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To not feed my dc shit, just because the kid from school won't eat it?!?

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pinkclouds · 07/10/2010 21:36

ARRRGGGHH!!! I spent the day thinking what will this child eat? So I opted for mince and Potatoes (Not a vegetarian) fairly safe option I thought.
The friend wouldn't even try it, not only that he couldn't even use a knife and fork at 7 years!!
WTF. My DC are told to least try something before dismissing it.Maybe it's me.

OP posts:
StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 08/10/2010 10:28

When dh was young, he and his family stayed with some friends, and on the last day, the hostess asked dMIL what the boys' favourite meal was - and she said mince and potatoes - meaning savoury mince with plenty of onion, carrot etc in it, and good mashed potatoes.

The hostess had never made anything like this before (not even a shepherds/cottage pie) so just put raw mince in a pan with some water and boiled it until it was cooked, and served it with boiled potatoes. Apparently it was absolutely vile, and dBIL was sick in the car on the way home.

One of my favourite stand-bys with visiting children is chicken tortillas - warm tortillas, chargrilled chicken cut into strips, grated cheese, plenty of salad, and some guacamole, sour cream and mayo - all in bowls on the table so they can put in whatever they want. It's delicious, and I do it for the whole family sometimes, too.

Otherwise, burgers are a good choice - make your own with good mince and serve with some salad and wedges, in a wholemeal or 50/50 bread roll. Pizza is good - especially if you have the energy and motivation to set out lots of different toppings and let them create their own pizzas on either bought bases or home made ones.

Oven roasted chicken drumsticks, with salad and crusty bread or potato wedges is also pretty popular (and easy).

Re. celery in a vase - my mum used to put it in a jug to serve it - not that different, I suppose.

ShirleyKnot · 08/10/2010 10:28

NO.

It's just makes me so angry that people can be so pieist. Pies are our future. If someone doesn't stand up and say "Beef mince makes cottage pie not Shepherds pie" then where will we be in 15 years, eh?

In the PIE GUTTER, that's where.

CheeseandGherkins · 08/10/2010 10:30

So, how was this "mince and potatoes" dish cooked then?

MaMoTTaT · 08/10/2010 10:30

Grin SK

PadmeHum · 08/10/2010 10:35

I think the whole give them "safe" food attitude is terrible.

If we teach kids from a young age that they only need to eat "kid friendly" food, how will they ever learn to eat normal food.

I wouldn't touch a fish fingers, chicken nuggets or frozen chips with a barge pole. On this basis, I cannot imagine offering these types of food to my kids.

I am NOT, I repeat NOT a lentil weavery earth mother. I just don't get why kids can't eat what adults eat (within reason of course).

I wouldn't offer a visiting kid a Vindaloo or a Red Chicken Curry. I would offer them mince and tatties, picnic type food (cheese, french stick, cold roast chook), chicken skewers and veg or a million other meals which I would actually eat myself.

TotorosOcarina · 08/10/2010 10:37

hahaha baked bean pervert, love it.

Mince and potatoes though ... thats gross, I wouldn't eat that.

MaMoTTaT · 08/10/2010 10:38

My kids eat "safe" food and enjoy a good roast or a curry.

Nothing wrong with fish fingers or frozen chips - meals like that were my god send when just getting up in the morning was a miracle. And now I used them as quick meals when I'm not going to be back late (along with baked beans on toast and such like).

I love fish fingers dunked in mayo - mmmm,

PinkieMinx · 08/10/2010 10:41

I was asked to stay for tea by a friend when I was 4, I rsponded with 'I'm not allowed to eat tea with you cos you eat rubbish' Grin I'd overheard my parents converstaion where DM was having a pop at friend's diet of nuggets/chips/fish fingers.
I only had 'proper' food - whatever was being served at home.
Mince and potatoes wouldn't be my first choice as lots of the children I know are a bit fussy about mince, BUT it is a lovely and wholly acceptable dinner.
Am shocked a the child wouldn't try it - just bad manners.

wigglybeezer · 08/10/2010 10:41

I feel its my patriotic duty to defend mince and tatties, its a favourite tea in my house. You HAVE to use steak mince from the butcher, supermarket mince stays in those rubbery worm shapes no matter what you do IME, you have to brown the mince really well and break up all the lumps, only add onion and a bay leaf and beefstock, no carrots, also only lovely floury potatoes like Golden Wonders or Maris Pipers, serve with boiled cabbage. Quick, hot, tasty and fairly healthy if the mince is lean.
If only more Scots still ate it, much better for you than pizza and chips...
Off to make some Cock - a -Leekie soup...

FellatioNelson · 08/10/2010 10:41

Why is mince and potatoes vile? Do you lot not eat Shepherd's Pie or Moussaka? Confused

My DH loves Shepherd's pie, but won't it 'deconstructed' as mince and potatoes - even though I cook it to the same recipe, and the only difference is that it isn't baked in one dish. Strange.

FellatioNelson · 08/10/2010 10:42

won't eat it - sorry

SweetCheesus · 08/10/2010 10:43

Pinkclouds, you must come back and tell us how you made it.
Any judgement is void without a recipe!

I remember going to a friends house when I was 14.
On the menu was mince and potatoes, but the mince was cooked so it was grey, had a film of fat on the top, and looked as unappetising as it tasted.
The boiled potatoes smelt like the reptile house at the zoo, and butter wasn't allowed.
The peas on the side must have been boiled for months, as they were rock hard, wizened little lumps.
I ended up in tears, as the mother insisted I ate everything (I was fourteen) and was then furious when I ran to the loo and threw it all up after - I was so wasteful Hmm

So, if you served that, YABVVVVVU.

However, I could mince and tatoes for my dc, but the mince is lovely and tasty, as are the mashed potatoes, and the peas have only been cooked for a few minutes.

If that's what you served, then YANBU (although U to say the boy is fussy on the basis of one meal!)

ShirleyKnot · 08/10/2010 10:45
coraltoes · 08/10/2010 10:49

what am i missing here? The problem is not a 7yr old not liking mince...BUT NOT KNOWING HOW TO USE FLAMING CUTLERY?! WHAT THE FLAMING HELL IS THAT ABOUT?!?! Shock

FellatioNelson · 08/10/2010 10:50

I've just read the whole thread now - Shirley, I think I love you. Grin

But I must apologise unreservedly. Despite the fact that I am a pendant and all-round uppity type with exacting standards, my 'Shepherd's Pie' has beef in it.Blush

I blame my mother. I do know the difference, but my stupid mother didn't (she is obviously one of your Bunch Of Stupid Mothers) and she brought us up on 'Shepherd's Pie' made with beef. Shock

Sorry. I can't shake the habit. God knows, I've tried.

notso · 08/10/2010 10:56

Applauds ShirleyKnot, so few are educated in pies these days.

Pinkclouds settle this and post your recipe, method and origins of meat etc please.

ValentinCrimble · 08/10/2010 10:56

Mine has beef in it too. I'll call it
"CowboyPie" now perhaps. Or even "Cowgirl Pie" so as to be fair. Grin

notso · 08/10/2010 10:57

Also would like to know Shirleys stance on the usage of cheese in or on mash.

WhatTheJeff · 08/10/2010 10:58

Cheese on the mash makes it a Cumberland Pie.

FellatioNelson · 08/10/2010 11:01

Shirl we used to have 'savoury mince' and mash as well! These days a poncey chef would definitely rebrand it as deconstructed SP or CP.

And I agree - baked beans are a very pervy and suspect addtion, and will chang ethe texture of the gravy completely - it should only EVER include frozen peas, carrot and onion. Not even a pepper is acceptable - too exotic.

I don't hold with people adding random vegetables to spag bol either.Angry

OrmRenewed · 08/10/2010 11:02

Don't Jamie Oliver other people's kids! It's my mantra these days. And no. I appreciate that mince and spuds isn't exactly Jamie Oliver but to many children it will seem weird and exotic. Go for the lowest common denominator every time. Don't forget they are there to play with your child - the food is simply something they have to do that interrupts play.

notso · 08/10/2010 11:02

What if the mince in thta pie is Lamb though WTJ, is it still Cumberland Pie?

DarciesmumandTTC2 · 08/10/2010 11:03

my DD aged 5 would eat mince and potatoes if it was put in front of her, its one of her favourite meals, along with some veg.

However, I usually check with parents if DD has friends over for tea what they will and will not eat and make a decision from there.

OrmRenewed · 08/10/2010 11:03

I love mince and potatoes! I cook it in a slow cooker with onions, carrots, whole new potatoes and stock.

hmc · 08/10/2010 11:04

I think it is really feeble to concern oneself with other families eating habits.

My dc eat pretty much anything at home but I don't expect their friends to do likewise. I generally ask their mothers what they prefer to eat and very often resort to margherita pizza / fish fingers and chicken dippers since these seem to have near universal appeal. None of those options are 'junk' and are fine occasionally as part of a balanced diet.

Just because my dc chow down on 'chaing mai thai mince' and devour 'mexican chicken' doesn't mean I expect everyone else to.