to take out my dc who has the pox?

[sleeplessinseatle]

Obviously not to playgroups etc, but I've got a baby at home and don't think I can cope otherwise. Is there anywhere we can safely go where there won't be lots of kids/pregnant women?

Before you know it MNHQ will delete this entire thread and hope that it goes away.

Wow I am shocked by the arrogance and damn right nastiness of some of these posts. To the ladies who lost their children, I am truly sorry. I am astounded that anyone would run the risk of taking their children out when they know they are infected, you can't stop what you don't know but why would you when you could?

My dd had CP and had very high temp..104-106, covered, new spots for six days. I met a woman on holiday whose child had CP on the brain and died.

There are some threads in which people should not post when it's incredibly personal and about loss. There's no argument to be had once a poster has said through CP they lost their child, what sort of person carries on being 'right'?

I have read her blogspot - I can see that they may have banned her for her title regarding Ayril, outing and name-calling the poster.

If I hadn't got so many 'friends' on the bereaved Mums thread and the multiples thread I would be running away from Mumsnet as fast as my short, fat, hairy legs would carry me.

The worst part is the total lack of information and/or evidence of MNHQ trolling idea.

"My two threads I am on daily are the bereaved mums thread and the multiple births (D'ya ever) - on the bereaved mums thread I talk about my children and other peoples children and on the multiples thread - well Im a total loon!! Think we all post in different styles on different threads dont we?"

I agree shabba, I post in very different styles on the sn board and out in the maelstrom that is the main forum. So to select that as a criteria for accusations to be proved is daft in the extreme.

I think the internet can be really fucking scary and sometimes it's easy to forget it. On another forum I'm on, a long-term poster who said she was a midwife and advised lots of posters about health matters as well as giving information about her own ttc struggles appears to have been a troll. She has literally been posting for years.. and often giving false, dangerous medical information .

Obviously not suggesting Sassy is a troll at all, but this just reminds me of that other forum in reverse!

I agree, Pixie. This all feels so wrong - I hadn't read much of Sassy's postings before this thread, but what she said rang absolutely true for me.

I'm wondering if mnhq has not got a very experienced person in today and there's been an error of judgement made about handling this whole situation?

I find that much more likely than SS being a troll tbh.

I have come across Sassy on various threads - I disagree with the comments about her posting style changing, and I for one am as sure as I can be without having met her that she is not a troll. I note that other posters below have met her, and have a close bond with her via the bereaved parents' threads. MNHQ should come on and should explain the basis upon which she has been banned, as its not at all clear to me what the justification is.

I am blown away by how this thread has turned out!!! MNHQ what is going on, and the truth please not some polite bollocks.

It is extremely rare for mnhq to ban people afaik. I would have thought they have good reasons for it.

I reckon whoever is working at MNHQ today has 'locked the door and gone home'

If they have then they should be happy enough to come back on and provide clarity.

Christ if they don't have anything substantial to back it up with then they ought to look at who they ban as there are others than should imo be kicked off here.

If an answer isn't forthcoming I might just not bother coming back.

No its not rare to be honest - I was banned for 'daring' to answer people back who were being very nasty to me and taking great delight in doing it! OK I did swear - long and loud - but I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Hi I think it is because of her most recent blog post. It must be because of that.

"I'm wondering if mnhq has not got a very experienced person in today and there's been an error of judgement made about handling this whole situation?"

I'm pretty sure on a thread about bereaved parents and someone being banned the big girls would have been notified first.

Flooding their inboxes isn't going to make them reply quicker. They don't have to reply at all. I am pretty sure they are doing background work.

That still doesn't explain it.

This thread has made hideous reading on several levels. For those ofyou posting on here who have lost children, I am so incredibly sorry and horrified reading your stories. Shabbam I remember your thread, which has burned into my brain the need for cycle helmets, and now this one has brought home to me the seriousness of chickenpox.

In regard though for the latter stages of this thread, Sassy said she hoped another poster's children would die, she outed a poster on her blog, and in the comments on her blog she has quoted many other MNers; from this thread and others, that she's clearly been storing up for a long time.

I think those actions probably precipitated her ban and I think MNHQ had to take some action.

I hope though that the word troll was an inaccurate, quick way of referencing that. I don't think Sassy was a troll in it's true sense; I sadly believe her story and her pain, which I won't forget for a long time after reading her posts.

I'm sure that MNHQ will be along in good time to explain. There will be things happening behind the scenes at the moment; give them a chance to deal with this properly and then come back with a comprehensive answer.

That's the problem. You can be banned for all sorts of nonsense but it's not every day they shout troll.

Surely all the background stuff should have been done BEFORE banning someone and coming onto a thread tellling everyone they are a troll. So the 'evidence' should be right there in front of them. So why aren't they sharing it?