i recognise the point the OP is trying to make about feeling like working poor. there was most of last year where, between H and my salary, after paying direct debits (bills only) and work fees like bus money plus childcare, we literally had £22 i think it was left over. that was meant to cover non-normal bills like car repairs for our old banger which H needs to use for work (he works on an industrial estate with zero public transport)... money for haircuts, anything needed for school, basically £22 every month to cover non-monthly bills. Needless to say that despite being frugal as hell we ended up putting some money on credit cards.
There was nothing to cut back on. We didn't have any insurances that we could cancel, we can't downsize (literally live in a 2 bed house on the outskirts, because it's cheaper), we need that 1 car for DH to get to work. It's not possible to cut back when there's no luxuries to cut back ON!
so i get what the OP means in that sense.
however, things have recently improved for us this year, to the point where i was able to go part time. we got so used to living frugally that increases in wages/etc have meant any extra money is a massive help!
the person i feel most sorry for is my sister and BIL. i know they earn about £18k between them, but you wouldn't believe how much of a struggle it is - her DH works all the hours god sends in a manual job (outside), my sister works part time whilst nan looks after the kids, and for the amount of stress, hassle and effor they put in, it is HARD to see them living in the area where i grew up. i have friends living 2 roads away from my sister who talk about their benefits, free prescriptions, free school meals, free glasses, free IT courses from the job centre.... and i can't help but feel a stab of despair when i next talk to my sister and she's crying because her oldest needs £10 for a school trip and they don't know where it's coming from.
that is a situation which i know i shouldn't juge on, especially since my friends from school back home aren't scrounging, they are entitled to their benefits and hopefully will get the help they need long term to get out of the benefits cycle (because i genuinely believe they need this help to prop them up but they will evetnually contribute back).... BUT i totally understand working class anger that there is such a thing as the working poor.
i've seen it too often, first hand, to deny there isn't a problem in this country.