To think my gran should know how to spell DDs Name!

[Santassnowyoldclothcatpuss]

I know the barking old bat is 89 but she has all her marbles! And it's not as if DD is a new baby. She's 11 FGS!

My Gran died a couple of years ago and she never ever learnt that her DIL's name was not spelled Gean.

She sometimes even used to write "To Brain and Gean".

:o

Difficult, as your not going to want to tell us her name.

Are spelling a well known name is a weirdy way?

I have the same problem with most of our inlaws! My brother, SIL and FIL all misspell DD's name and it drives me nuts. I always write it nice and clearly and every time they give her a gift or write her a card they get her name wrong - well, not totally, just a few extra consonants and vowels! And yet, if I didn't use DN's full name in every conversation (although his grandparents seem to be allowed to call him what they want), I would be castigated by SIL.

She is called Catey....

I remeber sending a thank you letter to Virginia, I go the name wrong but lucky for me my mum spotted it on the envelop and I re wrote the letter

My nana died when I was in my late 20s - she never spelt my name correctly (very easy name but two spellings). Dad corrected her every birthday and Christmas and yet she still spelt it wrong!

She's 89. She can spell it however she pleases .

DS has a relatively easy name. Its four letters, popular in Wales. For his Christening, my aunt sent him a card saying "To Breee" on it. I kid you not. Triple E.

Sometimes you just have to let it go

Just seen the name, you can let her off for spelling it right wrong

Katie? Katy?
I could forgive your gran.

And it's not just DD. I have a simple four letter name. She once gave me a plate with my name on, with the e on the end missing. I was 23!

It's not the most obvious spelling of the name, is it.

It's really not the end of the world.

Um, well you have chosen a very unusual spelling, haven't you?

Ah...well. There you rae then. You can't teach an old dog new tricks. But then your DD will have a lifetime of people writing 'Katie', so she may as well just get used to it. My bet is she'll change it to Katie herself at some point for an easy life. It's your fault, with your new-fangled spellings. Always more trouble than it's worth.

DD is catherine with a C. How else are we meant to spell it?

well DH's older relatives keep referring to me as "Mrs HusbandsName" despite the fact that we both legally changed our names to double-barrelled and I'm still a Ms. And my nan spells my name wrong these days too - think "Catherine" (?) rather than "Kath" (me), I suspect that's because her late sister was spelt that way with the fullname, unlike me, and she just gets confused.

So I know who it is from immediately when things pop up in the post

as for your DD's name then i would take it in the spirit which it is most likely intended - she's 89 which is a good 10 years older than my own batty nan so it could just be her getting confused :) on the other hand if she's a stout old thing that refuses to respect that you've named your child Catey, and she thinks it should have been spelt Katie, go ahead and correct her - pointedly and repeatedly With a name like Catey your DD is going to have YEARS of people mispelling her name since there are so many options!

My niece and nephew (13 and 15) have always pronounced ds1's name incorrectly. They swap to of the consonants around; it's always mildly annoyed me, it's not a particularly unusual name (but not overly common either) and they are old enough to say it properly.

Ds2 (just 3) pronounces it the same (incorrect) way sometimes, and I find it really sweet, how unreasonable am I!?!

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Probably thinks you've spelt it wrong

This is funny, half my family (young and old) spells my DS's name wrong - Aiden instead of Aidan. I do wonder why they can't get it right, but not enough for it to bother me. My Uncle (who is about 75) thinks my other DS's name is John, not Joseph

Don't know, but it is one of those strange names that the short version of Catherine is generally Kate/Katie.

If you ask 100 strangers how to spell Katie, I bet there will be very few who would spell it with a C.

DH's Grandmother still cannot say DN name properly let alone spell it!

You made your bed when you gave her unusual spelling of a well known name. Sorry to be harsh! I suspect I'd probably do the same when I'm crabby and old - oops that seems to be today

I have only ever heard of Cate Blanchett. I've never heard of Catey. All Catherines I know since time immemorial (with a C or a K) have been Katie or Kate. But of course it's up to you to pick the non-obvious, but you have to make allowances for the fact that others will always assume the obvious.