And I really do think that Sassy has probably lost her daughter 
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And maybe she was a horrendous old Internet cow, with lots of unresolved anger, and now she has a whole world of anger to contend with that will never go away.
I suppose what I said much earlier in the thread holds true: nothing you do, for better or for worse, can cause you to lose a child in this way or protect you from it. So bad things happen to good people, but also to people who were less-than-goodl to people who had never known an ounce of trouble in all their live long days and to people who have already suffered more than their fair share; to people with calm, Zen-like personalities and those who are prone to bitterness.
It's just such a shame for everyone. Such a shame. Because Sassy's grief does ring true, and her anger.. and I can imagine that she may have been an angry person before. I guess when something like this happens, it happens to the person you are, with all your baggage (and past trolling identities etc).
I think people can confer a sort of saintliness on the bereaved (or parents of children with special needs) that is neither warranted nor, in most cases from what I've read, welcome. There's open membership to this awful nightmarish club, and everyone you love and everyone you hate might one day join it.
It doesn't make what Sassy has written any less true. I am less and less inclined to believe that the story is fake: I just think that she was an angry lady about silly, trivial things and now she is an angry lady about the most profound of losses imaginable.
I hope all the mums from bereavement are doing okay tonight. This must have been bloody exhausting.