To be upset that DP gave me his mother's engagement ring?

[KatieQueen2B]

DP and I have been together for several years. We've talked about marriage but we had to wait until he was settled etc. Then finally last month he proposed while we were on holiday.

I was of course very excited and had been looking forward to choosing a ring with him. But now he has given me his mother's ring saying that he wants me to have that instead.

I am upset because while it's a lovely ring it's not what I would have chosen myself, and given I only plan to do this once this is the only opportunity for me to pick a ring that I would have wanted.

Dp is very well off and there is lots of wealth in the family, so it's not as if we can't afford for me to have a ring of my own.

so ibu?

Do you think the ring fitted Kate or had to be made to fit????????

I expect he tried the ring on all sorts of Ugly girs's fingers, and when he found the one it fitted he knew he'd found his true love.

It's what they do in those sorts of circles.

Let that read: Ugly girls' fingers please

Oh did you get to try it on then Balloonslayer?

No I got locked in the cupboard by my stepsisters.

I can't bear for this to slip onto page two.

I think it's romantic to have a family heirloom, and its lovely that he proposed with a ring. Maybe just tell him that it isn't "you" and please can you choose your own one?

It is worth £250,000 and is iconic, If you don't want it I will have it off you, Ebay here I come

so who is paying for the wedding?

Such a funny thread....

Its a big repsonsiblity for Kate, though, don't you think? What if when she's peeling the potatoes it falls down the garbage disposal? Could happen....

very amusing!

gah kate no likely to be peeling tatties,she'll have a wee man for that

I think you should just accept the ring now - people will only gossip if you change it now.

But it's time to get firm - ignore all pleas to have Elton John for the first dance. Its you day too, although Mil might be a slight presence on the day.

Did anyone else find that when they got pregnant, their engagement ring no longer fit? Especially when it was a family heirloom and they had it sized down really small so as not to lose it. Swelling and stuff. And then of course there's the consideration that quite large rings might scratch the baby afterwards. All the more reason to put in the safe as soon as that test come back positive to be saved for the odd post natal airing (if you can ever get it to fit again).

Sure Wills will totally see the logic.

You are all incredibly shallow and small-minded. He clearly has the money to purchase any ring you would like, yet he has still given you his mothers ring - the sentimental value is higher than any ring you could ever buy. Not only is there the historical aspect of the ring, but there is only one of those rings. He cannot possibly give his mothers ring to anybody else - clearly you are very special to him.

I should think that if he discovered your posting here (clearly already you are not being open and honest with him - not off to a good start...) he would be heartbroken and thoroughly disappointed. Clearly you are a dirty gold-digger and it is dirty women like yourself (OP) that lie and cheat on their husbands and then blame 'men' in general.

I think you should probably consider whether you deserve to be with somebody like the "DP" you speak of. Marriage is so much more than just the trinkets, as the only vaguely sensible person in this thread has already stated.

old saying look at the father to see how your dp turns out

fucking hell.run,run forest

didnt prince william give away his mothers engagement ring??

id try n find out y he gave it to you - i mean it could be really important to his family that you have it and they could consider it an honnor he gave it to you. id go for the careful approach like ' i really love the fact you think im special enough to be worthy of this ring but its really not me...'

Wow does William read Mumsnet????

Oh feck I hope his Granny isn't reading this - or maybe shes already posted

AIBU to wear a bigger tiara than DIL's at her wedding?

Honeydragon
I think the Queen has been on here and in fact had a rant at LeQueen on that mother in law thread in chat the other day.

Aaaaah I lequeen gave her the biscuit, she shouldn't come out like that to win an arguement. Tch Tch

I hope ....sorry