To want the scool to come down hard on this boy.

[pinkdolly]

DD2 came home from school yesterday and told me that while the teacher had turned her back (to put on music for aerobics) a boy in her class pulled out his willy and waved it infront of the class. DD is in year 3 so she is 7, this boy is 7 or 8. Now in my opinion this boy should be dealt with harshly to bring home the message that this behavior is not acceptable. I spoke to the headteacher today who said she would inform his parents and let them have a word with him. Do you think that's enough. I was thinking at the very least a week of detentions (but then I am strict with my own children).

What would you feel is an adequate punishment for this sort of behaviour?

Suncottage - I'm sure he won't mind. Probably do his confidence the world of good.

Pinkdolly I know you have replied but I'd like to add that it I think it was just a daft attention seeking prank from the lad. A word from parents and it will be all sorted.

Anything to do with bums, willies and poo are a constant source of hilarity to males (even the ones I work with, never mind my two boys!!)

Boy at my primary school dropped his pants and did a poo in the playground. The toilets were revolting so I don't blame him really.

Boys are always showing off their willys. Seems to happen a lot when they are with a rugby club and had a few pints.

I don't think punishment is appropriate - guidance better. Don't want to make his willy an issue.

My 9 year old DS1 would know not to do it but my 6 year old DS2 still thinks strumming his to Lego Rock Band is funny so somewhere in between I think........oh and he does get told it's inappropraite but the laughs he gets overrides any embarrassment I guess.

It's not OK for a child to get his willy out for display in school, but no one is saying that it is. What is being discussed is the severity of the consequences.
Stern telling off and talking to parent seems right to me. That will stop a repeat performance in the majority of Y3 boys.

I'm 31 and I still think willies are funny.

(Sorry, not very helpful. pottonista < childish )

Willies are hysterical, but in the privacy of your own home.

YABU

For goodness sake.

"..if there is one saying which should be banned it's BOYS WILL BE BOYS!"

Yes, I think that´s it.

And it´s OK because they never grow out of it & as grown men are still always "playing about" with it.

My husband has never sat with his hands down his trousers or scratching himself or just checking that it´s still there & tbh I´d think him disgusting if he did.

Girls seem to be taught pretty young that certain things aren´t acceptable-why aren´t boys?

Goblin....I think what is being discussed is that "It's a boy thing" and "Boys all do this...they think willies are funny" rather than what's appropriate in terms of punishment or otherwise.

It is very ineresting to me that the thread denigrated into silly jokes really fast...as if nobody was happy talking about it.

That's it diddl....why are girls taught more strongly to keep their genitals etc hidden but it's somehow ok for a year three male child to get it out?

I mean in year three the kids are 8...many kids reach puberty at 9!

Agreed that my comment of boys will be boys is somewhat irritating. What I really meant is that willy facination is pretty typical of boys (yes and men). I believe that a lot of the time it is for hilarity and attention rather than sexual deviation. Yes, if my DD had got her privates out I would have expected her to have been treated the same, with a serious talk from me. I don't see it necessarily as worse, but as people have pointed out somewhat more difficult. Think a moon probably more likely as a quick prank whilst teacher has back turned.

Still, you do want your children to have learnt or soon after that age that they are funny, but in private...

Sixpercent

Wow he was incredible - the take off and landing was just jaw dropping - Audrey had one of 'her turns'.

I am returning him to you with a large fruit cake in way of thanks.

Diddl ... The hand down trousers reminds me of something.

A lot of the teenage lads I work with do this and I honestly think it is a habit. For a long time I was uncomfortable with it. Then one day I was on the minibus and a lad had his hand down his kex so I said ' you alright' he said ' yeah why?' So I said ' y'know with you gropping down your kex there, I thought something was up' He soon stopped and now I say that quite a bit to lads. It's bloody embarassing but once challenged they stop pretty quick.

I vary what I say now, sometimes I may say 'have you found them now, you've been looking long enough' or 'Are you balls itching bad or what?'

Perhaps if it didn´t seem so excusable when done by a male they might as adults realise that not everyone finds their dick as constantly fascinating as they do & be able to leave it alone!

Flaming

I think its a fact though that there is FAR more leniancy shown to boys in this kind of situation...I can well imagine hw people on here might react if I posted about "My year 3 daughter flashed her vagina"

They would not all start making jokes that's for sure.

Perhaps not at the scale of your horror OP, but I was a little bit when DD1 used to come home saying XXXX had whipped his out in class/pe lessons/playground, but I saw the funny side of it and that it's normal for some little lads.

I just told DD to tell him to put it away and 'I don't want to see that thank you', I didn't tell her to, but she probably flicked her hair and flounced off for good measure

This lad in particular used to be a bit of a monkey, but he's really lovely now and keeps it to himself

I think the head should have a word with the parents in front of the boy just to make him blush.

Normal. Not desirable, but very normal.

I think that would only work if you could guarantee they won't just laugh and reinforce the behaviour.

when i was primary school there were a few girls in my class who would regularly do the can can on a wet lunch time whilst waving the knickers about. As far as i know nothing was ever said to them about this but i don't remember them carrying on. It was just in the one year - and thinking back it would have been year 3 (7/8 years old)

Is it normal though Colditz? If it were then surely ALL the boys would be getting them out at school...regularly....and all the girls. THey're not though are they?

My Ds1 will sit watching the TV in his PJ's absent mindedly scratching away and if I see him I will say 'hands off rude pants' or something similar so as to not make a big deal but also for him to know that you don't fiddle with it in public, I don't have girls yet so I don't know how the other side works (I am 35 weeks pregnant with a girl)but it's quite harmless.

Bannana it's not the same as whipping it out in class...most kids do that at home regardless of their sex.