to expect a 5 yr old not to fart in front of me

[moogster1a]

my 5 year old mindee has taken to doing truly revolting farts. I keep telling him to leave the room if he needs to do one and keep reminding him that someone who smells of poo won't be popular.
Accordng to him and his sister their dad does it all the time at home and they seem nonplussed that I don't want to sit in a shitty smelling fug in my own home.
Should a 5 year old be able to restrain himself ( bearing in mind he seems to have been able to for the last 4 and a half years ).
There's been no change of diet by the way, i think he's just changing into a mini version of farting dad.

I would imagine her stance on nose picking is to break it.

Is he forcing them out?

If not yabtu.

Where did I say I punished him?!! I told him that it's more polite that if he needs to trump he should leave the room to do it. I don't consider that a punishment.
Does every else like the smell of other peoples farts?it's the only reason I can see for not teachng children it's something that should be done when you're on your own.

i once farted at prize bingo ,thank god it did not smell !!

Breaking wind is disgusting. I can't bring myself to use the F word. If it is an accident fair enough I suspose. He should certainly be encouraged not to break wind in public though

That's what I would do too colditz

the thought that some like the op "cares" for children for a living is not a pleasant one

Do you really not try to teach your children that's it's not pleasant to fart in front of people?

Jesus, you wouldn't be allowed anywhere near my children (and I'm not even that fussy )

Waaaaay too uptight, poor little boy.

You said that you repeatedly tell him that people won't like him if he farts.

That is an appalling thing to say to a child.

You are teaching him that bodily functions ate disgusting but hurting someone's feelings is OK.

Shame on you.

Childminders cannot be 'sacked', they are self-employed.

I wouldn't expect a 5 year old to leave the room to blow off tbh

Are you not reading what anyone says?

Of course as they get older you teach them social norms. What you don't do is tell them at age 5 that they won't be popular if they smell of shit.

Have you read any books about childrens development maybe, you know, in a professional capacity?

Also, why are you talking to your charges about whether their dad farts at home. And how do you know what they eat or whether the child has some food intolerance or some such.
Is this a joke?

If you can sack your cleaner, your builder and your accountant, you can sack a child minder.

DD (8) rarely farts unless she's in hysterics laughing and can't help herself. My 5 year old twins fart occasionally as you do but they always laugh and look embarrassed. Why would I tell them off for a bodily function? They are not farting on demand. Until this thread I had never heard of anyone telling their children to leave the room to fart.

I still think you are outrageous to tell him he'll be unpopular as he smells of poo. Cruel. I'm glad you don't look after my kids.

Have you thought about having a chat with his mother about it?

He's a five year old boy.

Farts will delight him.

It is very important to teach them that it is not considered socially acceptable. But you need to understand that to a child, farts, bums, poo and wee are all wonderful and the source of much amusement.

If you don't understand this basic bit of child psychology you're going to have a hell of a job being a child minder If you get several, they'll form a fart orchestra.

I'd do a wee cats-bum face at my 8yo when she guffs in the bath and laughs like a drain, and I expect them to say "excuse me", but I'd not tell them they're a nobby-no-mates.

Pursed lips should suffice, but the child is only 5 ffs.

I'm sure lots of parents on here will be asking their 5 year old son's if the childminder has told them off for farting. Expect to be sacked on Monday.

I'd hate to be paying you to care for my son (who has bowel issues) and for you to class him as shitty and smelly.

You sound like the shit person IMO.

They told me about their dad farting all the time and I know exactly what they eat 'cos I feed them. They're here from v. early in the morning till 6;45'ish and have been from about 6 mnths old
And i didn't use the word shit, obviously.

So have you excluded the possibility of food intolerance -if he constantly does hideous farts that smell of pooh that would be a symptom.

You kind of missed my point again. It is the telling a child he won't be popular which is deeply unpleasant, not the use of the word shit

YABU to expect a 5 year old not to fart in front of you.

One of ours farts a lot. The other burps a lot. We have taught both to excuse themselves.

You are not an employer when you go with a childminder. You don't pay their national insurance and all of that that comes with being an employer. You have a contract with them. You end the contract. It's different.

I NEVER fart in front of anyone, not my children or partner. But I can clearly remember having farting competitions with my best mate aged about 11/12. I grew out of it.

5 year olds, especially boys, think farting is hilarious. It's just a normal bodily function, and you certainly shouldn't be telling him that nobody will be his friend if he smells of poo. It's mean. You're mean.

Leetle bit concerned at your career choice tbh

I think you are all being a bit mean to Moogie here. Its her house, her rules in my opinion and she wants to teach this young man that breaking wind in public is not acceptable then that is fine. I think that he should at least be saying excuse me if not leaving the room. And the idea of a wind breaking orchestra is frankly disgusting. I really expected better from Mumsnet