To expect DP to wear a wedding ring all the time once we're married?

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He says most of the men he knows only wear their wedding rings on special occasions. I say that's very weird and all if my friends DHs wear their wedding rings all the time. I'm not talking about taking it off to do washing up/ decorating/ other dirty jobs, that's completely to be expected. But to only wear it on special occasions (I think that means a meal out or whatever). Strange, no?!

Pepperoni - I think it probably just is he doesn't like wearing jewellery My DH doesn't wear a watch either.

Its not a reflection of what he feels about you or how serious he is about your marriage - its just how he feels about jewellery.

My husband never takes his wedding ring off at all.

My DH hates all jewellery, doesn't even wear a watch. But his wedding ring is very important to him and he wears it all the time.

At work, we're not allowed to wear any jewellery except wedding rings. So since I can't be arsed to take it all off and put it all back on every day, I only wear the rest of it at weekends. But I keep my wedding ring on.

Some people think it's a big deal, others don't. When you get two of the same together, great. When one feels differently to the other, it may be a problem! I doubt your DP loves you any less just because he doesn't fancy wearing a ring. Once he's got it on, he might find he likes it!

My first big argument with DH was over my engagement ring. They don't have them in his culture and he just couldn't understand why I wanted one. But obviously we got past it, he loves me even though I wanted an engagement ring, and I love him even though he didn't want to get me one!

They're just jewellery, at the end of the day.

DH lost his original wedding ring because he took it off to lift weights at the gym. Luckily we saw this coming and he only had a £40 titanium one from a high st jewellers. We replaced it but he doesn't wear it often as his job entails a lot of lifting. He chose to have a celtic knotwork ring tattooed on his ring finger so he can still be wearing it even when he's not. I felt rather touched at his level of commitment TBH! :)

Mine takes it off sometimes at home but always wears it when he goes out of the house. I would find it a bit strange if he didn't. But then in some cultures they don't seem to wear them much.

Hmmmm, mixed reactions here! I thought it was really odd but loads of you are saying your DHs don't. It seems to matter to me quite a lot.... I don't know why really.

Is it ok with him if you don't wear yours?

My dad didn't (it was too small and never got changed) he is still commmited, faithful etc.

I don't think it's a big deal. I would think if was more odd if somebody were really on and off about it with no logic behind than somebody who only wore one when they dress up.

I don't see the importance of rings, it is a bit of metal at the end of the day.

It is to me pepper too. Its a symbol to me not just jewlery.

My DH is an electrician so cant wear it for work for safety reasons. Because he works most of the time he wears it when hes dressed up as he said it feels a little alien sometimes!

A man does not need a ring to act like a married man in my eyes and unfortunatly from years of working in pubs I have seen that the ring makes no difference to some mens behaivour or the women they are cheating on there wives with either! Sorry that sounds harsh and I dont mean it to!

I must admit, as a man I also hate wearing jewelery.

Luckily I havent been married yet but quite honestly I can't stand the idea of wearing a ring.

I wont even wear a watch.

DH cant remove his due to his 40's girth expansion. I've branded him for life.

Cowboy has a point. I guess if they are going to be untrustworthy they will. Even if they go out with it then they would take it off whilst out if they wanted to.

I don't wear mine. Too small. Dh always weras his.

yep, he doesn't like wearing a watch either. Nice to know others feel the same as me, and others have DP/Hs like me also. I feel (slightly!) better!

neither dh or I wear our wedding rings, unless its a special occasion, like a night out. we know we are married and wearing am item of jewellary isnt going to stop anyone breaking their vows if thats what they want to do. I used to know a bloke who would wear his wedding ring at all times and still go home with whatever woman he could ply with enough drink and flattery.

yabu

I hate wearing one and so does dh. He loves you, he's committing to you. Dont make it an issue. In the grand mariage plan there a whole load of bigger things to deal with.

My Dad has never had a wedding ring- or his father or his FIL. They have about 143 years of marriage between them! Do you have reasons to be suspicious of his reasons for not wanting to wear one?

Cowboy, excellent point. It's not about trust though - I totally trust him. More some romantic notion of declaring our love to the world or something like that anyway.

My DH didn't want a ring, as he never wears any jewellery or watches. So he didn't get one. I did.

I stopped wearing mine after a while as I prefer to wear costume rings, so now neither of us wears one.

Not so long ago it would have been unusual for any man to wear a wedding ring. I really wouldn't see it as a big deal.

I'd say if he wont wear a watch either then he's being honest about his reasons which is fair enough.

Had he a host of other items he wears and not then I'd be thinking he's not really wanting to get married.

My DH wears his all the time as do i. Again, for me its a symbol of our marriage. I think it would bother me as well if he did not. Have you told him how you feel? If it does really matter to you that should be enough reason for him to wear it unless he has some specific reason for not such as work conditions etc.