To think that dd's PE kit was at school YET she did PE in her underwear..?

[Shhhh]

Surley its not unreasonable to expect that if a PE kit is provided and at school that come the PE lesson it should be worn..? AND that a group of 5/6 yr old boys and girls are not running about in their knickers..?

Dd wears a swim suit to swimming - she isn't vulnerable. What a total fuss about nothing.

Please try to be polite when talking to the teacher rather than going in all guns blazing, remember you have had only one side of the story, calmly explain what your DD said happened and find out what actually happened, then simply say that your DD is not to be give a choice in future.

Would also mention that the TA is badmouthing the teacher, bet the head would find it interesting

feel and word.

And stop reading tabloids.

And don't mention that you are worried about abuse/ people looking at your DD through the window, will show you up as paranoid. Agree with FranSanDisco that she is no more vulnerable in this situation than in a public swimming pool.

There are many reasons why would hate to be a teacher - much as I admire them - and this sort of nonsense is one of them

Tbh I think the issue is more about time management and children feeling different to their peers. The OP didn't say anything to suggest that she was worried about paedophiles, but that her daughter was upset about having to do PE in her underwear.

It is not a big issue but the OP is perfectly within her rights to bring this up with the class teacher. Anything that may cause a child to be unneccessarily upset at school should be addressed.

I remember my teacher in the infants giving up 2 minutes to get changed into P.E kits (she had a stop watch) no one wanted to be the only one in their pants and we all made it in time surprising what 4/5 year olds and manage when they put their minds to it.

This sounds like bad planning to me, if there wasn't time to get changed. It wouldn't have bothered me wearing vest and knickers to do PE at this age (born show off) BUT not every child feels that way. If your daughter was obviously genuinely upset by this it was unfair for them to force her.

Masiethemorningsidecat, I totally agree. I'd be a great teacher but the parents would hate me .

Oh, just saw further on that the OP was worried about people looking in the windows. Must have missed that bit first time round. In which case, a bit of an over-reaction.

serendippy, im not actually a nasty person. I wasn't and won't go in guns a blazing. I didn't this morning and dont intend to tonight.

I just (as a mother) want to know why. Thats all.

I don't think it's fair to blame the OP for the fact that her dd was shy about doing PE in her pants. They pick this up from other kids - she probably felt fine about it initially but then someone teased her.

My 6 yo dd recently started saying that she needed to wear leggings to school so people didn't see her pants when she did cartwheels. She didn't get that attitude from home, she got it from her friends.

ffs, this is going way beyond what I expected and wanted. I just wanted options and general consensious. {sp}

Im not a paranoid mother, geez some of you really twist things. I mentioned the location of the school hall etc but guess its made some of your opninons run away.

I shall go now, i was only coming here as a concerned mother to see what others though. But some of you feel like flaming me.

I don't need that. I guess after 5 years of mn its time for me to hang up my hat.

Every one of my comments was based on what you have posted. You have had balanced replies, you asked for an opinion. You are being over sensitive and if you have been here for 5 years you should have realised that AIBU was not the place for you. Bye!

alarkaspree, in fact that just reminded me. DD went mad when she started in yr 1 as she didnt want to wear tights. Wanted long socks. I suggested socks would be cold BUT finally gave her the option (anyone give me good mum points..?) and she opted for tights. WHY..?? Because she said that others would laugh at her . There have been a few occasions when she has wanted to wear or no wear somthing because of others views.

So, I guess there is peer pressure even at 5. sadly..

serendippy I have listed to your advice and that ppst wasn't aimed at you. Quite rude really.

OK, so with the info so far, this does seem like a bit of a non-issue. She as offered a choice, she made what transpired to be the wrong one for her, she will know better next time.

I don't really think asking 5 yr olds to choose between underwear or school uniform is that big a drama, and I don't think 5 yr olds are incapable of understanding what vest and pants means. She will know for next time that if offered this choice, she doesn't want to do PE in underwear.

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Shhhh, I agree with you, its totally unnecessary for teacher to make children have the choice of underwear or school uniform when they have PE kit. Is v silly and if they're doing it because of lack of time then that needs to change. My DS is 5, quite slow at changing and I would be decidedly miffed if he ended up doing PE in underwear because of not being quick enough. They all develop at different pace (ability wise) and IMO unfair to penalise those who are slower.

You're still here! What I meant was, you asked 'AIBU?', lots of us said 'yes' and you only want to be told 'no'. I still cannot work out why people who only want to be told they are right would post in this forum!

It may not be 'fair', but then neither is it 'fair' for 29 other children to lose valuable PE time because of one dawdling child.

How many of you who are complaining about the time management issue have ever taught a class of 30 5 year olds, and got them ready for gym? Things go awry in all workplaces, despite best intentions. Accept it and move on, and if your child is upset to the point of crying then it might be worth explaining why it's not necessary to be so upset.

I didn't just ask for responses agreeing with me, I understand how mn works but a few of you have got quite personal saying i should be ashamed blah de dah.

There is no need for some of the comments. Aren't we all mums togther, advising and helping each other..? Quite intimidating and bullying imo.

I don't get it - she was given a choice. She had her PE kit. She had enough time to get undressed.

Maybe they gave a choice for those who did not have PE kit?
Speak to the teacher to find out and help dd to build her confidence to not go before she's ready.

I totally understand that some children feel uncomfortable in underwear. Nothing to do with upbringing. From the age of 3 I was very uncomfortable wearing short skirts and dresses to a great disappointment of my mum who tried to encourage me. So no, you have not let her down - if she's not happy with that, she should not do it.

Tell your dd Cheryl Cols sings on stage with her dress tucked in her pants and she's a big girl. Seriously, as a mother you need to reassure her that it's not a big deal and move on. As others have said given the choice again she'll choose differently.

That is weird. ANd surely it is too cold for it now anyway?

I don't think they are outside - running about in a heated gym, they'll heat up in no time.

In future, I'm sure your DD will make a different choice, but I really would suggest (gently, and in a supportive way!) that you help her to overcome the extent to which she became so upset. I second the Cheryl Cole analogy