to get really annoyed by the bullying tone on mumsnet?

[lollypoplady]

I haven't been on here long and tbh some of the I have read have made me feel really uncomforatble. It seems all someone has to do is ask a genuine question (not even make a 'judement') about a contentious topic e.g. stay at home mum's/working mums, chavvy names, or anything to do with benefits and they are jumped on and ranted at for being ignorant judgemental & ill informed among other things. I don't like it.

It's best not to takeit personally...Ihave been told off by one user on one thread (meanly) only to be massively heled/comforted by them on another.
I think it's hormones/knowing it's a safe place to vent.

There are some amazing people on here.

I think that AIBU can help prevent people from making a total arse of themselves in RL.

I think to be comfortable here, you have to be able to stand up for yourself, and also be open to the fact that people might present you with a pov that you hadn't previously considered and not take offence easily. It can be useful to get a completely honest opinion from people who will not be afraid of hurting your feelings.

I also think that when it really matters, people here can be incredibly kind and helpful.

I started a thread once - all woe is me and the like, and the responses surprised me. They were a bit harsh on the main. And they were right! It made me think about the issue in an entirely different way.

I think if you want permanent niceness, then Netmums in the answer. Me, I like it here!

If you think there's bullying going on report to HQ, they usually deal pretty swiftly with that kind of thing.

If you're going to stick around, you might want to review the spelling of your user name as there are a lot of pedants around .

who is bettymoody?

Laura....prawwwwns.

yawn Is it time for this thread again? ::checks watch:: Thought it wasn't due for a week or two...

Psh, I haven't been here long stated my feelings on something on one thread got the piss took, had a mardy but I'm still here You need thick skin same as anywhere else. Not everyone is always going to agree with each other.

Besides where the hell else are you going to get the opportunity to be a complete cow at times and still have no one take it to heart?

This place is far safer than some other parenting sites and generally more fair too.

People will have differing opinions, it'd be boring if we thought the same but I have seen some terribly ignorant views on forums (including this one) and it surprises me as I didn't think people thought like that.

But it wouldn't stop me giving advice to anyone - education and understanding being the cure for ignorance and all that.

It's not bullying though - there's an off button to prevent that :)

It is a shame that everyone can't be a love bunny like me

lolly, you are getting plenty of support on your other thread

is that not good enough for you ?

It isn't bullying.

Self-righteous, self-important, irritable, pompous yes. Bullying, no.

AnyFucker Yep it's great thanks, but I'm talking about something else entirely. on this post I was making an observation that things can get quite nasty on here and people can get a really hard time for asking a question/saying something someone disagrees with. Perhaps it's just in the aibu threads.

aibu is quite brutal, yes

not a place for a newbie really...you have to build up to it

I've been on mn for about 3 weeks and so far found it a bit unfriendly. I think some mums are very judgemental and make quick assumptions about people. I'll still keep reading but be wary about what I write unless I'm in complete ageement with the heavies.

at heavies

happy, don't be such a wimp

no lolly. what happens is someone will post something, therefore opening it up for discussion on a PUBLIC forum.

they will get responses from people who may not agree with them. some will disagree quite strongly.

if you are very sensetive and feel you aren't capable of hearing that actually, yes you are wrong, then don't post about it her. phone a namby pamby neighbour or relative instead.

essentially, if you don't like it leave. don't come on telling people who have been here years how to post.

granny sucking eggs comes to my mind

Who are the heavies?!

im about 22 stone so i guess i qualify

i am all of them, it's like the borg, see?

I just get ignored

although i find calling somone 'ignorant' a bit daft, as there are worse things than not knowing stuff (and i have been called ignorant even on subjects i knew a fair bit about, merely because whilst in possession of the same facts, i formed a different opinion...)

but yeah. This is Mumsnet. There are cuddlier forums - this isn't one of them. especialy not AIBU.

I like a good row so this suits me fine, dont see it as bullying as such.

It's a whole new world haha!!