to feel like I want to actively pursue an affiar with a married man?

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I have a collague who has been married for 10 years to a man who I have met a number of times when he has collected her from work.

At the weekend I was in a local nightclub when this man recognised me and we got chatting. Nothing happened at all, but he asked if he could give me his number and he would take me out for dinner and to see something at the cinema sometime. I took his number and want to call him and have him take me out because his wife (my colleague) is a complete and utter bitch, and also he is rather goodlooking and as I discovered on Saturday, rather fun to be around.

The reasons I feel my colleague is a bitch is as follows:

I have overheard her on numerous occasions (when she thought I wasn't around) saying very nasty things about me

She says rude things about me indirectly like joking to colleagues about something, but I know it's about me!

She is very mean about another colleague of ours and will say horrid things about her (all behind her back of course)

She throws a load of work my way (she is more senior than I am) even if she knows I have an overflowing pile, and won't delegate to anyone else on my level.

X post, flisspaps

I dont think you can ever justify an affair no matter what the circumstances are

Daftpunk, that is crap advise and of course he won't keep it to himself.

And OP will make herself no better than any other woman on here who says she wants to/is/has slept with a married man.

He's married, with children and still lives in the marital home, he's not available.

he is married, leave well alone

You want to sleep with someone elses husband because you have heard the wife bitching about you.
If this is your normal way of thinking/behaving then I think she may just be justified in the things she says.

Yes, but God is very forgiving, Riven :o.

I thought daftpunk was joking.

Nope - not crap advice.

He wants her - she wants him.

Explosive fantastic sex.

Then walk away.

I've heard of better ways of resolving work issues.

It's not what I'd do ... but I think it's what will happen in this situation ( if it's real ) so just get it over with.

This thread of yours, along with the current one, makes it seem as if you are spending a lot of time dwelling on problems with work colleagues lately. I think you had another thread about being fed up with work people too, right? I didn't read that one though. I just saw the title now, when I did a quick search to find the body odour one.

I am not suggesting you are a troll btw, just that there is apparently loads more going on here than you are revealing to posters on this thread.

I think you need to try and spend less time being resentful of your work colleagues, more time looking after your own needs in non-destructive ways. This thread indicates a state of mind that kind of verges on irrational -- an affair because someone is a bitch to you?

I bet his wife doesn't understand him and they don't even sleep together yadda yadda yadda

my matron is making me work nights over Christmas. Shall I suck her husbands nob?

I think you should focus on tackle your overflowing pile before you tackle her marriage.

Wouldn't it be funny if he was doing this as a joke to set you up, and she was in on the whole thing. Oh how they would laugh.

But if not, her saying "horrid things" is a GREAT reason to break up a marriage! For all you say about her, you sounds pretty horrid too.

also it will be you picking up the pieces of the affair, perhaps losing your job how are you going to support your children then.

if you do get into a relationship, could you trust him knowing he will cheat

I know, it's wrong and i'm stupid to even think about it, but it's so tempting and then the next time I can hear her bitching about me with some other bitch from my office, I can think 'ha ha ha, I slept with your husband' and she will never know any different. I know it's so immature but I don't know what else I can do to feel better about my unhappiness in my workplace with her being so nasty to me all the time (she is the worst out of them all)

If you smell offensive, why is he interested?
I think:

A, You are a troll, or are making this up.

B, You are making this up or you are a troll

C, You need help.

Maybe the odour they can smell is your morals because they sound like an alley cats!

You seem pretty set on going ahead, so why bother getting opinions on here?

Pretend you are a grown up for a minute and deal with the bullying issues (if there are any) at work. She must have a supervisor. Are you in a union?

Cant you just spit into her tea like normal people??

I think you should

a) post about this work bullying you are on the receiving end of in Employment issues.
b) write a log of all the instances where she is nasty and make comments about or to you
c) when you have enough "evidence" from your log book, bring it up with the human resources department of your workplace.

and
d) approach your GP about BO asap.

Do NOT shag her husband just because she is nasty, it will not solve any problems, it will probably create more problems.

Maybe she's being a bitch because she's at the end of her tether as she suspects that her husband has or is trying to cheat on her>

By the way, if he's planning to cheat with you, he's done it before. Don't come on here crying when you've caught an STD.