to expect my wine to be drunk?

[HannahHack]

I have a very old friend (known since we were 3) and she has a long term DP who is lovely but a massive, massive snob. Particuarly about wine.
We eat at their's very often, as they prefer to cook than be cooked for (but that would be another thread).
I always bring a bottle, often two, as they are heavy drinkers and I want to contribute if they are cooking for me. However, I often bring some wine, it gets opened and poured out for me and DP. Then, my friend's DP brings out a bottle from his Wine Society case, opens it and drinks just that for the evening.
Am I being unreasonable to be offended by this? My DP is livid but says there is no point in trying to bring it up.

I wouldn't serve wine that a guest brought. I choose the wine we serve to go with the food we eat and it is chosen carefully.

For that reason I usually take one bottle of decent champagne for the hosts as a gift.

Prosecco is a genius idea, and not too expensive, either. We often bring some along to a dinner party. A little bubbly goes a long way.

I just clicked on this thread by mistake thinking it said "to expect my wife to be drunk"! Wondered where it was going, frankly . . .

Dear BTino, afraid, based on your 'guide to good wine', you couldn't possibly be classed as a wine snob.
A wanna-be wine snob, perhaps.

Rollmops be nice, she's admitted she doesn't know it all.

OP - I am surprised at your 'friend'. The attitude towards non-French wine that was around for a while is long gone. European winemakers have really had to take a leaf out of the New World book in terms of making wine which is consistently of good quality, and a lot of new practices are now employed by very traditional winemakers because they are recognised as improvements. If you go and taste in many French vineyards, you will find an Aussie or South African lurking there
So not only is he rude, he also hasn't a clue what he is talking about and very possibly couldn't tell a decent bottle from plonk in the blind tasting.

yy to Prosecco, lovely way to start an evening.

I can recommend a Lebanese Shiraz if that's any help. It's awesome.

Ooh! Please do, Halloweese! Is it Ksara or Chateau Musar? (Not quite sure why a chateau is good news in wine, but this is one, so should be popular ;). )

I love the idea of bringing a prosecco or champagne, as I also believe that the host will have matched the wined to be served with dinner, so wine brought over should be a present.

Chateau Musar. I love it. Should I try Ksara?

Rollmops - you may well be right - but give us some substance. Why?

Where would you correct BTino (apart from "New Age" LMAO)

Give us your own tips then.

Whilst listening to Dvorak's Symphony No. 9 "from the New Age World

Halloweeseg We LOVE Chateau Musar! It's our signature wine.

Oh how funny!! Think of all that time we've wasted drinking coffee!

We need an evening at Baumanns, foie GRAS brûlée and some Musar.

Synchronize diaries.

Ooh yes. Lets.

I can't drink oaky white wines, especially Chardonnay, so would avoid opening such a bottle, but would definitely serve myself/co-host the same as our guests. To do otherwise would be monstrously rude.

Me neither DP I don't know how I stomached it all through the nineties. Can't tolerate it at all now unless it's a really good chablis.

When I say 'can't stomach it', well I can, and I wouldn't be awkward enough to turn it down if it was offered by my host, but it's the last thing I'd choose.

Well maybe not last - there's always Hock.

I am how rude! On principle next time don't take wine, take something else. You should all be drinking the same stuff. Don't go next time, that would really put me off them sorry it would.

I read this thread earlier today and read title as "AIBU to expect my wife to be drunk"

I still keep reading this as "to expect my wife to be drunk"

derrr. not just me then

hatwoman PMSL

OP sorry YANBU

I know, GivesHeadlessHorseman! The stuff we used to drink was vile, too. I can only explain it as not imagining there was a choice between drinking and not drinking much!

Even so, I totally agree with you that it is "awkward" (and rude) to turn something down based on quality. What's wrong with sipping slowly while the others sink their "awful" wine, so you can wait and poison yourself with something nicer?! [hgrin]

We have somne friends who always choose wine very well and pay quite alot - so when they come, or we go there, we take pretty good stuff, and he generally doesn't open it, fo rthe reasons that Halloweeseg said.

Then again we have other friends who are happiest with £6 plonk and to buy anything fancier would not only be wasted on them, but might seem a bit pretentious if they've bought 'everyday' stuff. So we drink fairly cheapy stuff with them, and we are all quite happy.

But I agree it's very rude to keep the good stuff to yourself and serve (what you perceive to be) inferior stuff to your guests. Very odd.

Rolltops, do tell me your preferences then so I can slag them off!

Oh I do love how a discussion about wine can show people's true snobbish colours!

I remember reading years ago that the only way to defeat a wine snob was to learn how to pronounce the word "Trockenbeerenauslese" and keep dropping it into conversation.