To hate some of words regularly used on Mumsnet?

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I get relly annoyed by people bandying things like "judgey" and "Toxic" around as if they were actual conditions!

Judgey just annoys me because it's kind of coy and littl girly...what's wrng with saying "Judgemental"??

And "Toxic"...

You know...like "Is my Mum Toxic because she has never sent me a christmas card?"

I think it's bollocks...certain words have been adopted and shaped on here for the use and comfort of the community and in the case of "toxic" it's a bit dangerous in my opinion.

People seem to want a diagnosis for other people's behaviour...so they grab words and plonk them onto other people....then in their own minds they can say "Yes...my Mum/Sis/Mil is a pain and makes me angry...but it's because she's toxic...it must be so as everyone on MN says so"

I just saw someone on a thread comment that someone elses husband was being "Passive agressive" because he had plonked a cereal box on her head as a joke. This is another thing people on here are always bandying about.

So AIBU to think there are some people who just look for the bad in others? And who really seem to thrive on labels?

I see passive aggressive as sulky and moody-that's me then!

I don't like but it's not been very prevalent lately. It's the same as "end of" though. And about as annoying.

What does gavel mean?

I hate people saying their parents are toxic (unless they genuinely are obviously) - sometimes people dont live in a little bubble of happiness and perfect parenting - doesnt mean they're neglectful or toxic.

Passive aggresive I dont mind though it was misused in the thread you mention.

I hate om nom nom with a passion but that's not really the same thing!

But Nemo...it's the way others belittle a strong word like that...by using it in the WRONG way that annoys me.

My DS is bossy and demanding, she also gossips about me..is sh toxic? No...she's a grumpy old bugger.

I probably could label my mother as 'toxic',we tend to just call her 'The Witch'.

Which self help book (no doubt American) enriched our lives with the word 'Toxic'?

Gavel

TheUnmentioned

EEEK! At NOM! Bleugh.

Yes, 'om nom nom' makes people sound like mindless teenagers with stupid fringes, imvho. :)

The NPD label seems to be bandied about willy nilly.

I like but then I always read it as tongue in cheek - as in "I have spoken!"

The passive agressive thing makes me laugh. Its overused on here, often in a slightly incorrect context.

Leave a note on someone's car because they have run over your cat and you are passive agressive.

Approach them and challenge them and you are agressive/unreasonable.

Makes me giggle.

I am passive aggressive in RL. Never realised it until MN forced me to think about it and what it actually meant/entailed. There are worse things to be. Don't care.

Oh I care about some - just not that one!

It's fine to not understand what passive aggressive means. Some people strive to better themselves, to understand things they don't yet grasp, others are happy to live in blissful ignorance. Really it's probably quite nice to be utterly blinkered to what things really mean.

I also have family member who required a great deal of descriptors before I discovered "toxic" on MN. Sums it up perfectly.

YANBU to hate some of the words used on Mumsnet, but your post makes it sound as if you dislike the very fact that MN has buzzwords.

I like them. I think it's all part of the shorthand that makes us feel like a community. I don't like all the terms, but I use the ones I like and don't use the others.

If someone wasn't passive-aggressive, would they have to be passive (give in all the time), aggressive (confrontation over decisions) or everything is discussed in a completely rational manner and all decisions are made logically and fairly, not seen many of those relationships. At work or at home.

It also has the perfect get out clause. Because you're not being directly aggressive and veiling your aggression behind a passive stance, you can claim utter innocence when called on it. Watch...

I wasn't being mean. You see my favourite uncle was killed by an enormous dictionary trying to look up a word and ever since then I've been torn between a natural love of language and the fear that I could go the same way, crushed beneath a tome of knowledge I didn't see coming. My life is fucking difficult. I envy people who never have to make the choice between bettering themselves and preserving their own lives.

See, I even made it All About Me.

I think I might be toxic.

mjin - so would I.

YANBU..it's well annoying like. You'd think us mums were from the hood the way words are abbreviated. It's bear annoying! Does my swede in..