to think this isn't 'pervy'

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Namechaged obviously. Just in case I am BU

This morning, ds (20 months) was in bed with me as usual - he wakes at 4 am, comes in my bed and goes back to sleep for another couple of hours.

And, as usual, we started playing etc after much jumping, he performs his favourite thing and lifts up my top to blow raspberries on my tummy! Cue huge giggles from both of us :o

After repeating many times he lifts my top higher then normal and exposes on of my breasts. With that, he has a stupid grin on his face, giggles and presses my nipple with his index finger saying 'beep' (this is what he does when pressing the button at traffic lights)

We both dissolve into giggles and he repeats it 2 or 3 times before I pull my top down and tickle him. I stopped because a) he was getting rough with his excitement and b) it was too cold and said nipple was in danger of freezing off!

Now,I just recounted this mornings antics to my sister and she was horrified!

She said it was 'highly inappropriate' 'perverted' and surely going to set him up for some kind of mother complex.....

She warned me not to tell anyone else because it would seem like abuse and SS may get called

Is she right?

Am I just not seeing how wrong this was?

To me it seemed harmless fun and it's not like I intend to make this part of our morning routine and still whip my boob out when he's 5!

Issues, issues, issues..

She didn't BF no - and actually, this has reminded me of her reasoning. She said that is not what they were for in her opinion!

errrr.... that is exactly what they are made for....not you and your husbands pleasure!

I did get the 'still...' comments until ds stopped too

She has 3 kids.

I feel a bit sad for them now. I can see why they aren't affectionate with her. She is a little cold :(

She sounds like so much fun. Are you going to tell her that we all think she's a lunatic?

hm, she has a very different view then about boobs.

my dd is 8 and still puts her head on mine and says , 'these are my pillows mummy'!!

Actually unruly - I think I may just do that.

But I might say it a bit more gently... :o

We will be at my mums house today - my mum will find it hilarious so I shall tell her in front of sister (who is clearly adopted or a throwback)

If she mentions it's wrong I think I'll just say it is normal innocent fun and she should have a think about why it seems so disgusting to her.

at Piratecat. Wish mine were big enough to find never mind use as a pillow.

Course it's not pervy. Lots of 20m and older toddlers are still BFing (hopefully mine included, he is 14m and funnily enough was making DH laugh by poking my nipple during a feed this morning)

FFS, it's just an example of how breasts are seen primarily as sexual objects now rather than for feeding babies.

Oh, x post as didn't read the 2nd page - tbh I was guessing she didn't bf. Tis the culture though :(

How sad for her and her children
Nipples that 'beep' when pressed are a lovely innocent joy!!

ineedsomesleep it's easy you just express yourself

YANBU.

My DC (6 and 5) get into bed with me most mornings and often jokingly press my boobs through my PJ top or whatever. I couldn't care less. It is funny, entirely innocent and they would never DREAM of doing this to anyone other than Mummy so not as if they are going to go off and start doing this to others!!!! It's a bit of a running joke to be honest. I just love the fact that they still feel able to hop in and give me a cuddle.

Your sister is a bit up herself! Sorry!

Well My DD sticks her tongue out and says "hello bubboos" when I am getting dressed, does the "beep" thing and always wants to kiss "lovely bubboos"
She is very nearly 2, still BF and clearly a lesbian

You are not unreasonable, OP and I do feel a bit sad for your sister.

At 20 months yous DS is an innocent baby, it sounds like you have a lovely fun relationship.

YANBU. Your sisters being a bit mad. youve got years of this kind of behaviour from your DC to come. More likely to give him a body complex is if you act as if his/your body's shameful in some way.

My son is 21month and is still breast feed much to annoynance of MIL who think it is shameful rather than nuturing and to Uncief/ WHO guidelines. He is an innocent and is just playing a lovely game with his adored mother.

I would point out this signals a strong loving bond !!

Good grief!!

Dh and I sleep naked and our sons (eldest nearly 17) still occasionally come in bed for a cuddle. They cuddle me across my front so their arms come into contact with my naked boob - goodnes me how disgusting what on earth would your sister say????

YANBU. Its not pervy at all.
DD is nearly five. She loves my 'punchy boobies'
if she can get to them she likes to stroke them.
She will grown out of it, -its just a comfort thing, probably to do with breasfeeding.
She doesnt do it to anyone else. or in front of anyone else.

You sister doesnt have a clue what shes talking about.

YANBU

Just hope your sister doesn't transfer her very obvious body issues onto her children :(

fortyplus If I'm honest, your situation is entirely different.....

How sad that your sister has made you doubt yourself and child.

A shame you have stopped feeding, you could have squirted her in the eye!

YANBU your sister is mental strange

happyslapper, how exactly??

Gawd, I'd hate somebody beeping my nipples (sensitive body part). So they'd be off limits anyway to beeping by anybody and everybody. Am impressed by those of you with nipples of steel.

In defense of 40+, In some cultures women go around topless all day, right? So their nipples probably brush up against all sorts of family members all the time and nobody thinks it's necessarily sexual.

DD was BF till she was 2.5 and once said "mummy you have nice big boobies, daddy has medium sized ones and mine are teeny tiny!"

DH was so traumatised by this comment he went on a diet and has lost over 2 stone...

Kids of that age do not think in terms of sex DD (7) still jumps into the bedroom naked, turns round, wiggles her bottom at us saying "yah yah yah, I'm naked...oh yes. I'm naked" and does a little dance in front of the full length mirror then runs off giggling. She also hurls herslef on top of DH (now the slim version) when he is in bed, he's naked, it isn't the slightest bit sexual.

I think it's sad that adults project their own crap onto innocent little kids.

Your sister has issues - and YANBU!