to whinge at teachers who keep you

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waiting in the cold...

Had a moan at kid's teacher today becos they are always out 5-10 mins late and I don't relish standing in the biting wind waiting for them while they are in the warm. I understand that sometimes we're all a bit late but.. this one keeps the kids back deliberately as punishment. I just don't think this is fair on mums/dads/carers/younger siblings especially when there's never any warning and we have places to be.
Moan over, I know there's worse things but it gets on my t**s.

YAsoNBU!

I hate it when they do this, and it is a regular thing. Apart from the fact that it's freezing, does it ever cross their minds that the children sometimes have other classes or clubs to get to?

keeping kids in late as a punishment is crap (the only teacher I've know do it had come from Sweden and thought we were idiots not to dress appropriately for collecting our children)
My DD is always out late because the teacher finishes reading the story she started. I forgive her for that.

I completely agree and I'm a teacher.

I hate when teachers are late getting their classes out on a regular basis, it's ok if it's once in a blue moon - that can happen to anyone - but I think it's totally unacceptable if it's a regular occurrence.

I know teachers whose children are always out late, not because they're being punished, which by the way, is absolutely unacceptable. They're just disorganised!

It's the same at break or lunchtime. the way I see it, it's my break etc too and I wnat to make the most of it.

I try to have my class tidied up, coats etc and ready to go on the bell. It's bad manners to keep parents/carers etc waiting. As some of you have said, they have places to go, buses/trains to catch etc!

I'm often the first in the staffroom at break, but then, I'm usually the first one up when the bell goes!

Sometimes though it cannot be helped - children can be incredibly slow at times when they want to be! The teacher is probably getting equally stressed knowing that they are running late and can see the parents outside, but can't do much about it if children aren't getting things ready quickly or listening to important messages! But I agree - as a punishment it seems a bit daft, not really the right time of day!

Sooooooo NBU!

There are a couple of teachers who's classes are always late out and as it is a smallish school you end up with them at some point! We have one atm, which means that I turn up at the last minute so the youngest are the last ones in their class to be collected and we still have to stand there for ages for the dd2.

Really pees me off!

YANBU

I'm a teacher and always get my class out on time. The teacher next door to me is always late - but I'm the one the parents moan to (because when she released her class she doesn't come outside) whereas I usually pop outside to make sure my class are leaving in an orderly manner

I've tried breezing past her room 5 minutes before the end of the day and saying things like 'it's cold outside, make sure you are all ready on time as your mums/dads etc look as if they are freezing' but it makes no difference.

Ours were usually out within 5 minutes of the bell. What was extremely irritating was when one particular teacher thought it acceptable to keep them behind for 10 minutes because one child was talking. Totally discourteous to the parents who had turned up on time and disrupted the collection of my older child from a different school. First time I had a quiet word, 2nd time I telephoned the office the following day, 3rd time I marched into the classroom and said DD had to leave because we had to collect DS on time from his school.

Following day wrote formal letter to the HT outlining the above and stating I didn't mind if the class was kept late but that I hoped she would agree that it would be courteous to the school community to give notice in future. She was on the phone within minutes to apologise and asked me to let her know if there were any similar problems in the future.

I have 4 classes to pick up from at the same school, they are mostley late out of class.

What gets me tho, is that, at our school, there is more often than not a note in the weekley news letter, basically asking parents to pull their finger out and be on time!!!
thats dropping off or collecting!!

what narks me off is that i am allways the 1st parent out side the door waiting , yet my son is one of the last to come out.

yanbu
Some of us need to get to another school 15mins after that one, or swimming lesson etc

I can't help but feel it's sometimes a bit of a power tip thing from the teacher.

YANBU = I used to have to get from one school to another to pick up mine and for a year it was always stressful.

I find the power trip comment amusing. As a teacher why would you go out of your way to add time onto your working day?

Like if you were an asda checkout person. Im going to scan this stuff really slowly as a power trip.

It pisses me off too. Another good reason why I make DH pick them up!

AuntiePB, I'd love to know how to get DD trained to be first in the queue to leave. She's always pottering around at the back while I try to retain some semblance of control of small DS in the playground.

I've always tried to get the children out on time - not always easy when they are little ones and have coats, gloves, bags etc to organise, but I try, because i know it is frustrating for parents who have to be elsewhere.

However, there is one parent who is ALWAYS late, and bowls in after everyone else has gone and I have brought her child back in from the doorway, and says 'Why do you always let them out early?' She never apologises for being late, doesn't seem to notice that everyone else has been and gone (!), and seems to think I have done this to annoy / inconvenience her!

So it works both ways!

SBF, It's not adding to her day. It's not as though the teacher would otherwise be screeching out of the carpark at 3.20.

We're instructed to teach up to the bell, however, with little ones part of their learning is negotiating getting ready and organised which should take place in lesson time imo.

However, it doesn't particularly bother me, either way.

Mt DS school has assembly at the end of the day. They were 10 minutes late yesterday when it was -10. I made the other Mums laugh as I had a major swearing outburst about it. Never heard to swear in playground before. The head at DS school basically likes the sound of her own voice and they are out late almost every day, if your late their out on time!

paisley I'm well aware of that, I'm a teacher.

Considering the amount we have to do after school I would doubt we want to hold onto kids on purpose to annoy you.

More likely these are the kids who are a wee bit unorganised themselves at times! Stuff all over the floor, don't put their stuff on the right peg. lost glove, lost scarf, etc etc

And if my child's discipline was a problem I def no I wouldn't mind them being kept back a few minutes to be spoken to in private. Im sure parents would equally complain if the teacher was to speak to them in front of everyone.

Have them ready on time - you're a lazy bugger who doesn't fill all the teaching time.
Have them not ready on time - you're a disorganised cretin.

So as usual teachers can't do right in any situation.

Sorry to be a moan, I find the constant slagging of teachers annoying! If you don't like stuff that much, or can do it better. Devote your time to home schooling!

Paisley - sorry you got caught in my general cross fire. Your comment wasn't really that annoying to me. Just funny!