to think this isn't 'pervy'

[Utterboobup]

Namechaged obviously. Just in case I am BU

This morning, ds (20 months) was in bed with me as usual - he wakes at 4 am, comes in my bed and goes back to sleep for another couple of hours.

And, as usual, we started playing etc after much jumping, he performs his favourite thing and lifts up my top to blow raspberries on my tummy! Cue huge giggles from both of us :o

After repeating many times he lifts my top higher then normal and exposes on of my breasts. With that, he has a stupid grin on his face, giggles and presses my nipple with his index finger saying 'beep' (this is what he does when pressing the button at traffic lights)

We both dissolve into giggles and he repeats it 2 or 3 times before I pull my top down and tickle him. I stopped because a) he was getting rough with his excitement and b) it was too cold and said nipple was in danger of freezing off!

Now,I just recounted this mornings antics to my sister and she was horrified!

She said it was 'highly inappropriate' 'perverted' and surely going to set him up for some kind of mother complex.....

She warned me not to tell anyone else because it would seem like abuse and SS may get called

Is she right?

Am I just not seeing how wrong this was?

To me it seemed harmless fun and it's not like I intend to make this part of our morning routine and still whip my boob out when he's 5!

Agree with Onetoomanycornettos.

And I don't see why being happy to let a toddler "twiddle" your nipples makes you in any way a better parent, just as I don't see why wanting to keep your bazongas to yourself means you are "cold"

I was v. happy to have my boobs back after I stopped BF'ing personally.

YANBU

I didn't breast feed at all, DS was poorly in hospital and nil by mouth, but at almost 2yo now the other morning when he came into my bed he did press my nipple in like a button, just after he had been examining my tummy button, just innocent play, probably wondering what it was. From what i've seen of breast fed babies they are a lot more familiar with breasts as they provide their food and comfort, perfectly natural.

Of course there will be a time when it will not be acceptable but not at 2, they are still babies. Just as there is a time when it is not acceptable to be breast fed.

My friend's 5mo daughter tried to suck the father's nipple whilst on holiday, so funny.

at 20 months my dcs wers all still drinking from my breat so presing on it saying "beeeep" does sound quite tame in comparison

DreamTeamGirl - Firwala what would you do if your 2 year old 'beeped' your nipple and laughed? Slap his hand away and tell it was dirty and rude?
nipples arent private parts, and 2year olds grow up soon enough to realise what is and isnt right and appropriate -and where

I wear clothes around my 2 yr old so situation doesn't arise in the first place, if he did come in the room while im getting dressed he just goes and bounce on the bed or play with a toy? however if he did something along those lines i would not slap him (bit of an assumption) but would tell him firmly yet kindly just something along the lines of "no ds, i do not like that its not a nice thing to do" would suffice

20 months! Pervy?
Ignore your sister.

20 months - it's all inocent. Your sister is being silly.