to want to put my 14 week old into his own room?

[Heathcliffscathy]

such such a bad idea putting it into this topic but hey, i'm a fly by the seat of your pants type girl...

He is sleeping pretty much through: bad night wakes for feed between 4am and 6am. good night does 7 til 7. hasn't been gina'd. i just feed him as much as he wants during day and try to shush him if i can at night (never let him freak out, feed him if he really wants it). he is very big for his age: 16lb and counting at nearly 14 weeks.

I'm thinking if he carries on this sleeping through thing (under no illusions that i'm out of the woods yet in this respect) I'd like to move him across the landing to his own room. but sids advice says no now.

he naps in his room for up to 3 hours at lunchtime. what is the difference?

so am i being unreasonable?

Well aren't you meant to lower the risk of SIDS if they share your room till' 6 months? That's what I thought...hang on...link...

www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/HavingABaby/AfterTheBirth/DG_4002876

Here...

errr. yes am aware of the advice. hence post!

apparently it's to do wit you being able to hear them in your sleep...if they're near you then you are more likely to realise a breathing issue. Stats.

Errr...well then YABVU! If you know it's a risk then WHY do it?

because i want to know what the actual risk is for this.

because sids advice changes all the time.

because i want to know if the size of my baby is relevant.

or maybe i'm just a callous babykiller eh?

Oh dont be silly Sophable...you asked! Personally I go with the advice..that's not new advice and nor has it changed since I had my first DD 6 years ago.

It's common sense! My DD was huge but I never considered moving her to her own room...she could tturn early too...but they apparently sleep better nearby anyway.

It's a teeny risk, statistically, but is it worth it? Is there a reason you want him out of your room? We moved DD into her own room at about 5 months because she was too big for her moses basket. at 7 till 7 btw, DD is 8mo now and still doesn't sleep that long.

i moved my 12 week old ds1 into his own room. we all slept much better. the advice was different 7 years ago.

P.S. and off topic, was your Pretty Woman quote intentional?

no it wasn't, but i cannot flick past it so maybe it has entered my consciousness to the extent that i now quote it without even knowing!

Soph

Stop it, your post of 23.22 is over the top.

What is the problem with him staying in your room.????

DS took forever to arrive be properly conceived I kept him in our room possibly for far too long. But then I balanced that with the fact that he was my first and last.

I think its the other way around, the baby can hear you and that helps regulate their breathing.

Soph, I think (and please correct me anyone if I'm wrong) it's not about how big they are, more that's a reflex that babies have until about 6mo...that them hearing you breathe helps them to 'remember' to do so, over a long period of time, such as night sleep.

Of course, DS will more than likely be fine :) I would just stick with the current guidelines tbh, unless DS was a vair light sleeper whi woke up with every time you turned in bed :)

I would put the baby in their own room, personally

I could never sleep with them in my room, and was much pleasanter and better able to cope during the day once I got some sleep. You have to balance risk, IMO.

well i have done it with both of mine @ slightly younger than that so no i dont think you are BU, you can keep both your room doors open then if the room is next to yours it is not exactly that different than having him in with you really is it

so should i be breathing with him in his room during a 3 hour nap? at lunchtime? enough time for several sleep cycles...

and at the beginning of the night from 7pm until 1.30am sometimes? when i am downstairs and he is upstairs in our room?

this is what i don't get.

You haven't given any reason as to why you want to put him into his own room.
Which makes me think you're just being antagonistic.

i know we would sleep better as I wake him and vice versa (he is noisy in his sleep).

Up to you.

I used to go to bed in the afternoons with my baby until she was six months.

I have had, and can only have the one child.

STILL, easy come, easy go.

At the risk of coming over all u-know-ur-bubs-hun, I would say that you should do what feels right to you.

No, I understand what you mean Soph - it's all very confusing

Would be interesting to hear an experts view on those points

nice pedometer.

did you also go to bed with her? at 7pm or whatever.

Actually, that was really harsh.

But why,oh why, would you be seeking to divest yourself of the little person you carried for nine months.

He has only been on the outside for less than four months, why the urge to move him on.