to expect my wine to be drunk?

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I have a very old friend (known since we were 3) and she has a long term DP who is lovely but a massive, massive snob. Particuarly about wine.
We eat at their's very often, as they prefer to cook than be cooked for (but that would be another thread).
I always bring a bottle, often two, as they are heavy drinkers and I want to contribute if they are cooking for me. However, I often bring some wine, it gets opened and poured out for me and DP. Then, my friend's DP brings out a bottle from his Wine Society case, opens it and drinks just that for the evening.
Am I being unreasonable to be offended by this? My DP is livid but says there is no point in trying to bring it up.

x-post Mardy. I am intrigued now, and must go find me a bottle of this stuff.

Ha! I love a good new age! That's what happens when you type fast.

Headless, I don't claim to be a full wine snob. I know what I like and I know it's different from what other people like. I have tried new world wines and I don't like them.

I was just trying to give the OP a few pointers on buying an acceptable bottle of wine.

And as I hate white wine I wouldn't like chilled red either.

Oh I would be SO tempted to sneak one of his empty bottles of prized wine, peel off the labels and put them on a bottle of cheap plonk, just to see if he'd notice.

What's wrong with screw caps eh?

Much easier to open (and close, sometimes..), no chance of wine being corked either.

I've had some very nice wine in screw cap bottles (some from the wine society too I'm sure)

HH. Bring wine you would like to drink, something lovely, and don't let him have any.

Agree with Squitten- it's nothing to do with the wine and all about manners, of which this man has none. He sounds like a complete peen-arse.

I think, next time you are invited and asked to bring some wine, you should simply ask your friend directly why on earth she wants you to do that when they clearly so disapprove of your choices they can't even bring themselves to try it? It's almost as if they want you to bring wine for yourselves, so they can get happily pissed on their own syooperior tipple.

I'm not a wine snob (well, maybe about Lambrini ), but I like what I like and I don't care what anyone thinks either. If I take wine, I generally like to drink it, rather than drink what the hosts have in - I'm happy if they want to drink it too, but if they prefer what they have in, I'm not at all offended. Sometimes I buy cheap wine, sometimes expensive wine - depends what I can find that I like at the time. At the moment it's a Sauvignon Blanc, NZ, Satyr - very cold. Soon it will be the weather for a good red :)

However, having said that, if you kept my wine for another day and gave me something else I wouldn't be too bothered as long as it's alcohol

However, your friends DH does sound like a complete prat. Still, I'd take the wine I like to drink and let him get on with it - presumably you enjoy the rest of the evening if you eat there a lot?!

Just out of interest OP, why won't they let you cook for you?

Is your food considered inferior too?

most of the best known wine critics favour screw caps these days (against their own better judgement! )

here's the Wine socitry's website
definitely lots of under £5 goodies, so not all about promoting expensive plonk.

and I prefer new world wine, especially Chile, because it's fresher (in taste, not age!)

but I mostly buy my wine from the Co-op so I can guarantee it's vegetarian (only Co-op habitually label their own brand wines if they are)

but OP, they are soooooo rude making you drink your wine and servingtheir own to them - that's not wine snobbery, that's just plain rude.

sorry, wanted to add that The Wine Society also has wines from places like Chile, New Zealand and Australia, too.

It would be lovely if you could arrive at the next dinner with a full size picnic basket.... ceremoniously get out your wine, wine-glasses, dishes, food, desserts etc.... sit there sipping, munching and making 'ooh lovely' noises.... and if anyone raises an eyebrow just say you've taken a leaf out of their book and discovered you prefer your own food & drink to theirs. :)

It does sound a bit off, but had they chosen a particular wine to go with the food? Sometimes it does make a difference, especially if it's a very special meal.

Why don't you take something sparkly next time (Prosecco for example) and suggest you have as an aperitif? That way it doesn't matter what they are cooking.

Oh sorry, I just realised they pour your wine for you and different stuff for themselves.

In that case you are definitely NBU and he is a prat.

Mishy - that doesn't explain why they ask her to bring wine, and then make her drink her own whilst drinking their own - it defies logic!

x-post sorry!

Screw tops are bad because they are killing the trade in Portugal. Cork trees are one of the main industries in rural Portugal and now this industry, which is hundreds of years old, is dying out because of our preferences for screw tops. Cork trees are being felled and one beautiful and sustainable forests are now being demolished to make way for houses and tourism as the cork industry is no longer seen as profitable.

Look here

that is very true, BTino, I try to buy corks where possible. But wine critics say they prefer the taste.

Rude, Rude , Rude.
There are a couple in my parents circle. Not friends really but, due to a set of circumstances, get invited along. They drive everyone mad. My parents and their friends like good wine. They are all very generous and tend to bring along really good wine to dinners etc. Except this couple. They drink everone elses wine and never contribute. What they do bring they tend to keep in a cool bag under his chair and only they drink it!!! Just so rude.
Most of the good wines in Australia have gone over to screw caps. Some very expensive high end stuff.
I actually prefer 'new world' wines. They are much more reliable and not as oakey.
I find it a pain to buy wine in the UK as the really good stuff from the 'new world' isn't avaliable. Only the middle of the road and the lower end.

siilk, same with French wine. Most of the wine drunk over here is bog standard and overpriced. For 5 euros in France you can get a bloody good oak aged wine.

I know some people prefer the smoother, lighter taste of new world wine, but I like Merlots and oakiness best.

Having said that, if someone brought a bottle of shite over I would just presume they didn't drink wine often and would offer them a glass of ours to compare.

French wine always makes me sick, can only drink new world or new age!!! You've got to go to theirs without any wine at all next time and see what happens. Will he share his posh wine or get a bottle of blue nun out for you, guffaw???!!

I'm never going to live the 'new age' gaffe down now am I?

It is bloody new age though! These blooming young countries messing about with what we in Europe have been producing perfectly well for thousands of years! How very dare they.

Will be in France in a week for a hol, will stock up on lots of lovely oak aged vino then, yummy!

Oh you see I hate oak aged wine, tastes like you're drinking a table top to me.

LOL!

But I like a wine that tastes smoky and spicy, not like I'm drinking ribena.
Other wines I tend to drink too quickly as they are like pop. But a good wine is to be savoured, so it really saves me from myself!

if I could do a bigger biscuit I would. Consider this a wagon wheel

I'm avoiding the cork vs screwtop debate - a whole thread in itself