to feel like I want to actively pursue an affiar with a married man?

[MummikinsOopNorth]

I have a collague who has been married for 10 years to a man who I have met a number of times when he has collected her from work.

At the weekend I was in a local nightclub when this man recognised me and we got chatting. Nothing happened at all, but he asked if he could give me his number and he would take me out for dinner and to see something at the cinema sometime. I took his number and want to call him and have him take me out because his wife (my colleague) is a complete and utter bitch, and also he is rather goodlooking and as I discovered on Saturday, rather fun to be around.

The reasons I feel my colleague is a bitch is as follows:

I have overheard her on numerous occasions (when she thought I wasn't around) saying very nasty things about me

She says rude things about me indirectly like joking to colleagues about something, but I know it's about me!

She is very mean about another colleague of ours and will say horrid things about her (all behind her back of course)

She throws a load of work my way (she is more senior than I am) even if she knows I have an overflowing pile, and won't delegate to anyone else on my level.

Don't be ridiculous.

I am having problems with a work colleague too. He's a total prick.

Shall I sleep with his wife?

I don't particularly like my line manager but he is single. Not sure who I am meant to shag.

You're setting yourself up to be used by both of them. Putting aside the morals of sleeping with someone who is married for one minute, why do you want to voluntarily step into the middle of something that is potentially so explosive and damaging to you???

If your boss is a bitch is sinking to her level really the best option for you? Do you really want to give her a good reason to fire you?

Also it sounds like your main motivation is revenge rather than really fancying this guy, which is a bit of an ickky & messed up motivation to start a relationship of any kind. I take it you aren't in a relationship at the moment but are a Mum (going my your username) - do you think perhaps this married man therefore sees you as an easy target - stereotypical "loose single Mum" type & he has an inroad having met you several times before? (I'm not saying you are just that is how some men think).

Do you tend to seek out drama in your life? Do you tend to perceive people as treating you unfairly?

My colleagues are all divorced. Who the hell am I supposed to shag?

OP some of your previous threads don't add up

you said you'd met a nice young man and were thinking of sleeping with him (only a few weeks ago).

You sound a bit different to the person you have portrayed in other posts

just saying

I agree with Monkey it sounds to me like he is setting you up for a laugh with his wife.

Based on this thread and your last one about the B.O I feel very sorry for you and it sounds like you have alot of issues

BUT YOU MUST NOT PHONE THS MAN OR AGREE TO SEE HIM! You will end up very hurt and the situation at work will be alot worse.

Maybe a split personality ?

Excellent - that's your defence if you get caught.

maybe you should lock her in the cupboard at work next time you're in charge of locking up?

Monkey, does he have a pet?

Just my luck - all the people who really annoy me are married to mingers....

wow.... the bitch is the woman whose husband you are thinking of sleeping with...? Odd.

Goodness better to look for another job where you get on with your colleagues because sleeping with their husbands as a tit for tat is a bit hard to maintain in the long term.Can't you find someone single who doesn't have a life which could be destroyed?reading your post though the answer to that is obvious.You sound a bit of a joke

My dh was my boss, who on earth am I supposed to sleep with?

If you just want to inwardly smile everytime this woman annoys you, isn't enough that her husband wanted to be adulterous with you?
You don't actually have to do anything.

Your BO cannot be that bad if he wants to sleep with you. At leaset that issue has been cleared up.

Daftpunk, I am beginning to, erm, like you.

Hmmmmm. You seem sure that his wife really dislikes you. I wonder if this is some sort of wind up from his wife. Has he given you the number for a laugh and they will both fall about laughing at you when you call to arrange a date? A good chance you will be stood up I reckon.

There are plenty of decent, single men out there. Go grab one and enjoy.

You didn't come bak to the last thread Mummykins - did you find any of the advice useful?

The man is clearly a scum bag if he is married and still asking you out on a date. And you are clearly deluded if you think this woman deserves it, and for trying to justify it in your subsequent posts. YABVU.

Aaah I see

You do seem to like breaking taboos in your current job, such as having terrible BO so that your colleagues gossip about you and thinking of sleeping with your boss' husband. I suggest you find another job myself.

wow. just wow.

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