to think this mother should have asked...?

[shoesies]

I was on the bus yesterday with 13mo ds. There was another lady on there with a baby who looked around 8/9 months. The other baby was whinging quite a lot and the mother got a packet of cheesy wotsits out of her bag, opened them and started giving them to her baby.

The prams were right next to each other and ds (who will grab at anything) held his hands out when he saw the packet. The mum reached over and popped a cheesy wotsit right in his mouth! She then put another one in his hand and gave me a big smile.

I don't care if she wants to feed that shit to her own child but if you're a total stranger and you want to give someones baby something to eat shouldn't you ASK??!! (To be honest he gobbled it down in a flash and looked at me as if to say why don't I get that more often but that's beside the point...) Am I being an uptight middle class wotsit denier?

YANBU.

I'd be really annoyed if someone did that to my child.

Yabu, because you should of course have pre-empted this by saying "No no felix, these cheesy wotsits belong to the little girl, they are not very nice, when we get home you will get yummy rice cakes". Hence stopping his little hands, and the other mums, in their tracks.

doig my mum was the same with chocolate to the point where i still have trouble stopping at just one biscuit now that i can buy my own.

IMO YAB a little bit U for being quite so cross about it, and about the fact that it was a Wotsit ( I mean , your reaction makes it sound more like a dessicated turd), but YANBU for thinking she really ought to have asked first.

I wouldn't give another persons pet a treat without asking first, much less a child.

YANBU but there is no WAY I'd have said a word because the gesture was so kind. Very difficult. Thoughtless at worst.

Rice cakes

Are you rice cake givers aware that these things are absolutely nutritionally void? And that babies need fat, protein, carbohydrate? Practically anything is better than ricecakes, and that includes wotsits which do at least contain fat.

My little nephew (almost two) is allergic to wotsits, pulses, eggs, wheat, you name it, he is allergic to it. That would have caused him to break out in lumps within seconds and become breathless.

YANBU, she should have asked.

Was it definitely a wotsit? There are those organic puff things that look like wotsits but are really... ummm... corn? or carrot? something healthy anyway.

[trying to look on bright side emoticon]

I can see why you're annoyed, but different people are more open to the 'snacks for all' mindset than others. I do think she was being nice and I thought your OP was going to finish

'...ds (who will grab at anything) held his hands out when he saw the packet. The mum reached over'... and she pushed his hands away, and continued to feed her own child - ignoring my DS' screams!

... which would have been far worse (ignoring the risk of sudden death due to undiagnosed wotsit allergy).

She should have asked, yes.

DS loved wotsits but the smell made me heave so i carried around oatcakes for emergencies and he loved them.

But, I agree she was trying to be nice to your ds.

oops, cross-posted perfumed I wasn't intending to make light of yor DN's allergy.

I know you weren't leeloo1

Nephew can and does eat those corn snacks that resemble wotsits you mentioned. (they stink too)

Actually must agree with others who've said it was pretty stupid of her as your son could have been lactose intolerant.

My friend pretty much has to take her LO to A&E if he imbibes dairy.

That said, she thought she was being kind. But asking first would have been the right thing to do.

Although, you really can't expect someone who gives their 8 month old Wotsits to have the class to ask anyway.

Some say let them eat cake

I say lettum ave Wotsits

I didn't realise the class system these days was regulated by the snack industry. Silly me.

Looks at Pringles ruefully...

i think it is plain stupid to give babies salty snacks

yanbu, she should of asked you 1st from an allergy pov

Is your DS your PFB by any chance?

god the pfb thing is SO old

coldtits that's why I love rice cakes! It keeps DD busy on the bus without filling her up too much before we get to where we're going (and usually having lunch, in fact to be honest usual having maccy ds)

She is not good with toys on buses. Always ends in disaster.

Would have said thanks, thought it odd, but moved on with my life. It's nice to be nice. I actually hate when folk feed their bairns next to mine and don't offer any, as ds is always very likely to want some and isn't't old enough to understand why not. Aye, she should have asked re; allergies, but yabu. Not often folk try to be nice - just accept it.

She should have asked.

But your DS doesn't have any intolerences or allergies, so no harm done and she was being nice.

And an entire packet of wotsits has less salt than half a slice of wholemeal toast, IIRC, so I'm not utterly convinced by the stupid salty snacks argument either (unless advanced by someone who religiously avoids bread for her babies as well).