I´m stressing because my long distance boyfriend has been asking me to move myself and my DS 200 miles from all our friends and family to live with him for months. He can´t move here because we are in the sticks and he is studying for a career in aircraft maintainance. 
I miss him lots as I can't afford to visit him often, and he can't afford to come to see me.
Problem #1, we (DS and I) are in social housing and looking for an exchange is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Can not afford private rents and am terrified of losing my place on social housing as have been homeless with DS in past.
Problem #2, I am scared to leave my stable (though low paid) fulltime permanent job as a secondary TA and be thrust into the instability and frustration of job hunting in the current economic climate.
Problem #3, although my DS really likes Boyfriend, he doesn't want to leave everything he knows. I feel guilty about dragging him away, and guilty about leaving my DPs, who love their only GS and help a lot.
Problem #4, money (root of all evil imo)! I am poor. Boyfriend is even poorer. Scared about financial implications as boyfriend has NO idea about the cost of having kids. He has also accused me of being a spendthrift because I pay for DS to go to Tae Kwon Do, Rugby, swimming and football (however, I usually spend less than £300 a year on clothes for myself).
Problem #5, Boyfriend is on a student visa, which means a)he is unable to work more than 20h/w, so we have the double whammy of not much money coming in, while he is having to pay international fees on studies, b)he might be kicked out of the UK at the end of his studies.
Problem #5, scared about the whole step family thing, can see possible friction in future re; my relaxed european parenting vs his culture's way of bringing up kids, plus I am disorganised, untidy and a mediocre cook, while he is tidy and neat and likes cooking. I feel the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and I don't live up to this.
Problem #6, I am getting broody, he is getting even broodier, and we are both as a result taking risks that we really probably aren't in a good position to deal with right now. 
I don't want to go on to the pill, because I want to begin TTC conceive ASAP after we ARE in a position to, and don't want to mess up my fertility for 6 months or more after stopping. He won't use condoms. It's no use asking, and I hate them too anyway. At least as we hardly ever see each other the risks are lower and nothing has happened so far.
AIBU?