To expect DP to wear a wedding ring all the time once we're married?

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He says most of the men he knows only wear their wedding rings on special occasions. I say that's very weird and all if my friends DHs wear their wedding rings all the time. I'm not talking about taking it off to do washing up/ decorating/ other dirty jobs, that's completely to be expected. But to only wear it on special occasions (I think that means a meal out or whatever). Strange, no?!

Don't think I'd ever wear one. It'd just feel uncomfortable. So I'm backing your dh on this one

I'm not married but all the men in my family wear there wedding rings all the time. I would also want my husband to so IMO YANBU

I think you've got to put yourself in a man's shoes for this one.
I am female, but I have had conversations with men about this 'not wearing a wedding ring' business.
It is not because he has doubts about marrying you- if he did, he would not be getting married to you.
He probably does not like feel of jewellery.
Have a leap of faith- take him at his word.
Don't read so much into this.

Also, believe it or not, a wedding ring makes a man more attractive to predatory females, not less. So if he were planning to cheat, he'd want to wear one!

My dad would never consider a wedding ring (back in the 50s). Since my mum died he has worn hers every day.
DH didn't want one initially and I said fine. Then when we went to buy mine he said he wanted one and he's worn it all our marriage.
It's not a big deal whatever makes the indvidual couple happy.

YAB a bit U.

I hate wearing rings or anything on my wrists or hands. It makes dh a bit sad...but I can't face having it on all the time..

My husband would never wear a wedding ring and would regard it as very naff to 'have' to do so.

None of his friends wear rings.

Hubby wears his all the time - but twisted and moaned like hell till he got used to the feeling of it on his finger (he wanted to wear one by the way - I didn't make him!), now he feels naked without it on.

I wanted him to wear one but let him make the choice himself (he chose that we had matching ones) because basically I love silver coloured (they're both white gold) wedding rings and chunky silver coloured watches on blokes anyway... mmmm.

My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring any more. He used to wear it when we first got married but he just doesn't really like rings and he doesn't wear any other jewellery either. He says "real men don't wear jewellery"! - lol

It is up to him really and I am not bothered, it is just a ring.

My DH is a mechanic and wears his all the time. I took mine off 6 months ago and lost it. It doesn't matter, your still married and everyone who knows you knows that.

DH had a lovely expensive wedding ring which is currently residing in my jewellery box! He washes his hands a lot at work, and was finding that the skin under the ring was getting dry and sore. I suggested that maybe he just needed to rinse the soap of his hands properly, but he took the ring off instead. TBH, before we got married, we had discussed the fact he wears no jewellery except a watch, and had agreed that, if he was uncomfortable with it, he didn't have to wear a wedding ring all the time, but I still wanted to give him one (oo-er missus!).

I, however, wear my wedding, engagement and eternity rings all the time. That would be because I am shallow and like wearing pretty sparkly things on my hands

not read thread but my mine spouted some shite about not wearing one so I said 'OK if you don't then I won't. Up to you',

He wears one now!

YABU. You don't have to wear a ring, nor does he. Each of you make your own decisions. I take it you are not considering calling off the wedding if he refuses to wear a bit of jewellery? Also if you go down the route of 'if you don't wear one, I wont', he might call you on it! Don't worry about it, not a big issue, congratulations on the upcoming wedding

I think the men only wearing on special occasions is a very old fashioned idea tbh.

Strange nowadays unless a manual worker I would have thought.

My husband wears his all the time.

Has occasionally taken it off at night in hot weather if it feels tight, but puts it back on the next morning.

I also look on mine as more than a piece of jewellry tbh.

DP said he'd wear his on a chain as he can't wear rings for work..

YABU. I don't wear my ring all the time, I can't wear it in my profession anyway and when it's hot weather it just irritates me.

What will you do if he doesn't wear it?

My dh doesn't even own one.

My Dad never had a wedding ring, and DH has one but rarely wears it. I don't find this an issue at all and can't really see why it would be.

Why would it bother you?

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Neither DH nor I wear our wedding rings (I don't wear my engagement ring either, which I'm sure MIL finds weird). We have been married 17 years - there's nothing in the fact we don't wear the rings, it's just not particularly comfortable (in the physical sense).
Strangely enough, the only prolonged period I wore my rings was when expecting DD1. At the time I was 24, looked about 16 and felt like a child at ante natal clinics. I only wore it to prove I was an adult in a secure relationship - make of that what you will! (BTW, when expecting DD2 at age 33, I had pretty much abandoned the rings)

dh didn't want a ring when we got married, but when we went to get mine, he saw one he liked (and had 50% off!) so got one. He said he wasn't going to wear it all the time as he had quite a physical job, but after the wedding he kept it on. He now only takes it off if he's doing the gardening.

That said, my dad doesn't have one, nor does/did either of my grandads.

I am not married and have never been but I hate wearing rings. To be honest I would probably prefer not to wear a wedding ring at all. It would bear no relation to my feelings for my DH or my attitude towards my marriage, I just don't like jewellry.

I don't wear mine all the time - I find rings uncomfortable particularly on mu left hand so wear my weding ring on my right. MY DH wears his (I think) - it wouldn't bother me at all if he chose not too.

I would never assume that someone was/wasn't married depending upon whether they were wearing a ring.

We don't even have wedding rings. What does it matter, anyway?

I've had people comment because dh doesn't wear a wedding ring. The reason he doesn't is because he's a chef and about three months after we married he caught it in a mincer and nearly degloved his finger. He got that one cut off.

Than about a year later he wanted another before going to Afghan and that one got cut off as well because he cut his finger with a knife and the wound and heat caused his finger to swell..

He carries both of them in his wallet. He wants another but I've said no because this time I think he will probably end up losing a finger.

I'm really not that bothered about it I don;t feel he is any less committed to me if he's not wearing a ring.

It's an American import, wedding rings for men.