for feeling smug when mothers of school-agers describe themselves as "Full-time mums" or "Housewives"?

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Name change...

Following from the threads about life at home when you don't do voluntary of paid work, although your children are of school-age, I was wondering if anyone else who does work can't help feeling a tad superior? Oh yes, I know I'll be flamed for this, but there it is.

These housewives seem to do all the things that working mothers do (cooking, cleaning, planning etc, etc, etc) but don't have any purpose outside of this. They seem to think that doing the supermarket shopping is a reasonable replacement for a 'real' career. I can't help but feel prejudiced against them.

I'm currently a SAHM as DD is pre-school, but will do paid (and voluntary) work as soon as she's in school. I'm looking forward to building-up my career again and working for the family.

Oh, and before anyone jumps on this, I've always cooked decent-quality meals from scratch, even when I worked v. long hours; my dogs are walked in the early hours; and my house is always clean and tidy. I argue that ironing is for losers, however!

OK. Hard hat on!

FUCK Leslie Nielsen is dead.

Surely not?

Yes, now stop calling me Shirley.

Yeah, they should have know better with those EMC characteristics FFS

Your plane stories are lovely Get Orf - got any more?

NOT REALLY. Unless you can tell us the real reason it's called a cockpit?

Well Quick, I know several SAHMs whose husbands have left them, and they now don't have the money to maintain anywhere near their previous lifestyle (which wasn't especially flash anyway) and now have to go to work but cannot get back into their previous/desired sector and so are wasted in crappy jobs. You can never tell from the outset if someone is going to skip out on you, so it's best to be self-sufficient (unless you are married to someone very rich and then you will get enough in the divorce to allow you to carry on roughly the same).

recently been made redundant and my mortgage advisor said " oh we will have to refer to you as a housewife now won't we" i wanted to DIE

even if they do split qlb,woman not dependent upon man,capable of earrnng .given your premise twas work drove em apart

unlike housewife,no recent work experience,trying to enter job market after wallet left for a twinky

pissing myself at Maisie and 'cockpit'

God knows. All the plane stories I know are boring ones.

I may as well wear a baseball cap with G E E K on it.

Which people are you talking about Bunbaker?

The banker and his wife ( well work in banking) are my ex husband and the woman he left for... I was very upset at the time, not anymore, I worked since I was 14 in shoe shop, 15 in woolies, 16 in waitrose and then full time in office jobs until I had first dd (paying the tax for them to have grants to get the degree's that gave them their jobs), then part time for a bit between babies, and then as ex was too stressed out by me working I gave up work, I always studied and volunteered... obviously not enough of a contribution for some people eh!

no SERIOUSLY I am not just making very unfunny airplane jokes to go with my dull bastard aeroplane stories.

Have just seen on the news Leslie Nielsen is proper dead, like.

Bless him.

No one of the reasons I chose to stay at home was that I saw 2 people working in stressful jobs did not make happy patners or parents.

And I was responding to posters who said they work incase their DH leaves them.

I will get a part time job even with disability (have looked into it and you get assistance) when youngest starts secondary school as it is just me caring for them! there are plenty more working years left in me yet, i am in my thirties!

I'm interested GetOrf! I saw the advert IMAX film about the Dreamliner and how wonderful it was at the Science Museum and it did look lovely, but even in a shameless puff piece they couldn't hide the fact that it was (at the time) two years behind schedule and in all sorts of trouble.

They do have very good earthquake planning protocols at Boeing though

And it's this thrilling level of dialogue which makes us WOHMs so scintillating and irresistable to our DHs.

Ex was too stressed out by you working? Eh???

I thought your plane stories were fascinating. Really. They made a dull thread even duller!

aye poor leslie.v funny man

DP doesn't even pretend to listen to my aeroplane stories.

I love the way you said 'attempts' to outbore getorf

Maisie, oh yes, it meant that he had to help me out a bit on the days I worked, he preferred it when I did everything, so all he had to worry about when at home was bins, grass and big diy jobs, everything was done for him if I was a sahm, so far less stressfull for him you see

If only you'd stay at home and bake cupcakes (with little planes iced on them, natch) and indulged in a little plane spotting hobby instead of designing the things, you'd soon find that he paid you much more attention. You're neglecting him (and your offspring), you selfish, cold hearted, career woman you. How could you??

Mummie - is that why he's an ex?!

Masie, he told me at one stage during divorce process his now wife was pregnant and she was going to give up her job and be a sahm, it made me giggle actually after the nastyness about me being one from her... anyways I think it was a lie as no baby ever appreared and he is a known liar and the timing was all for use in court!

OOh.

There's a thought.

Can make Jane Asher style cakes with planes on.

Who needs to contribute to the mortgage! Let them make cake.

I'm only going to answer the OP: personally, i'd rather not leave my children in breakfast club and after school club and holiday care. I'm rather smug that i am able to look after them myself instead of dumping them on others.

(disclaimer: i don't actually think this at all, because I'm not a judgemental, cowardly name changing cow.
Everyone does things differently. I don't judge those who go out to work and it would be nice to be offered the same consideration.)

Masie, the sad fact is that I was such a doormat, he left and I was devistated I would have gone on like that

My DH does a very good impersonation of someone who is interested in earthquake planning protocols and their impact of business interruption patterns.

But he is actually interested in aeroplane design, so I will keep him well away from you and your fiendish wiles, and scintillating anecdotes, you hussy.