To be upset that DP gave me his mother's engagement ring?

[KatieQueen2B]

DP and I have been together for several years. We've talked about marriage but we had to wait until he was settled etc. Then finally last month he proposed while we were on holiday.

I was of course very excited and had been looking forward to choosing a ring with him. But now he has given me his mother's ring saying that he wants me to have that instead.

I am upset because while it's a lovely ring it's not what I would have chosen myself, and given I only plan to do this once this is the only opportunity for me to pick a ring that I would have wanted.

Dp is very well off and there is lots of wealth in the family, so it's not as if we can't afford for me to have a ring of my own.

so ibu?

Congratulations.

Will it be a free bar at the wedding or will I the guests be paying for it?

Does his family have any other jewellery lying about the place that you prefer?

You'll be fine. Just don't let GPiL come near you in a white fiat in a Paris underpass...

YANBU at all. I think he should choose one especially for you. How else can he prove that you are really the one he loves? Men eh - they're so bloody lazy.

Put your foot down now love - important to let him and his family see that you are boss right from the beginning. Before you know it, they'll be taking over the wedding arrangements completely, insisting you give your children long and complicated names and boycotting sensible ideas like Chardonnay and Destiny.

don't do it km, you are not one of them! Come back to the middle class and get a nice new ring from boodles

Both dh and I said "eww" when we heard this. Unhappy marriage, miserable life - why would you want the ring that symbolises that?

Swap it for something new and hope he the world's press doesn't notice

Good luck. Wouldn't be in your shoes forn all the money in the world....

Personally I would never want to wear an engagement ring that had in all likelihood been taken off and hurled at a balding aristocratic pate with the words "You never loved me! And you are crap in bed!" ringing in the air.

Or is that just me?

Infact, never go to Paris. Ever

and watch out how you get photographed too, don't stand with the light behind you

OP I wouldnt want a ring that I didnt like very much. Im quite picky when it comes to rings and was very happy to say to my (now) DH that I will be picking my own ring before we got engaged. I tested him when we went shopping and asked him which ring he would have got me, well, he picked out something gold (I do not wear gold) and gross.

Im very happy with the ring I chose and he's happy because im happy. Good luck

well his mum never liked it and dads serial shagger

I got two word for you OP:

E-
Bay

words

FFS...

And when you do get 'knocked up' make sure it's a bot. there's a dear
I presume you've already been examined, to make sure everything's ok 'in that department'.

bot? boy

your fil is a fick ole gimmer and mil smells of wee

You weren't planning on having your wedding list at Harrods, were you?

Besides I wouldn't want a ring my future BiL was supposed to have inherited. Are you sure it was the right chap who proposed?

Get yourself a job and buy your own ring then

Jeez - ungrateful much?

Sounds like you know them well SM?

get a job and you can spring for one yourself

Get him to lob in a crown.

He might have a job lot on tiaras.

You could always insist on an engagement crown......or is that a tad too tacky?

You'd get a lot more bling for your troubles then.

I'd 'loose' the other one.

Shallishanti whatever love means

YABU. Not particularly traditional to choose your own engagement ring anyway.

Oh bloody hell. Duh.