To expect DP to wear a wedding ring all the time once we're married?

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He says most of the men he knows only wear their wedding rings on special occasions. I say that's very weird and all if my friends DHs wear their wedding rings all the time. I'm not talking about taking it off to do washing up/ decorating/ other dirty jobs, that's completely to be expected. But to only wear it on special occasions (I think that means a meal out or whatever). Strange, no?!

If a man was demanding a woman wear a ring would it go down so well?

^The massive weight of Uncles wedding band
Rests heavily upon Aunt Jennifer's hand...^

Stupid italics.

Aunt Jennifer's tigers prance across a screen,
Bright topaz denizens of a world of green.
They do not fear the men beneath the tree;
They pace in sleek chivalric certainty.

Aunt Jennifer's finger fluttering through her wool
Find even the ivory needle hard to pull.
The massive weight of Uncle's wedding band
Sits heavily upon Aunt Jennifer's hand.

When Aunt is dead, her terrified hands will lie
Still ringed with ordeals she was mastered by.
The tigers in the panel that she made
Will go on prancing, proud and unafraid.

I looked down at my hand today and realised I wasn't wearing my rings - obv took them off a few days to do some chore or other and didn't put them back on. Also don't wear them if they don't match other jewellery I want to wear - bit traditional for me. And I've been married nearly 23 years. Certainly not a big deal in our house.

Yabu

Rings on men are hideous.

DH doesn't have a ring, so doesn't wear one.

I have a lovely ring, but only wear it when I'm going somewhere special. I just don't like wearing rings, they irritate me.

We've been together for fifteen years and married for ten, I don't think the lack of rings has done us any harm! :)

Narky: mine is similar to samay in that I have dirt issues with things that are small/close to the skin (which is ironic as I'm a skanky bitch the rest of the time).

But I'm okay with things that are wood/plastic etc (although they have to be without clasps). It's the metal. Even big metal things are okay, as long as they're smooth and not bitty IYKWIM. I don't like cutlery with designs on. The chain in the bath makes me feel nauseous. I think it's dangly things more than anything that get me.

I wish it wasn't the case, but hey ho. Most people don't notice.

My husband has never had a ring. Says he never wanted one because of the risk of injury at work.

Never botherd me until I found out he had been searching the net for random stranger sex.

Get him to have a tattoo on his forehead instead.

And make sure he has no access to the internet, other women, newspapers, dry land etc.

It might tempt him.

My DH wears his all the time but my Dad doesn't wear one at all. I think my dad is more unusual as men "of his age" would be more traditional surely?

Not necessarily Jules. In those days "tradition" involving handcuffs usually involved the woman!

My DH wears it most of the time, but often forgets to put it on after he has washed up. I don't the wedding ring is important, it is the commitment you make to each other that counts. My Great Uncle hasn't worn his wedding ring since his wedding night, but he and my Great Aunt have been happily married for 60 years.

Didn't used to be traditional for men to wear a ring so alot of older men don't.

Neither of my grandads had a ring. Both had manual jobs. My dad had one but my mum said he wouldn't have it put on by her in chuch - put it on after ceremony. He had an office job though.

DH's was stolen several years ago and we have never replaced it. I wear mine sometimes. Neither of us like jewellery - no engagement ring for me by choice.

Tatty - you seem to be under the impression that I am some demanding, suspicious woman. I promise I'm not, I just wanted to know if it was the norm to wear all the time or not, that's all. I trust my DP, it's not about that.

DH never takes his off, apart from when yachting. Even then he will tend to tape it down instead.

Before we got wed I told him I didn't mind if he didn't want one as not all men do, but he wanted one. It is a plain titanium one, very non flashy, he loves it.

I think if he didn't want one full stop then fine, but to have one and not wear it is different somehow.

No I'm not Pep I'm just having a laugh really. Its a good one, not one I'd considered yet one that sort of affects me becuase I dont wear mine a lot of the time.

I wonder if I'd be so "meh" about it if I wore mine but DH didn't?

My dad always wore his, every day. Lost it temporarily when gardening one day and was beside himself with worry. Was sweet because didn't actively show "love" or "sentiment" as a general rule

effects?

That is one common homophone I just can't get right.

There is a good website called google. I'm going there.

I wouldn't what DP chose to do with his ring (if we ever get round to actually getting hitched) but I have started to consider taking off my engagement ring ever since I read this:

jezebel.com/5688752/jewelry-is-a-filthy-poisonous-business

I just put "filthy ring piece" into Google and now regret it...

My dh wears his all the time, and i do too. I wouldn't have a problem if he had never worn one, but if it was suddenly to come off now, I think I'd be a bit....eh? I actually hated wearing it to start with, but it was important to dh so I persevered and now it feels normal.

They are both plain platinum bands, mine to match my engagement ring (which I v rarely wear)

TattyDevine hahaha can I get you a pearl necklace to go with that?

My DH doesn't have a wedding ring. He said he didn't want to wear one. I did try and push it at the time but he wasn't prepared to back down.

It wasn't that he didn't want to get married, just he doesn't like jewellery.

FreeRangeEggs and Samay thank you. I was being nosy curious. It's not a phobia I was aware of.

Ticket I'll have a pack of Parazone wipes to go with my Pearl Necklace please !

I'm another in the "men's rings are naff and hideous" camp.