To expect DP to wear a wedding ring all the time once we're married?

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He says most of the men he knows only wear their wedding rings on special occasions. I say that's very weird and all if my friends DHs wear their wedding rings all the time. I'm not talking about taking it off to do washing up/ decorating/ other dirty jobs, that's completely to be expected. But to only wear it on special occasions (I think that means a meal out or whatever). Strange, no?!

Men aside, I dont wear mine more than about 30% of the time, and I have a lovely diamondy one and a nice engagement ring.

Its not because I want to go on the pull, I just, I dont know, I'm not bothered.

I know I'm married.

My DH took his off after a few weeks of married life as it kept catching on things (great car tinkerer) and nearly ripping his finger off. He keeps it in his wallet!!
We have been married for a long time and it never bothered me.

Have just asked DH. He wears no other jewellery, not even a watch. He says for him it's a symbol and he's very proud to wear it (aww) and that he wouldn't feel right without it.

I've always liked how Andrew Strauss (cricketer) wears his. He's not comfortable playing with it on his hand but he wears it on a cord around his neck so it's still visible.

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I'm so relieved by the number of people who don't wear theirs!

I have a phobia of jewellery (yep, that's right, I'm a freak) and couldn't possibly wear one. I can't even bear to type the word. It's so sad.

Luckily my DP doesn't care but that could have been an issue if he did.

Another one who doesn't wear her ring - I really don't like wearing one. My DH wears his all the time and we have had numerous -rows- discussions about me not wearing mine

DH doesn't have one.

It's a lot more sensible than some phobias. I couldn't wear mine all the time- sometimes I have to take it off just to reassure myself that it's not stuck. I always wear it outside of the house. So I can only pick up postmen and Jehovah's Witnesses.

DH wasn't keen before getting married, but now only takes it off for sport/gym.

If it matters to you, then what about a compromise of him wearing the ring for the first month, (which is long enough to get used to it), if after that he doesn't want to wear his wedding ring every day, then you'll be ok with him not wearing except for special ocassions. I would, however, would declare every night out is a ring wearing ocassion, not just the ones you are attend.

not really.is aint about baubles or rings.or are you being possessive and want him marked obviously married

Mine doesn't, he doesn't like wearing any jewellery and it doesn't bother me one bit. YABU

You know what, my husband has never queried it.

I just looked over to see if he is wearing his, he is. Bless.

Its nice of him.

I would like to be buried in it, hopefully that counts for something...

Thanks everyone. Very nice to see this is almost 50/50! Also lovely to see how much love you all have for your DHs (awwww).

Samay, I'm so glad to hear you say that!! I mostly try to keep it secret but yes, it makes my skin crawl just thinking about it. My brother is the same. Keyrings also bother me.

Is it the metal FreeRangeEggs or is it as bad if it's cord or plastic?

I think it would be more worrying if your DH liked wearing jewellery generally, but not a wedding ring. The fact that he doesn't like any jewellery is reassuring.

My dad hasn't worn his for years. He took it off because it was wearing thin due to his work and then he got arthritis and couldn't get it back on even if he wanted to, and he is a totally committed, loving husband.

For some people the ring is highly symbolic, but for others it really is just a piece of metal. if your husband it of the latter type then don't read anything signficant into his reluctance to wear a ring all the time.

In the end, the wearing of a ring makes no difference to the kind of husband he will be. There are plenty of lying, cheating shits who wear rings and plenty of amazing husbands who don't.

If not a wedding ring then how about a Prince Albert? You could offer him the choice!

I always said I'd wear one if he did... He wears it all the time.

Try switching it round and say you'll do the same with yours and see what the reaction is!

DrSeuss :)

Sorry I'm going to go entirely against the flow here. I spent my 20s in a very male-dominated industry and had 15 or so colleagues who didnt wear a wedding ring. Now some men can be slimy regardless but I'd be watchful of a man who didn't wear a wedding ring without a good reason (ie he's a manual worker or whatever). Which of course says more about my suspicious mind than anyone on this thread's dh or df.

yabu
dh (married for over 20 years) takes his off, and I take mine off, as they get lost you know

wedding ring doesn't determine man character or moral fibre.and no amount if cod psychology about ring wearing will be credible