was never revealed where he actually had cleaned.

There were her 4 cats (all indoor cats) plus she was cat sitting for 4 others. There were used litter trays in every corner, but signs that cats had shit on the cushions but the cushions merely turned OVER! There was a display of air fresheners on the coffee table, literally. They didn't stand a chance.

Car hair literally everywhere and you could smell the urine from the street.

I didn't know her at all well, met her via friends and on the internet. We were due to stay there 3 nights. I tried to find least smelly, furry towel to lie on a leather sofa next to ds cot., i did actually weep, I had to leave the window open to actually breathe. Everytime I moved, there was a stench that was so bad it'd wake you up. DS had a shocking cold and was coughing, she actually complained about him coughing in the middle of the night. She never got up before 11.30 either.

I got up at 7am, packed up my car and checked into the 4* hotel down the road. Oh, one of the cats had pissed all over DS bag too...

I gave the excuse of DS coughing, and disturbing her sleep and that I was not sure if he may have been allergic to cats....

go for the allergy.... cough like a bastard! put soap in your eyes so they stream!!

GiddyPickle · 30/12/2010 00:25

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ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 30/12/2010 00:26

Is there a 24-hour supermarket nearby where you could buy fresh bedding?

LittleMissHootsMon · 30/12/2010 00:29

I can smell cat piss... it's bringing it all back.

Run woman, run....

Katisha · 30/12/2010 00:32

This is a long five minutes...

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 30/12/2010 00:33

i would just tell them i couldn't stay with all the dogginess of teh place and leave.

AnyFuleKno · 30/12/2010 00:34

sneak out, leave a note

hester · 30/12/2010 00:34

When I was a child we used to stay with family friends who had at least 9 sausage dogs. These dogs were allowed to shit everywhere: in the beds, in the bath, on the kitchen floor. Clearly the owners had 'issues' and it was a big family joke behind their backs, but funnily enough never stopped us going to stay. We just used to have a running competition about the worst dog shit finding... (we were never disappointed). Often we would all huddle all night on the couch together, because the beds were full of poo.

I don't hate dogs, but I am still definitely squeamish about them. Yuck yuck yuck.

LovePinkBitsOfMyHorse · 30/12/2010 00:37

It's only one night - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger?

All those extra hairs will help keep you warm.

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 30/12/2010 00:37

It's times like that when I am actually grateful to have asthma. Get coughing. Get out.

LovePinkBitsOfMyHorse · 30/12/2010 00:38

awards self medal for most helpful post of decade

ChippingIn · 30/12/2010 00:38

My Ex BIL's place was like that - except everything was filthy. We used to take flip flops to shower in & our own bedding/towels after the first trip!! Ex's brother lived several hours away and my Ex & his brother were close and we wanted to see him & the nieces/nephews - so tolerated it on occasion - but as rarely as I could get away with!! It still makes my skin crawl thinking about it!