to feel like I want to actively pursue an affiar with a married man?

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I have a collague who has been married for 10 years to a man who I have met a number of times when he has collected her from work.

At the weekend I was in a local nightclub when this man recognised me and we got chatting. Nothing happened at all, but he asked if he could give me his number and he would take me out for dinner and to see something at the cinema sometime. I took his number and want to call him and have him take me out because his wife (my colleague) is a complete and utter bitch, and also he is rather goodlooking and as I discovered on Saturday, rather fun to be around.

The reasons I feel my colleague is a bitch is as follows:

I have overheard her on numerous occasions (when she thought I wasn't around) saying very nasty things about me

She says rude things about me indirectly like joking to colleagues about something, but I know it's about me!

She is very mean about another colleague of ours and will say horrid things about her (all behind her back of course)

She throws a load of work my way (she is more senior than I am) even if she knows I have an overflowing pile, and won't delegate to anyone else on my level.

have a bit of fucking respect for yourself.

whether hes married or not is neither here nor there for you. But if you get married dont be surprised if he does the same to you

O.M.G.... Someone likes me - At bloody last, ( It's only taken me 3 years )

Oh I see (again)

YABU you are looking for a reason to shag a married man

Daftpunk, love your comments

The OP has been strangely quiet for well over 2 hours!!!

snort... the old we live separate lives and just stay together for the kids line eh?

if she's as bad as you say, they deserve each other and i'd leave well alone.

Wow it has taken me 7 years to get a post deleted by mumsnet!!

I feel honoured.

If their marriage is so dead and they are only together for the kids sake then ask her if it's ok for you to date her husband.

If they have grown so far apart then she won't mind will she?

Think that's a good idea? No, thought not.

Now I am desperately trying to remember what you posted, I havnt seen anything too bad so far?????

Wow, if the wife is a bitch what does that make you?

You sound classy... really classy..

I too have a new found (slightly twisted) respect for daftpunk

Oh and OP, I do believe you may be ever so slightly a twunt,

and very much Schadenfreude.

She'll screw you over at work and he'll screw you over out of work.

Either way, you lose. If this is real, steer well clear. No good can come of this. Why would you want a married man who approaches his wifes colleagues in nightclubs. Sleazy much?

YANBU if you want to and he wants then go for it

Judging by your other threads, if you are not a troll then I think you have serious issues and should get professional help.

I read in your other threads that you say you have Aspergers. If so you may not realise that most people consider having sex with a married man is WRONG under ANY circumstances. Also, you may have taken his BS at face value in your little heart to heart - but in case you didn't realise, all married men who are trying to fuck around behind their wives backs spin the old "my wife doesn't understand me and it is just a marriage of convenience" yarn. Please don't fall for that old chestnut. Sounds obvious to most of us, but if you genuinely do have Aspergers and are not a troll then you may just not realise.

To the OP: I can never understand women who pursue affairs with married men. Such women generally have a breathtaking sense of entitlement, a warped sense of right and wrong, and a bag of chips on each shoulder.

And given you think you're justified in sleeping with the man you posted about, I think you fit the stereotype I've just described.

'Wow it has taken me 7 years to get a post deleted by mumsnet!!

I feel honoured.'

Welcome to the club, MadameCasta :). We have much to teach you. :o

Handing out my first ever
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Or should that be ?

Ha ha ha ha ha!!!

Good one.

Are you a research assistant for The Jeremy Kyle Show?

DON'T DO IT!!!

how do you do the bear thing????

Ever heard the expression "Don't shit where you eat"? It was tailor made for your situation.

Besides, if you're looking for schadenfreude (sp?) you've already got it. Apparently her hubby wants to shag you. So when she's nasty you can think "Ha ha, your husband wants to shag me". No further action required.

Unless you actually want to improve your situation, in which case approach HR about bullying.