To take a picture of DD1's

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absolute shithole of a bedroom and post said pic on FB?

YABU

I can totally understand your annoyance but embarrassing anyone you love in public is not on.

I FEEL YOUR PAIN !!

$ binbags of shite I carted out of dds room yesterday

ahem 4

I can see all the clothes I washed and ironed and gave to her yesterday to put away all over the floor.

The bed is a bombsite

The drawers are all pulled out

The bin is overflowing

There is hardly a spare inch of floor to stand on and it looks like she's been walking on all the clean clothes

She's at her Dad's today - she comes back here tomorrow - I think I'll take the pics and threaten FB exposure if she doesn't tidy it up??

She is 12 BTW

erm, she is too young for facebook, is it her facebook?

anyway, tidy it up yourself and dont be nasty

My FB not hers

I have shut the door and am pretending its not there

Im glad im not alone, anyone else have to deal with dirty used clothes, in with the fookin clean ones I have washed, drives me nuts

my dm used to threaten to throw my stuff in the bin.
can you tidy it together?

Welshbyrd there were socks in the wash the other day that were joined together the way I do when I am sorting the washing

I tidied it with her last weekend Slarty when she was here

OMG that's hilarious, although I am not suggesting you do it. How old is she?

She won't care. My dad took pictures of my room when I was 15, I thought it was hilarious and still do.

another tracey emin perhaps?

I have decided I'm going to do the rest of the house first and see how I feel once the rest of the cleaning is done.

If I feel up to it, I will do her room today. Failing that, the rest of the house will be tidy and I will do it tomorrow.

Got any spare bin bags Apocalypse?

Fulla she's 12 BTW

she should consider herself lucky thats all your doing, my dad threw all of mine and my sisters stuff out the bedroom window in full view of a long queue for the ice cream van one lovely summer evening! I was not impressed when washing (including underwear) was dangling from the leylandie and all our stuff was on the lawn!

Also you would of thought we would learn the first time but im sure he done it once or twice after that!

At 12 you shouldn't be having to tidy her room up! Especially if you did it with her last weekend.

My DD is 10 and I just tell her specific things to do in her bedroom so she can keep on top of it, like get all the dirty washing in the basket then come back to me and I'll give you something else to do.

Telling her to go in and tidy and she'll just be in there reading

It's a tip at the min, but I'll not be breaching her human rights to privacy by going in there and doing it for her!

Her room, her stuff, her mess, she can sort it.

Could you just stick to the lalala not listening approach? It's difficult I know but it might save you a huge amount of stress. I know it's not the same situation but my DH is a messy creature and I cringe to think what his room was like as a teenager. We obviously share a bedroom but I do absolutely nothing to his side of it. Currently there is a heap of crap on his bedside locker, the door of the locker is open and all his clean underwear is spilling out (not washed by me I hasten to add), there's a heap of worn but clean clothes strewn from the locker to the end of the bed and his wash basket (luckily hidden behind the door) is overflowing. I don't care. As far as I'm concerned, that's his space and I have nothing to do with it. He also uses the very tiny spare room as a place to keep his hobby stuff and I never ever go in there. If and when we move out of this house (we're renting) cleaning that room will be entirely his responsibility (mwhwhaha)

Another option might be to stop doing her laundry and just tell her to do it herself. Tell her you're sick of the state of her room and because she doesn't take care of the clothes you wash she clearly doesn't appreciate it so she can sort it all herself from now on. When I was about 12 my mum got in a strop (no doubt with good reason) and sat my sister and me down and told us she wasn't doing our laundry any more. Much to her shock we were delighted because that meant instead of having to wait for the clothes of 5 people to be washed before getting back our jeans or whatever, we could sort our own stuff out and have more control over things. I think she was a bit miffed that her "punishment" was met with such happiness

I ave used them all FUNKING

I only did it because my sister had seen the state of it

Yes, you need to be very specific about what you want her to do. Saying "tidy your room" means very little to an ordinarily messy 12 year old. You need to give clear instructions like "put clean folded clothes in chest of drawers", "put dirty clothes in hamper", "put books in bookshelf", "put rubbish in rubbish bin, then bring rubbish bin downstairs", etc.

I had this with DD2[15] at around that age she came home to a practically bare room I put the lot in bin bags and hid it she soon bucked her ideas up.

Siobbadan, sorry but that really made me laugh! Did it work? Are you and your sister tidy now?

I have tried it all

I think I will shut the door and ignore ignore ignore

Fulladoll yes, we are much tidyer now! We were beyond mortified!

DD's room is usually like this and I usually leave her to wallow in her own s*

However, the other day I had had enough, so I lifted eerything off the floor and dumped it on her chair and hoovered up the floor.

She came in an saw it and sait "thank you mummy" and then spent an hour tidying up.

That was a week ago and it's still tidy

I can understand your anger, but YABU as it would completely go against her privacy.