To want the scool to come down hard on this boy.

[pinkdolly]

DD2 came home from school yesterday and told me that while the teacher had turned her back (to put on music for aerobics) a boy in her class pulled out his willy and waved it infront of the class. DD is in year 3 so she is 7, this boy is 7 or 8. Now in my opinion this boy should be dealt with harshly to bring home the message that this behavior is not acceptable. I spoke to the headteacher today who said she would inform his parents and let them have a word with him. Do you think that's enough. I was thinking at the very least a week of detentions (but then I am strict with my own children).

What would you feel is an adequate punishment for this sort of behaviour?

It's within the range of normal.

As would be a 7yo occasionally wetting the bed, or throwing a tantrum.

Not all 7 year olds still do these things, but it's not out of the range of normal if a 7 yo does do these things.

I'm not one to go off in a humph because I am told i'm in the wrong and have found most of the comments helpful and amusing.

My favourite being, the poster who suggested cutting off his willy and hanging it from the school entrance. Can just imagine the poor boys going into school.

Yes- I agree now that I have been a bit OTT, but the girls have only been in school for about 6 months, so still finding my feet in what is acceptable school behaviour. And am totally inexperienced with little boys also, so that does make me a pretty poor judge of character.

I had simply tried to think how I would feel if my ds had done that and tbh at 8 I would totally expect him to know better.

For what it's worth I never got flashed at at school but I remember a little boy put his hand right up my skirt and when I told a teacher I got sent out the room for causing a disturbance. I would hate one of my dd's to be put in that position. I was about 8 aswell actually, come to think of it.

he is only 7 he doesn't need punishment-just a gentle reminder that that is not appropriate behaviour

I´m surprised that it´s "in the range of normal" tbh.

I would have thought that by that age it was pretty obvious that it was an unacceptable thing to do.

OP-that´s awful!!

Good for you in not getting defensive and huffy OP

What boys do with their willies can be alarming if you aren't used to it. I have two (boys, not willies)

His parents will most likely be mortified to hear what happened _ I know I would be. My son showed his willy to his younger sisters and I lectured him about it and he hasn't done it since!
I hope he's never done it at school!

Of course the lad knew it was unacceptable and that is why he waited for the teacher to turn her back. He probably also guessed he would have got a laugh for doing it.

I'm guessing harmless prank where he probably does know better but decided on the attention seeking option for a few laughs. It could have even been a dare and been egged on by the other lads.

I wouldn't be over worried and by the time ( a probably) mortified mum has had a word with him that will be that done and dusted.

I think its a bit out of the 'normal' range for a year 3 boy. I've got a year 2 son and he knows that would be totally unacceptable behaviour.

But the school are probably dealing with it but just not going to share the punishment details with you.

Also think you've handled yourself very well on this thread and in light of what happened to you at school can understand why you reacted as you did.

I suppose it also depends on what sort of an example daddy sets him at home, having heard of your somewhat lively and amusing partners with their helicopters.

i just asked my 8yo ds what punishment this boy should get "at least 4 months detention".

Can´t help thinking that it´s a shame that young boys think that this is a harmless prank to do for laughs.

But it does seem that male genitals are a lot more acceptable than female ones.

Oh please do grow up. Poor lad is either an uninhibited soul or now being given appropriate boundaries at home. Love and care I'd say rather than punishment.

I agree with Jamie and think you've been really cool about it OP, testing the waters to see what perspective is the general norm is what MN is best at and you've taken it really well

girls in my school got thiers out as much as the boys, there always a couple of flashers in most years, attention seekers.

in year 7 2 boys used to try to wank under the table in english whilst us girls peeked under the table.

I agree with you OP - I would not have expected either of my boys to do this at that age (and they never did). I would have told them off massively if they had. But it's silly attention seeking, not serious naughtiness. Like a loud fart or burp.